Are there certain rules in a relationship about living with a Catholic man?

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I have asked several times if we could have a conversation about what it means. But he just says that he is a Catholic and that it makes no sense to talk about what it means.
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Maybe he doesn’t know what it means to be a Catholic.
To be a Catholic means to be a follower of Jesus Christ, and to follow his commandments. The most important one is to love God with all your heart, mind, and soul, and the second one is to love your neighbor as yourself. It includes following the Ten Commandments, including not having sex outside of marriage, not murdering, not robbing, honoring your father and mother.

He should not marry outside the church, what he should do is help you join the church if you are so inclined. I hope you will talk to a priest together, because he sounds very confused about what it means to be a Catholic. Either that or he is lying to you.

It makes a great deal of sense to talk about what it means to be a Catholic. It’s not rocket science. A priest would help him understand what he needs to do to act like a real Catholic.
 
He is not practicing his faith if he is sexually active prior to marriage. What happens if you get pregnant ?
In the secular world, its common to view premarital sex as the norm. Catholics are called to chastity, no premarital sex and no adultery etc. We live in the world but should not be of the world. In other words, we should be following our religion, rather than the norms of the secular world.

However premarital sex is a sin against God. Your boyfriend is leading you in sin as well. He should know better.
 
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my next question is

Are you comfortable with his demands? Do you want to have a relationship like that?
You don’t have to be Catholic to say NO to premarital sex.
 
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So you mean that it is normal that Catholic use partners they do not want marriage with?
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Take the “Catholic” out of the equation. Men & women who engage in sexual activity and cohabitate are using their partner regardless of their religious affiliation.

It is NOT normal that Catholics use partners they don’t intend to marry, at least not good faithful Catholics.

Your boyfriend may be a very nice man and treat you well, but it appears he is Catholic in name only, that he is not a faithful Catholic.
 
I am agree with that.

I think my boyfriend is a good man, with very nice qualities. He is probably a cultural Catholic. It’s like other religions. We are many baptized, but we do not practice religion.

I think he is influenced by something of the Catholic. He has very nice thoughts and treats me better than I have ever experienced before.
 
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We have sex only once a month. He does not kiss with his tongue. I do not understand much of this. I have asked him about this, but he will not answer it.
 
The person you describe is not a man of virtue. You deserve a man who honors and respects you too much to use you for sex.
 
Thank you. I agree that I deserve a man who loves me for who I am and who is willing to marry me. I fear he has sex with me without the right interest.
 
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