Are the people you call "friend's" people you would loan money to?

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Are the people you call friend’s people you would loan money to?

Or have helped in some tangible way?
Drive them to the doctor?
 
I don’t “Loan” money to anyone outside my immediate family (the one person in my family who has needed a loan did pay it back).
If I want to give a gift of money to someone outside the family, I do. Otherwise I don’t give it.

If someone needed an occasional favor like a ride I would try to give it to them if I could.
Emphasis on the "occasional’ because some people try to take advantage.
I’m not really super-available and I’m not going to be someone’s taxi service all the time if they are not in my immediate family. I would try to hook them up with some community service or public transport if they needed frequent rides.

The vast majority of my friends are self-sufficient unless there is some major problem, like a major physical illness, causing them to need a little help for a while.
 
Never “lend” money to a friend or a family member. If you do, quietly and privately consider it a gift. If it is paid back, wonderful, if not, which is more important, the friend/family member, or the money? Have had too much sad experience with this situation. It is a no win situation if you predicate your relationship on money.
 
I agree with the above posters: I may give to friends (and I have, both money and favors), but I wouldn’t expect to be paid back. If I notice that one person is taking advantage or at the very least does not seem interested in being generous to me or others, without some kind of limitation, I would probably cease to offer them assistance.
 
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