Please go back and read what I wrote.
We view the Bible as Salvation History, which means, the message for us is that God’s hand is in Salvation through time, from the fall to Jesus (and continues on to now). After the fall, the “chosen people” were a couple, Adam and Eve. Then God broadens His choseness to a family, in Noah. Then a tribe, Israel, then a Kingdom, David.
Jesus is God’s final and perfect Revelation, in Him and through Him all are made chosen. This includes you, as you have been baptized.
I think of it as God bringing us to Him, gently, carefully, as the sun rises. If the dark night suddenly became day every morning, we would be blinded and cringing every time the sun rose!

God is patient, but has never ceased bring us (humans) to Him. Gently, carefully, waiting for us to understand and respond.
Jesus is God’s final and perfect Revelation, in Him and through Him all are made chosen. Baptism buries us with Christ, and we are raised with Him.
You are chosen.
God does bring us to Him constantly. God is both merciful and just. When you read the message of the OT, it is almost always one that shows God’s mercy and justice. The authors of the OT saw God’s justice and mercy in everything, everywhere, at every time. I would think, as someone like yourself who seeks God in the everyday events and nature, this would be understandable. (?)
God meets us where we are. Including in violent tribal cultures who are consistently at war, forever turning us towards Himself. We are not perfect, and can have a tendency to ascribe our own imperfections to God. God is perfect, and has revealed what
perfect means, in His Son Jesus Christ.
Love God with all you heart, might, mind and strength. Love thy neighbor as thyself. LOVE is what perfects us, not war.
Hope that helps.