danserr,
I think you’re hitting on something, but let me give my semi-secular argument to this and see what you think about it.
There is nothing specifically immoral about contraception. However, since any sex can create a baby, one should not have sex with someone that one does not wish to have a baby with.
The use of contraception implies that this is exactly what is happening.
Therefore, contraception is the same as “body-disposal-kit” complete with bleach, lyme, and a shovel. The immorality is not in buying the body-disposal-kit, it’s in what you were doing that requires you to have a body disposal kit.
If the only people using contraception were married people who then found out that the woman should never, ever have kids for health reasons, I don’t think the Church would be up in arms (some might still say it was wrong, but it would be a small issue). But that’s not what’s happening.
It’s not a war on contraception, and it’s not a war on the culture that contraception creates. It’s a war on the culture that requires contraception.
That is the difference between contraception and alcohol. Alcohol can be used responsibly and is not, in itself, indicative of bad behaviors.
So what I would say to the secular friend, were I trying to convince him/her not to use contraception is to convince him/her not to do things that would require contraception. Just like I would advise people not do engage in behaviors that require a body-disposal-kit.
An interesting suggestion. I’m actually still thinking about the best way to put this. I think there might be a broad implication for the argument as a specific one. The broad implication is that given the probability that contraception contributes to these negative consequences, this counts as evidence (or to put it another way- counts as a strong presumption) that contraception is probably wrong. This has the benefit of being a very modest argument that doesn’t make grand claims. I know some people like knock-down arguments, but we don’t always get those and the more modest ones can be helpful too.
As far as convincing a specific friend that it is wrong, what I said above would work to convince him broadly speaking that it is wrong. In terms of specifically why he should not use it, I’m not as sure. Broadly considered, the negative effects should still be a consideration, but specifically, yes maybe the trick would also be to convince him not to do the things that require contraception.
I admit that I’m uncomfortable with the claim that this argument might imply that there is nothing immoral about contraception, only the behaviors that it entails. Certainly that would not be true of Pruss’s argument, but it might of the first one I suggested. And it does seem plausible that were contraception only used in the very narrow situation you mention that the Church would still consider it wrong, (and it would be wrong because forbidden by a just and loving God), it would be a smaller issue than it is today.
I think there is still an implication, though, that contraception itself is wrong, because the idea is that the thing itself contributes to these negative effects, then this is evidence that the thing itself is wrong.
This is the one thing I did want to touch on, because I still don’t see the logic. NFP is effective, but not 100%. I’ve heard 95-99% (comparable to the pill), but not 100%. Therefore the argument of “no possibility that the couple could conceive” doesn’t work for me. There is a chance at conception (comparable to contraception), and it is a deliberate attempt not to have children. Are either of those statements not true?
I assume you mean this in response to Pruss’s argument, but I’ll try to apply my answer to it and more broadly.
Pruss says
here that one argument against contraception is that it risks placing parents in the position of having tries to engage in activity directly opposed to their child’s life.
Why is NFP different.
- In NFP parents typically try to avoid conception by abstinence. In this circumstance then, there is no chance of pregnancy and hence no risk that parents will have a child whose existence they actively tried to prevent. This, then, should be uncontroversial.
- If they have sex on a day they know they might get pregnant (even if they think the chance is lower), then likewise, there is no problem.
- I think at worst (this would probably be the rarest situation), a couple may believe themselves to be infertile, but actually be fertile and have sex anyway.
- Even now, I don’t think that this is enough to say that the couple actively hindered their child’s existence (especially compared to contraception). Ar worst, they are trying to abstain from conceiving, which seems less wrong than actively trying to prevent.
More broadly, there does seem to me to be a legitimate and important moral difference between permitting the natural infertility of one’s own body and
causing one’s body to be infertile. In one case a couple merely co-operates with the natural infertility of their own bodies, in the other, they
cause their bodies infertility.
Or put it another way. The sin is not the use of contraception broadly, but the individual contracepting act. So, in having sex and using contraception, a couple errs. But, how would this apply to a couple using NFP. There is no sin in having uncontracepted sex. There a sin in having it on a day that one knows that one is fertile. Furthermore, there is no sin in having uncontracepted sex on a day that one believes oneself to be infertile. So, it is hard to see how NFP is the same as contraception on these grounds.