Arguments Against Divorce

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My country is in the process of approving a divorce law. Right now all we have is legal separation and annulment. I was hoping for some advice how to combat this law. Does anyone here know the legal, moral, psychological etc. arguments against divorce? Or at least point me in the right direction? Any help would be much appreciated! Thank you! 🙂
 
Well Jesus talks about divorce in the bible and say it shouldn’t be done. So if you get a divorce and marry someone else you have committed adultery
 
My country is in the process of approving a divorce law. Right now all we have is legal separation and annulment. I was hoping for some advice how to combat this law. Does anyone here know the legal, moral, psychological etc. arguments against divorce? Or at least point me in the right direction? Any help would be much appreciated! Thank you! 🙂
I suppose you live in the Phillipines. Why do you feel you should challenge divorce legislation?
 
My country is in the process of approving a divorce law. Right now all we have is legal separation and annulment. I was hoping for some advice how to combat this law. Does anyone here know the legal, moral, psychological etc. arguments against divorce? Or at least point me in the right direction? Any help would be much appreciated! Thank you! 🙂
No, but I can think of whole lot of legal, moral, psychological and safety arguments well in favor of it. Why would you want to fight this law anyway? Even the Church knows that there are reasons for divorce. The sin isn’t always and automatically in divorce, but what happened to lead up to it, and of course, what actions the parties take afterwards. Civil divorce has absolutely no bearing on Sacramental marriage. The parties are still responsible for following Catholic law and are considered married, and must be chaste according to that status, until an annulment is granted. However, the Church can’t protect people like the civil authorities can, and this is purely a civil law benefit provided. I’m well in favor of it, and say, “what’s taking them so long?”
 
is it no-fault divorce? that’s generally a better solution.
 
There is a secular book entitled Case Against Divorce by Diane Medved. She started out to write a book about how divorce was a good thing. After much research she wrote a book that said divorce is bad. If I recall right she does say that there are only three cases when divorce is really called for but even in those things don’t turn out that great.
 
There is a secular book entitled Case Against Divorce by Diane Medved. She started out to write a book about how divorce was a good thing. After much research she wrote a book that said divorce is bad. If I recall right she does say that there are only three cases when divorce is really called for but even in those things don’t turn out that great.
that’s not very useful information. what are those things and how frequent are they?

abused spouses who escape their abusers are probably going to disagree with Medved’s claim that “those things don’t turn out that great”.
 
that’s not very useful information. what are those things and how frequent are they?

abused spouses who escape their abusers are probably going to disagree with Medved’s claim that “those things don’t turn out that great”.
Exactly. And just one example of a great reason for no-fault divoce. I can think of many others. 👍
 
Exactly. And just one example of a great reason for no-fault divoce. I can think of many others. 👍
back when divorce was for cause only, family law courts were little theaters of carefully scripted plays that the parties, lawyers and judges were all in on. it was a reaction to the earlier days when couples hired private eyes to peep into bedroom windows to get evidence.
 
that’s not very useful information. what are those things and how frequent are they?

abused spouses who escape their abusers are probably going to disagree with Medved’s claim that “those things don’t turn out that great”.
It has been a long time since I have read the book. Almost twenty years. So, I can not remember specifics. But I do recall that abuse is one situation where divorce is the proper action. Even then escaping the abuse MAY and I emphasize MAY cause other problems. Read the book and you will get the whole story not just my side of it.
 
No fault divorce was looked on as a solution to several problems.

One was that often the grounds recognized before it became law were generally limited to cruelty or adultery, and judges knew that they were seeing people in court who had neither of those grounds; they just did not want to be married any more. The result was that people were perjuring themselves in order to get a divorce, often when both parties wanted the divorce.

Another issue was that requiring proof of either adultery or cruelty often put people, who might have that issue in play in the marriage, in the very difficult position of having to pay for a very expensive process; no fault did not require those proofs and so in many cases, the cost of the divorce would be much less.

A third issue was the opinion within the communities of sociology and psychology that children growing up in a family under great stress because one or both parties no longer wanted to be married would be far better off if the divorce occurred and the stress relieved.

Most people in favor of no fault divorce did not anticipate the huge increase in the numbers of divorce.

Many of the proponents of no fault divorce were basically secularists; that is, they did not see marriage as something God-given, or as sacramental, but rather viewed it as a contract. They did not see that the State had either a duty or a benefit to upholding the sanctity of marriage. Neither did they foresee the results of so much divorce.

Sociologists and psychologists, after much time, have been able to see (and actually say) that the results of their studies showed that children were much better off in a two parent family than being in a divorced situation. One of the surprises to the research was how many children as adults were still trying to deal with the psychological damage of having lost a two parent home (See the research by Judith Wallerstein).

And, as usual, there are always exceptions.
 
Here is a link to the Diane Medved book.

Jesus, of course, prohibited divorce. The Church recognizes civil divorce, but not as a determinant of the validity or invalidity of a marriage, upon which it has no effect. It’s position is that a valid, consummated marriage can not be dissolved, in accordance with the law of Christ.

Society has now reached a point at which solemn wedding vows taken for life, can be abrogated more easily than a home mortgage.

When the vows are essentially made meaningless, it is no wonder that a divorce explosion ensues. Children are the ultimate losers.
 
…When the vows are essentially made meaningless, it is no wonder that a divorce explosion ensues. Children are the ultimate losers.
except that a son or daughter who watches dad beat the snot out of mom will grow up with some twisted ideas of what the roles of a husband and wife are.

you might say that maintaining marriage is still worth it under those deplorable conditions, but I bet you there are people in this forum with the scars to prove you wrong (except for the wives who were beaten to death, they can’t dispute your assessment, so I’ll just record their probable disagreement with you).
 
except that a son or daughter who watches dad beat the snot out of mom will grow up with some twisted ideas of what the roles of a husband and wife are.

you might say that maintaining marriage is still worth it under those deplorable conditions, but I bet you there are people in this forum with the scars to prove you wrong (except for the wives who were beaten to death, they can’t dispute your assessment, so I’ll just record their probable disagreement with you).
I would advise any woman (or man) to get out of an abusive relationship asap. Whether that involves divorce is up to them. It probably does. I would also advise people not to marry abusers, and to marry someone who intends those vows to be permanent, true, and faithful and binding for life. If they mean what they say in the vows, there should be no abuse. We have abuse and divorce because the vows are made meaningless.
 
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