Are you happy being middle class?

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I was wondering if you and your family are happy being middle class. I guess what I was wondering, are you happy being able to pay the bills every month and to keep a roof over your head. My wife and I get by every month, have a great daughter and a nice home. But, it seems a lot of work just to stay above water, and I get jealous of others that have more. We need to save more and be more frugal, but it just seems so though these days. I just have a hard time focusing on the good. Be Blessed.
 
Ofcourse. Time was not so long ago (and still is for the majority of the world) that keeping your head above water really meant having a place to live and just enough money for your daily bread.
 
I’m lower class economically in America, but I am free to think, believe, say, and research what I like, I have food, medical, air conditioning, and resources for the pursuit of knowledge - books and internet. What more does one need, economically? I am upper class compared to the rest of the world, and even compared to America fifty years ago.

Transportation to get to church would be nice. So would a washing machine. Dental work would be nice. As would restaurant dinners. As would nicer, new clothing in better condition. I see the appeal of a house. But these are not needed, and should not be considered a constraint on happiness. Happiness is the pursuit of knowledge and of God, and of the knowledge of God, as long as the minimum necessities - sustenance, medical, air conditioning (not necessarily heating, as blankets let one escape from cold, where there is no escape from heat) and intellectual and physical freedom - are met. Or so it seems.

I know, I’m unusually well-educated for someone living on $18k a year - one doesn’t need a fifty-thousand-dollar-per-year university: just sources of information and the will to knowledge (it was good enough for Aristotle). I just don’t see the appeal in expensive clothing, expensive wine, hundred-thousand-dollar automobiles; I see some of the appeal in a basic automobile, or clothing in good condition, or a clothing washer; but these are conveniences of the first order: the human comes built with legs, and clothing that serves the purpose of clothing is indeed functional clothing, and a brick of soap and a shower washes that clothing with just a bit of effort. Anything greater is conspicuous consumption. I suppose I am lucky to have been born without the consumer mindset so prevalent, especially in persons of my own age cohort.

If one can afford the ridiculous luxuries of conspicuous consumption, like Mercedes-Benz and Prada, far too little is being donated to the poor.
 
I was wondering if you and your family are happy being middle class. I guess what I was wondering, are you happy being able to pay the bills every month and to keep a roof over your head. My wife and I get by every month, have a great daughter and a nice home. But, it seems a lot of work just to stay above water, and I get jealous of others that have more. We **need **to save more and be more frugal, but it just seems so though these days. I just have a hard time focusing on the good. Be Blessed.
I guess the other side of the coin (when you get “jealous” of others) is to focus on those who have no roof over their heads,not enought food to eat and all the things that we take for granted.
I try to reflect with gratitude to God for the wonderful level of living that He gives me.It is so easy to play the blame game and spend time in self pity(playing the victim) why not take responsibility for your life and use active verbs like "I(we) will save,I **will **focus on the good?(with the confident trust in God’s Loving help to strengthen your resolve)

I guess being middle class(a communist terminology) reminds me to share some of my hard earnt money with those who are living a life of poverty,at home and especially in third world countries.
 
AugustineFan, you are feeling the typical doldrums of ‘family’. Being on ‘The Wheel’ so to speak. Every now and then we have to ‘reset’ our priorities because our continued exposure to society in general can slowly erode our original values. Sit down with God and reset your values, goals, and priorites. Reset them to God, family, and community. Always remember what comes WITH all those big, expensive toys. Big expensive bills, headaches, and the false sense of fulfillment. Eventually, none of it is enough because its acquisition truly did not fulfill any yearning in the first place. As Augustine said, “Our hearts are restless until they find rest in Thee.”

Good luck, God bless you.
 
I was wondering if you and your family are happy being middle class. I guess what I was wondering, are you happy being able to pay the bills every month and to keep a roof over your head…
don’t know if I understand the question

I am in general happy but it does not have much to do with our financial condition, which could be better (economy has socked our retirement plan not once but 3 times and our income is about to diminish by 2/3) nor with where we live (I am glad to be doing the work I have here and like the climate, but miss my grandkids) or my job (not what I ever planned to do, but can see God’s plan working out). I am not even happy in the psychological sense, as I still have bouts of depression and battle with physical health constantly.

Happiness is an interior spiritual condition that has to do with learning true humility in my relationship with Christ and constant gratitude for his gift to me. it is not an emotional state subject to influence by the peripheral concerns of daily life. It just is. Not very good explanation after all but I have a hard time expressing what I mean.

I can say from experience that one constant I can rely on is that when I do get feeling sorry for myself the solution is always service. Find somebody to serve. Always works.
 
I would have to say yes. Of course I would like a little LESS stress about money. However, my husband and I both think we’d be awful as rich people, because the temptation to use the money in petty ways would be so great. As middle class people, we actually are more mindful of what it can do and what it means.
 
@puzzleannie: posts like the above are why you rock, IMO. Thanks for that.
 
I would say that I am happy being middle class. From what I’ve seen and read, having more money and more stuff seems to cause more problems (see the post “Wife Has Given Up”) to see what I mean.

I do agree that happiness has little to do with financial security than with your state-of-mind. So many couples that I know who I envisioned were “living the good life” are now divorced.

We’ll never be rich, but we do enjoy each other’s company and the small things we do together (visiting our local shrine comes to mind).
 
I can say from experience that one constant I can rely on is that when I do get feeling sorry for myself the solution is always service. Find somebody to serve. Always works.
Yes! And I would add to praise God in all things the good and the bad.
And give glory to God in your service.
Like when people thank you say something like: not me, but thank God.

Happiness and contentment are vastly divergent.
Happiness is transitory. Contentment is a state of being.
Strive to be content.

I love this quote from St John Vianney.
“I have had crosses in plenty - more than I could carry, almost. I set myself to ask for the love of crosses - then I was happy” .
 
I was wondering if you and your family are happy being middle class. I guess what I was wondering, are you happy being able to pay the bills every month and to keep a roof over your head. My wife and I get by every month, have a great daughter and a nice home. But, it seems a lot of work just to stay above water, and I get jealous of others that have more. We need to save more and be more frugal, but it just seems so though these days. I just have a hard time focusing on the good. Be Blessed.
I am happy being a child of God. The rest is mere details.

Having said that, I know that God has already blessed me beyond what I deserve in so far as living is concerned. I have almost never been out of a job, and was able to save enough to where I am now able to care for my wife full time. I also that I have squandered a great deal of money on things that, in retrospect, we did not need.
Right now we are just barely staying afloat, and that is due in part to others who help us out.

God is good and I rejoice in being under His protection.

The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.
Blessed be the name of the Lord.

Peace
James
 
I was wondering if you and your family are happy being middle class. I guess what I was wondering, are you happy being able to pay the bills every month and to keep a roof over your head. My wife and I get by every month, have a great daughter and a nice home. But, it seems a lot of work just to stay above water, and I get jealous of others that have more. We need to save more and be more frugal, but it just seems so though these days. I just have a hard time focusing on the good. Be Blessed.
Just yesterday I saw this quote, **“Jealousy comes when you count the blessings of others and not your own.” ** That really hit home with me.

There is also, IMO, a vast difference between happiness and joy. When you give yourself over to your maker and try to do His will and not your own, true joy will come to you.
 
I can understand the sentiment. Becuase of my race I was inelligable for scholorships that would of paid my tuition. The scholorships sat out there, waisted, beucase even though I acedemically and financially MORE than qualified (with a GPA way over and an income WAY under). For that reason I had to take out College loans and now live paycheck to paycheck.

I wish I could had more fun in college and not had to work 30 hours. I wish I had the freedom to pick my job, to go a couple months without work to get myself certified in a field that’d pay more, etc. etc. Sometimes the way the cookie crumbles life isn’t fair.

I love my car, but I wish it was 5yo and not 10yo. I wish I could buy my dog the good food that makes her shead less. I wish I could buy spices to cook really interesting meals insted of the 6-spice cabinent I’m stuck with.

But I LOVE my life. Acknowloging those wishes and dreams isn’t bad. I’m happy. I have a entertaining dog, I have a nice place to live, a good parish, and I have an AMAZING boyfriend. I really couldn’t want more. The rest is extra.
 
I’m quite happy with our life!! I would really love to be in a different house, but that has more to do with the neighborhood and our mortgage being more than 50% underwater than anything else.

Yeah - I’m happier now that I’ve ever been - even when I DID live in the big house out in the 'burbs. 😃

~Liza
 
I’m quite happy. I have a good job, nice house, fantastic supportive husband, kids who are more often well-behaved then not, etc.

I don’t have a lot of extras, but then again I don’t want any. There are so many people out there that talk about working hard and earning a lot of money so they can retire in style and not have to worry. I probably won’t retire, I don’t have a lot of extra ambition… and all the money we save - which is pretty significant considering my young age - will probably go to our children.

I have no real desire to live in the lap of luxury. What I have now is enough.

I have my 10 year old car to go with my 10 year old marriage too… But it still works and doesn’t need much maintenance even considering it’s old age. (Talking about the car!)
 
I’m quite happy with our life!! I would really love to be in a different house, but that has more to do with the neighborhood and our mortgage being more than 50% underwater than anything else.
OUCH! Sorry to hear that.
 
Yes. I can pay the bills and eat… what’s not to be happy about? There was a time not too long ago, that I was making twice as much as I am now, and to be honest, I was miserable. I never had any free time, couldn’t spend time with family, sleep was extremely limited. Would I ever go through that again?.. not a chance!
 
I remember one year as a young child, I asked my mother what she wanted for Christmas. Her response, “Nothing.” I thought she was crazy. How could she possibly want nothing for Christmas.

Now as an adult I understand. Last year DW asked me what I wanted for Christmas, I told her, “Nothing. I have you and the kids. What more could I want?”
 
don’t know if I understand the question

I am in general happy but it does not have much to do with our financial condition,
Same here. Poverty can be a source of trials, but once one gets beyond the basics, money has nothing to do with happiness. I am very happy in life and very middle class, if that.

Dr. Kreeft points out that the rate of suicide is directionally proportional to the amount of wealth one has. No, money does not increase happiness. In fact, it seems to have the opposite effect.
 
We used to be…well, “rich”, I suppose. We certainly weren’t happy, because with the million-dollar house came ridiculous mortgage payments and lots of l-o-o-o-ng work weeks. My husband had to travel a lot for business.
We sold the house and made $1000 (literally) and it was the happiest day of my life.
Downsized to a small country house in another state where property taxes (and every other tax) are low.
Took our kids out of private schools. Put them in the perfectly normal small-town high school.
Drove old, paid-for vehicles and made sure to maintain them.
Had our own veggies, meat, eggs, etc. to help out. It was fun, the kids loved it!
I took a couple years off (illness) and tried to be there for my kids’ final years in HS. It was worth it. Now we are an exceptionally close family.
You’ll always regret the excess time spent at work as opposed to being with family. For fancier toys? It just isn’t worth it. 🤷
 
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