As an Atheist, I was used to pretty attractive girls, but now I'm just being fussy

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I don’t think others are being fair in implying that you don’t find Catholic women attractive.

It seems to me that this boils down to simple math.

As an atheist - I presume that you didn’t care what, if any, faith, your dates had. So, to you, the universe was 100% of women were potentially available for you to pursue.

But when you start using constraints on that population, you now have a much smaller universe of women to choose from. It wouldn’t have mattered what constraints you used (hair color, age, race, height or, in this case, religion).

Now that you have a smaller cohort, you hare going to have to try harder to find someone who is physically attractive to you. (Now, personally, I find personality and character a huge factor in determining how attractive a person is … but it doesn’t matter what I find attractive)

Apparently, you find physical beauty far more important. So that means that you are going to have to work harder to increase the number of women that you meet to find one that you find attractive - and, just as important, also finds you attractive.

Assuming that you are irresistible to women - maybe all you have to do is increase your exposure to activities that attract a larger number of Catholic women.

But just remember this about physical beauty…It’s not going to last - not for you and not for your spouse. So just make sure that there is enough left over when the physical beauty subsides, to still find your spouse attractive.
 
Nothing at all wrong with being attracted to beautiful women, it’s how men are wired and no man should apologize for it. That said, most men know there is usually a difference between the most beautiful women and the women they can actually get to go out with them. Also they learn that when contemplating marriage to a particular woman, her other attributes must be considered as well.
 
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I think you should pray about this and really think about what a spouse is for. You aren’t looking for an knickknack to hang on your wall and admire. You’re looking for a person who is going to endure life’s struggles with your for the rest of your life. I don’t care if you marry the “hottest” woman in the world. In a few decades and after a few babies, she’s going to look different. “Attractiveness” is just that. It gets your attention and makes you notice someone. It doesn’t do much for the long haul. You should spend time praying for the right woman to be your partner for life, in good times and bad.
 
Smallest country on earth is the Vatican, so, we can guess you don’t live there.

11,347 residents in Neru. 1/3 of those folks are Catholics.

Next is Monaco. 38,400 population with more than 83% of them Catholic.
 
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Maybe Singapore…we are a tiny tiny tiny country and we are not really known for beautiful girls… 😶
 
Small countries with smaller Catholic populations. I can think of a few in Asia. Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Myanmar, Bangladesh. Probably some of the -stan countries that were formerly part of the USSR. Qatar and UAE in the Mideast. Maybe some in Africa. You’ll usually find Catholic churches in the capital cities, but they will be few and far between in the outlying areas.
 
I understand what you are saying, and, yes, you should find the person you marry to be attractive. But I am worried about the long-term prospects of a marriage when there is an emphasis on looks. Because beauty changes a lot as we age, go through illnesses, etc.
 
Agreed but it’s not just about beauty on the outside, it’s about the beauty on the inside. I mean, you have to be attracted to you spouse, right? Initially yes, attraction to outward beauty is important but it is really about how it correlates with the inward beauty. Eventually, if you are truly in love, you forget about why you are in love because it becomes a state of being. But again, attraction is necessary. It sounds like he is finding some great people but he is just not attracted to them.
 
This may be a bit personal, but do you know what aspects you were finding physically attractive? I ask because many men underestimate the effect that a woman’s clothing and grooming may have. Often the women that are seen as the “prettiest” are women who are very good at making themselves look a certain way. And I think men can get used to seeing that as the standard for female beauty.
 
Ok this has already been said but I’ll say it again: men hugely underestimate what role grooming has in determining how attractive a girl is. It doesn’t have to be the 10 tons of makeup and skimpy dresses look that affects men, a lighther shirt can make a huge difference. Young Catholic women are less likely to experiment as much with the various looks out there (because some are objectively immodest) and thus less likely to realize their full potential in the looks department. Also if you are in a minority catholic country it is a mere fact of statistics that there will be less attractive (to you) catholic women compared to 100% of the population. Furthermore at Mass most women don’t really care how they look that much (as long as they are presentable) so they aren’t in their regala they’d/ other girls would be on the street. In other words learn to imagine the woman you may want to date in her best possible look (and I don’t mean sexually) and you will find way more options than before. And maybe look for friends before you look for girlfriends (but tbh I have no experience). Good luck 🙂
 
Looks will eventually fade. We all stop being appealing at some point. Better to marry someone with a strong will, an even temper and that you get along with. Not being able to bond with a partner leads to stress and stress will only make us age that much faster.
 
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