Article: How to Survive Unrequited Love

[Edmundus1581]

theage.com.au/lifestyle/life/how-to-survive-unrequited-love-20130625-2oudq.html

I haven’t had a chance to read it properly, but if I don’t post it now, I’ll never get around to it.

It looks good.

“It took me longer to get over him than the length of our relationship. I can see now what I had trouble letting go of was the future I had created in my mind.”

“I’ve learned that unrequited love isn’t love. It’s an unhealthy obsession better left behind,” says O’Shea. "It is painful because without realising it, we give our entire sense of self-worth to another person.

Oh, but doesn’t it hurt!

 

[acacia12]

Oh I’ve so been there

 

[dedo]

Interesting article.

He also says to turn the experience into something creative.

 

[chevalier]

It helps to have something to do. Idle time leads to overfocusing on romantic problems. Getting up to one’s neck in work doesn’t make one incapable of having feelings or even sustaining a meaningful relationship, but it significantly cuts down on the drama.

“We conclude that because someone doesn’t share a romantic interest with us it must mean we’re uninteresting, unattractive, or undesirable. Worse than assuming that’s what the other person is thinking, we start to believe it about ourselves. If you get stuck in that negative cycle of thought, you can stay down for a long time.”

Read more: theage.com.au/lifestyle/life/how-to-survive-unrequited-love-20130625-2oudq.html#ixzz2XkJjMxiu

True also.