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North_of_Nod
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Thank you so much! Prayers would be very much appreciated.
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Hater_free
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Your welcome and I’m very glad to see that your more cheered up. This is what the Lord wants us as brothers & sisters to do and that is to show love and uplift each other. As I said earlier in the forum don’t ever let the evil one or anyone else distract you or hinder you from your blessings and make you feel like it’s gonna never happen. DON’T EVER give up and lose hope. That’s an order lol. Always keep God in it and trust only in Him and He will lead you in the right direction. Remember God knows everything and He knows that you wanna find that special someone and that you have that deep in your heart. Stay prayed up and keep your faith up and ask Him to lead you in the right direction. Read Joshua 1:9 that’s a verse that I read when I feel down and feel like I’m gonna give up. Keep the faith!!! :yup: :dancing:Thank you so much! Prayers would be very much appreciated.
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HAP0623
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Im almost 24 and was in a sorority and still have never had a boyfriend, and only kissed 3 guys all based on dares when I was 18 (which was stupid), and have only been on 4 dates in my entire life. I used to think, whats wrong with me? Im happy in a way because I only started going back to church a year ago last month and think I would have done something stupid if I were in a relationship back then. My theory is God has a plan for you, like with me, he made me wait because I most likely would have had a sinful relationship, whereas now I know better and know who to look for. Dont give up, I havent yet, I still pray that someday God send me someone, and I will pray for you as well. Your still young, and being innocent isnt all that bad. Its kind of like being in a very select club, be proud of it!
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North_of_Nod
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I feel better now.Your welcome and I’m very glad to see that your more cheered up. This is what the Lord wants us as brothers & sisters to do and that is to show love and uplift each other. As I said earlier in the forum don’t ever let the evil one or anyone else distract you or hinder you from your blessings and make you feel like it’s gonna never happen. DON’T EVER give up and lose hope. That’s an order lol. Always keep God in it and trust only in Him and He will lead you in the right direction. Remember God knows everything and He knows that you wanna find that special someone and that you have that deep in your heart. Stay prayed up and keep your faith up and ask Him to lead you in the right direction. Read Joshua 1:9 that’s a verse that I read when I feel down and feel like I’m gonna give up. Keep the faith!!! :yup: :dancing:
Thank you for your words of encouragement! I’ll keep trusting the Lord.
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North_of_Nod
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That’s a really cool way to think of it. I’ll keep you in my prayers as well. God is bound to hear us.Your still young, and being innocent isnt all that bad. Its kind of like being in a very select club, be proud of it!
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Podo2005
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lol… that made my day man, thanksConversely, **every girl has about 182 guys that have a crush on them **(give or take) **at any given moment of which they are *accutely ***aware, and only 7 of them are remotely close to being able to commit to a relationship, and of those 7 only **1.394 **are brave enough to start up a conversation.
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Podo2005
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Oh how I honestly wish I could meet a decent catholic girl like yourself who has a firm desire to please the Lord in all things! But alas I live in the most secular part of North America…its frustrating sometimes
I will keep you in prayer North of Nod
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Zachary
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Pinkcherrybloss
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Like you and a lot of others who have responded to this, I am in this situation as well. I just graduated from my high school and am 18 years old. I’ve never had a boyfriend, been kissed or asked out. Like you
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Pinkcherrybloss
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Like you and a lot of others who have responded to this, I am in this situation as well. I just graduated from my high school and am 18 years old. I’ve never had a boyfriend, been kissed or asked out. Like you I dont consider myself unattractive or boring in the least. But I have always thought that if people do not like me then it is their loss and if they only want me for certain “desirable” things then maybe it is better that I never had someone like that. Of course my expectations are a bit high as well.
But I know that I am a good person and in time I believe that God will help everyone out who requires love. Just keep praying and he will give us what we need in time. We have our whole life ahead of us!
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Norseman82
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If someone is trying to convince you of that then they are filling your head with garbage.
I’ve seen several posts with this general theme, and I think all of you are posting out of frustration or despair, which is not something I would base vocational discernment on.
Someone posted in another thread a link to a Mary Beth Bonacci article in which she stated that we live in an age in which we are called to marriage, but because of sin, the “pool” of potential spouses is “poisoned”. In other words, there may be “a lot of fish in the sea”, but most are not “edible” and can be downright harmful. I think that is the frustration that a lot of single serious Catholics today face.
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I am 42, never married, no kids, still technically a virgin. I have fairly cheerfully resigned myself to the fact that I will not find a commitment of romantic love with a man (or with a woman, for that manner, for I have some degree of Same-Sex Attraction – I consider myself a 4 on the Kinsey scale, if that helps anybody). I was unhappy when guys left me because I did not want to have sexual intercourse and unhappy when guys who shared my moral values left me because I do not want to have children (largely because of my own history of severe depression and my family’s history of substance abuse: I do not want to pass those tendencies down to future generations). Yet I am more content now as a single Lay Carmelite and Legion of Mary member active in my parish than I probably would have been as a good Catholic wife and mother or as a childfree, sexually active, contraceptive-using apostate.
Six years ago, I seriously realized that God may be calling me to the consecrated life, despite my health issues that keep me out of most religious communities: in the past three years, I have come to believe that God might want me to become a consecrated virgin living in the world, if my financial situation stabilizes and the next Archbishop of Los Angeles approves. But even if that is not God wants me to do, I am content because I believe that this is the life that God has willed for me. It is possible to live a good life without marrying or being a member of a religious community.
Six years ago, I seriously realized that God may be calling me to the consecrated life, despite my health issues that keep me out of most religious communities: in the past three years, I have come to believe that God might want me to become a consecrated virgin living in the world, if my financial situation stabilizes and the next Archbishop of Los Angeles approves. But even if that is not God wants me to do, I am content because I believe that this is the life that God has willed for me. It is possible to live a good life without marrying or being a member of a religious community.
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North_of_Nod
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Thank you so much, Zachary. I will keep you in my prayers as well. I am certain that you will find the one the Lord has designated for you. Don’t lose heart; there is much happiness in store for the one who trusts God. The secular world fills our heads with sensual images and messages that bombard us from every direction. Perhaps that accounts in part for the astounding number of divorces today. People have simply lost sight of the true meaning and purpose of marriage. We must continue to pray and listen to the Lord for direction. We’re never truly alone; Jesus will be with us “until the end of the age.”Oh how I honestly wish I could meet a decent catholic girl like yourself who has a firm desire to please the Lord in all things! But alas I live in the most secular part of North America…its frustrating sometimes
I will keep you in prayer North of Nod
God Bless
Zachary
God bless.
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Imma keep you in my prayers Diamantina. I’d say most definitely pray to God to lead you in the right path for His will in your life. Just remember that God did not make us to be alone. If marriage is what you want don’t get discouraged and give up. Maybe God is just testing your faith and patient endurance to believe that He has someone out there for you. Alot of times people miss out on their blessings because they give up when it doesn’t seem to happen in what they deem as a reasonable or rational amount of time. God’s time is not our time and His ways are not our ways. PUSH (Pray Until Something Happens). Be persistant in your prayers because with God all things are possible and most importantly don’t ever let anyone kill your hopes in dreams because remember that there are alot of faithless people in the world and alot of whats going on is the blind leading the blind that’s why it’s important to trust in God and not people because God is not a blind God. I’m not in any position to tell you what your calling is because I’m a man not the Lord. All I’m saying is that whatever is in your heart whether it be marriage or what have you keep your faith up in it and give it to God and He will lead you on the right path. Hope that helps. God bless you and all on here!!! :tiphat::grouphug:
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Pinkcherrybloss
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I shall keep you all in my prayers. Just be patient and God will allow us to find the one we need to be with.
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irisfromohio
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I, too, have come to believe that my abysmal record in the area of romance is perhaps a calling to the consecrated life. I have mulled over it so many times and when I do, if that is not the answer, the reason is very depressing and self-depricating
No one wants to hear someone whine about being unloved or unlovable and to think less of myself, to believe that God did in fact make a mistake is simply wrong.
I finally decided that God makes no junk and if I am to see myself the way HE**** sees me, I have no choice but to consider being His bride. That is what I have decided to do after 55 years of trying to live His will for me
No one wants to hear someone whine about being unloved or unlovable and to think less of myself, to believe that God did in fact make a mistake is simply wrong.I finally decided that God makes no junk and if I am to see myself the way HE**** sees me, I have no choice but to consider being His bride. That is what I have decided to do after 55 years of trying to live His will for me
Heh, I’m in the exact same situation, but I’m 30.
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Catholic_JIMMY
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Yes, some people are ment never to find anyone; however I have no idea if you are ment to find someone or not. Only God and you know that.
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irisfromohio
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Well, for many of us, this is a very painful fact of life to face. We have to trust in God to know what is best for us, especially when we are feeling like we would prefer to have or find the love that is talked about on TV & in movies.
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catherinette
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Conversely, **every girl has about 182 guys that have a crush on them **(give or take) **at any given moment of which they are *accutely ***aware, and only 7 of them are remotely close to being able to commit to a relationship, and of those 7 only **1.394 **are brave enough to start up a conversation.
So true… and if she happens to be wearing a cute skirt and high heels that day, it’s approximately twice that!
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Norseman82
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What makes you think that?
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