Are you covering your head ? (Directed to the women)

[Linda_H]

I do wear a mantilia when I am in church, for mass or any other reason. I purchased my first one many years ago at the shrine in Washington DC. I am the only woman in my parish who wears one, but so what, nobody has made any negative comments about so far, and even if they did I wouldn’t pay any attention to it. I am doing what I know is right, even if it isn’t a written requirement anymore. I have asked about that, and I was told that just because it isn’t in the books does not mean it was recinded. Like wildrose said, if I am required to cover my head for the pope, how can I do any less for my lord?
Linda H.

 

[hsmom2four]

I don’t cover my head, but I have great respect for anyone who does. I think it’s very beautiful. It reminds me of my childhood, when I longed to wear the long mantillas that my mother and older sister wore, instead of the dorky little chapel veil or worse - the pith-helmet uniform hat my grade school used.

Still, I wouldn’t want to go back to the days of having a tissue pinned to my head… Glad it’s optional.

 

[carol_marie]

Trelow:

I can’t even get my wife to but the bag on at home, let alone at church.

:bigyikes:

That wasn’t very nice. :nope:

When I read this I almost fell off my chair, I was laughing so hard!


CM

 

[maryprayforme]

Dj Roy Albert:

Believe it or not but some people still follow the teachings of Sacred Scripture. Picking & choosing is what protestants do.

I once had a very heated discussion in CCD when I was a teen (& on the verge of leaving the church) over the martyrdom of St. Peter. My ill-informed “teacher” told me that St. Peter was not crucified upside down & I insisted that he was. She almost kicked my out of class.

Do you ever wonder why some of these people want to cleve so heavily to something against Church teaching? Was she uncomfortable with the fact that one her students knew more than she did?

 

[maryprayforme]

krazykatlady:

If the urge to wear a mantilla should hit you again you can find them at halo-works.com or modestyveils.com.

Haloworks.com makes very nice veils! I have about 10 of them in my darwer and there’s always one in my glove box in my car.

 

[puzzleannie]

Dj Roy Albert:

Believe it or not but some people still follow the teachings of Sacred Scripture. Picking & choosing is what protestants do.

I once had a very heated discussion in CCD when I was a teen (& on the verge of leaving the church) over the martyrdom of St. Peter. My ill-informed “teacher” told me that St. Peter was not crucified upside down & I insisted that he was. She almost kicked my out of class.

if you adhere to every literal injunction of the NT, without the guidance of the Church Christ established to interpret and administer His commands, then of course if your eye offends you, it is immediately plucked out. where in scripture, which is your sole rule of faith so you say, is the story of Peter’s crucifixion?

 

[fellicia]

No I don’t. The reason that I don’t is because it was done for a long time because of respect. But it was also respectfull outside the church to do the saem at formal gatherings. It is not so in modern society. It would not mean anything to me and i would only be doing it because i have too. Don’t get me wrong I do respect God and I do dress smart when I go to church, I just don’t see the point in doing something old fashioned that wouldnt mean anything to me society and nor would it in church.

ps. I do respect those that choose.

 

[JaneDC]

It the Church requires it again, I would consider it a joy to comply. Because I only remember one of my relatives wearing a veil when in mourning (with the exception of getting married), I just don’t see the point.

I’ve noticed that some very pious young women in my area are wearing them to church, but I wonder if they are getting the point: one wore her veil with jeans, and another wore the veil with very high heels and a rather clingy top!

Live Jesus!

JaneDC

 

[catherinesiena]

I would really like wearing one, but since it is not required, and no one else in the parish does it, I feel that I would be drawing unneccessary attention to myself. I don’t think the point of it is to have people pay more attention to you than to the Mass, so I choose not to. But if ever was required, or even if a few others did it, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

 

[Marie]

I don’t, because I believe it is my God given assignment to give the Holier than Thou group, someone to talk about. I take my duty very seriously.

Now, whenever the Holier than Thou crowd stops playing the Sad-U-See and Fair-I-See game…I just might start wearing it again. I really do like them, but I don’t want to be mistaken for one of the snot’s, who usually wear them as one up manship.

 

[Marie]

TNT:

I have seen this statement on 2 other “veil” threads. Each time I ask, where canon law or other edict negated it.
NO ANSWER YET !.
Does someone have the source document location ?

The 1983 Canon Law omitted the requirement of the mantilla. It is not suppressed mind you. It may be fully practiced as a personal devotion by individual women.

Which mean’s…we may or may not choose to practice this particular devotion. If one chooses to wear it…that is fine and a nice devotion to pursue. Same for not wearing one.

 

[NightRider]

I always cover my head in Church, either with a mantilla or some kind of hat. I also feel called to do so out of reverence, and so I do so whether other women do so or not. No one has said anything to me about it, one way or another. I simply feel it is the right thing to do, out of respect for Our Lord.

 

[maryprayforme]

Marie:

I don’t, because I believe it is my God given assignment to give the Holier than Thou group, someone to talk about. I take my duty very seriously.

Now, whenever the Holier than Thou crowd stops playing the Sad-U-See and Fair-I-See game…I just might start wearing it again. I really do like them, but I don’t want to be mistaken for one of the snot’s, who usually wear them as one up manship.

+JMJ+

Um, why do you think that those who cover their heads in church are holier than thou? I cover my head a a means of personal devotion. If you don’t then that is fine. Personal devotions are just that - personal. I guess I am taken aback by the tone in your post. If i saw you praying the Rosary before the Blessed Sacrament, making the Way of the Cross, lighting candles at side altars, etc. etc., then I certainly wouldn’t think that you were trying to be haughty or showboatish.

 

[Marie]

+JMJ+

Um, why do you think that those who cover their heads in church are holier than thou? I cover my head a a means of personal devotion. If you don’t then that is fine. Personal devotions are just that - personal. I guess I am taken aback by the tone in your post. If i saw you praying the Rosary before the Blessed Sacrament, making the Way of the Cross, lighting candles at side altars, etc. etc., then I certainly wouldn’t think that you were trying to be haughty or showboatish.

You must have missed the smilies… Obviously some people find it nessecary to tell others they MUST do such and so. Obviously, I find it amusing…beats frowning and looking crosseyed any day. Read a bit further up, and you will see a post which states…I wear one and I think others should too.

Now that does bring out the smilies in me old Irish self. Then there is the fact,.I like to get a rise out of people who think just that way. Works every time.

Now do you feel better?

The 1983 Canon Law omitted the requirement of the mantilla. It is not suppressed mind you. It may be fully practiced as a personal devotion by individual women.

Which mean’s…we may or may not choose to practice this particular devotion. If one chooses to wear it…that is fine and a nice devotion to pursue. Same for not wearing one.

 

[maryprayforme]

Marie:

You must have missed the smilies… Obviously some people find it nessecary to tell others they MUST do such and so. Obviously, I find it amusing…beats frowning and looking crosseyed any day. Read a bit further up, and you will see a post which states…**I wear one and I think others **should too.

Now that does bring out the smilies in me old Irish self. Then there is the fact,.I like to get a rise out of people who think just that way. Works every time.

Now do you feel better?

The 1983 Canon Law omitted the requirement of the mantilla. It is not suppressed mind you. It may be fully practiced as a personal devotion by individual women.

Which mean’s…we may or may not choose to practice this particular devotion. If one chooses to wear it…that is fine and a nice devotion to pursue. Same for not wearing one.

WEll my apologies for over-reacting. The all-or-nothingness can work both ways. Please understand that not everyone feel that way. If someone is not covering their head in church, I would never dream of questioning one’s devotion or lack of devotion. Now if someone is wearing a low-rise mimi skirt with a crop top and flip flops then I might just say something. That gets me more than anything especially when accompanied with their parents.

 

[Marie]

maryprayforme:

WEll my apologies for over-reacting. The all-or-nothingness can work both ways. Please understand that not everyone feel that way. If someone is not covering their head in church, I would never dream of questioning one’s devotion or lack of devotion.

I am quite aware of both sides of the coin. Many wonderful friends of mine are, devoted mantillia wearers. They wear it with grace and a wonderful personal witness of prayer and devotion.

I also meet, and know many of those, who have a habit of making a point of the less than steller **“I” ** syndrome. They tend to use thier devotion as a battering ram and an offense, not a defense of their reason for wearing it. Humility is not in their list of personal Devotions. They work more to kill devotion than promote it…rather Sad-U-See.

Now if someone is wearing a low-rise mimi skirt with a crop top and flip flops then I might just say something. That gets me more than anything especially when accompanied with their parents.

Yes, that is a sad sight. But again…those who feel they must correct the situation, need to check themselves before proceeding to offer the advice. If offered in a loving and kind manner…it is effective and a good thing to do. BUT, if offered in the nose tilted, better than thou stance…it does more damage than good. If one can not offer direction and a reason to dress properly, with Joy…and witness to love…it is all for themselves that they step in to offer the advice. Again…they do damage to the message and to the one they are suppose to reach out to.

I have offered such advice and counsil, when I know I can have a good and positive affect in doing so. But, it must be approached carefully. A smile and a warm compliment is better to start the conversation, than “THE LOOK” , of disproval any day.

 

[cove]

This thread brings back some childhood memories.:ehh:

I can remember wearing those little doily looking lacy head coverings as a child. Sometimes when we were in a hurry my mom would forget to get out the doilies and we would be at the church door and she would realize we did not have anything covering our heads . So what does good old practicle mom do? She reaches into her pocket book, takes out Kleenex (clean ) and pins them to the top of our heads (I say “our” heads because I am one of 5 daughters). Talk about embarrassing . I still cringe when I think of it.

 

[Marie]

cove:

This thread brings back some childhood memories.:ehh:

I can remember wearing those little doily looking lacy head coverings as a child. Sometimes when we were in a hurry my mom would forget to get out the doilies and we would be at the church door and she would realize we did not have anything covering our heads . So what does good old practicle mom do? She reaches into her pocket book, takes out Kleenex (clean ) and pins them to the top of our heads (I say “our” heads because I am one of 5 daughters). Talk about embarrassing . I still cringe when I think of it.

I remember that well. To this day, I have a hard time using a Kleenex without feeling like I am desecrating a sacred object.

 

[shannin]

I would really like wearing one, but since it is not required, and no one else in the parish does it, I feel that I would be drawing unneccessary attention to myself. I don’t think the point of it is to have people pay more attention to you than to the Mass, so I choose not to. But if ever was required, or even if a few others did it, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

Well said. I don’t wear one either, simply because no other women do & I don’t want to draw attention to myself. I show my respect by dressing appropriately. I would also wear one gladly if it was required.

Blessings,
Shannin

 

[cove]

Marie:

I remember that well. To this day, I have a hard time using a Kleenex without feeling like I am desecrating a sacred object.

My mom would pinch the kleenex in the middle and shake it out a little and then bobby pin it at that little pinched point so that the effect was more like a little do-hickey on the top of my head instead of just a flat kleenex. Awww Yeah, Wonderrrrrrrfullllll. Those were the days.

I remember other kids with the kleenex on there head, too. I wonder if this might have been some kinda mandate that came down from the Vatican?