Obnoxious people will always find something to pick on, whether it be virginity, wearing glasses, or anything else. People like that are simply to be ignored.
It does if there is an intent expressed to marry another virgin. Still quite mystified as to how the assumption was made of Seaborgium by various commenters thus far, without any basis. I mean, if I ever marry, it will almost certainly be to someone who saved themselves for marriage (could I assume the reader has already assumed malicious intent?); it’s not to be mean or obnoxious or what have you, but just a reflection of my own disposition (perhaps even purely evil, if the reader were to make any further assumptions).
It was different, I didn’t connect it that way, I had the impression the OP shared some information about the OP’s situation separately from asking the question in the title. The question seemed to refer to whatever the OP was seeking, not whoever shared the similar lot in life.
Some of it is likely to be a rather simple denial/repression reaction rather than a weighed judgement. In fact, after some talking they might even be beginning to see your point, acknowledge you, apologise, whatever. A portion of people with bad ideas are people who haven’t talked to about the good ideas. If you develop a thicker skin and let the initial flurry bounce off you, realising that those folks might not be firmly on the opposing side and might really be on the same side, you might even get to envangelise a bunch of people and help God plant the seed for later (you never know when) even if it doesn’t seem to work right away. But people can be quite understanding if you actually talk to them.
Yeah, I think people give you a hard time about being a virgin because deep down they feel bad about having sex outside of marriage. But you’ll get nothing but kudos from me.
Sorry, what I said came out a lot more confrontational than I intended.
If “pairing off naturally” is anywhere close to how I’d see it, it’s basically hanging out without being squeezed into a predesigned structure. There’s no explicit dating, which takes off some pressure and expectations but at the same time you just have to make an active move if you’re interested or else it’ll look like you’re not. Which is kinda difficult to tackle, actually.Sorry, what I said came out a lot more confrontational than I intended.
I don’t think I understand how “pairing off naturally” works. You don’t need to explain it, though. I won’t understand the explanation, either. I don’t think social interactions are my forte.
It sounds nice, anyway.
Not that looking obvious is guarantee, they might just be good friends anyway.Strong post.
If you’re a guy, you can’t just sit and wait. Frankly, I’m tired of men falling for the advice of that “the right one will just come along”
It’s even a start just to meet women and not even worry about dating or the relationship status.If “pairing off naturally” is anywhere close to how I’d see it, it’s basically hanging out without being squeezed into a predesigned structure. There’s no explicit dating, which takes off some pressure and expectations but at the same time you just have to make an active move if you’re interested or else it’ll look like you’re not. Which is kinda difficult to tackle, actually.
I prefer this “natural” way because I don’t like the implications in the word “date” when asking out a relative stranger. This is not a moral matter but just my social sensibilities.
Pairing off also tends to imply a man and a woman out of a larger group take a natural liking to each other and begin to talk more, more exclusively and after some time they look pretty obvious.
By contrast, dating is comparatively upfront, front-loaded and laden with expectations. It’s already a strong declaration from the start, a lot of decision-making has to happen at the earliest stages, and you’re pressured to decide basing on very little information, including the (in)famous third date.
It does help to be the kind of man you think would make a good husband to the kind of woman you’d be happy to marry. You know, groom yourself, dress like married women like to see their husbands dressed, be willing to do the kinds of things that women like to do and not just the things you like, be willing to talk and listen to women without acting like they’re some kind of different species, and so on. If you’re in the Knights of Columbus, ask some of their wives for what you need to look like someone that a woman your age would be interested in getting to know better. If you want to know what the kind of woman you want likes, after all, find one and ask!If you’re a guy, you can’t just sit and wait. Frankly, I’m tired of men falling for the advice of that “the right one will just come along”
You’ve got to get out meet women and you have to communicate with them on a romantic level.
That doesn’t mean you go into the bar or pub tonight and use some crummy cliche of a pick-up line, but just getting out the door and trying seems to be half the battle for men in the West these days.
And if this is a vocational crisis, I would suggest finding a spiritual director.
This is so, so true.If you’re a guy, you can’t just sit and wait. Frankly, I’m tired of men falling for the advice of that “the right one will just come along”
You’ve got to get out meet women and you have to communicate with them on a romantic level.
That doesn’t mean you go into the bar or pub tonight and use some crummy cliche of a pick-up line, but just getting out the door and trying seems to be half the battle for men in the West these days.
And if this is a vocational crisis, I would suggest finding a spiritual director.
