ASK FATHER: Priest tells woman not to wear veil at Mass

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I think what I typically wear is more properly called a chapel veil instead of a mantilla. When I started covering my hair I used a simple scarf or wide headband, which was less conspicuous, and even now I think that’s fine. I’ve never been a hat person, though I think some of that is just not understanding hats. 😅 I kind of dislike that the term “veiling” has become common, because really it’s just covering your hair as a personal devotion, and you don’t have to use a veil to do it.
 
I do, but tha lacy ones only for feasts, usually an ordinary headscarf. I don´t want to be the attention point among the other women.
 
It’s ok etiquette wise for a woman to wear a hat indoors. I tried wearing a veil and felt weird. I tried a hat and felt better. No one has ever said a word to me about it.
 
pensmama87 said:
To the best of my knowledge, mantillas are longer and typically made with very fancy or elaborate lace.
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Yes. Mantilla implies both a longer length and must be lacy. A chapel veil is the length that just reaches the shoulders (as opposed to a chapel length veil, which is bridal lingo for a veil that would cover most of the train on a chapel length wedding gown.)

Does anybody know the real name for that sort of lace kippah we kids used to call a doily veil–the kind that just covers the top of the head? I kind of doubt that is the real name, LOL. (Do people even know what a doily is any more? Not what you’d call a staple of living room decor any more, is it?)
 
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It’s ok etiquette wise for a woman to wear a hat indoors.
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Provided it is not in the style of a man’s hat. No baseball caps or cowboy hats, please. Well, maybe a cowboy hat, if your hair is so elaborately styled around it that it is clear why you can’t take it off, which I suppose makes it a ladies’ hat at that point.
 
Oh true! Didn’t think to clarify that! Thanks! When I think women’s hats, I think of Duchess Kate and her style. But not everyone thinks that, true!
 
PetraG said:
Does anybody know the real name for that sort of lace kippah we kids used to call a doily veil–the kind that just covers the top of the head? I kind of doubt that is the real name, LOL. (Do people even know what a doily is any more? Not what you’d call a staple of living room decor any more, is it?)
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We just called them doilies. 😊

Not only do I know what a doily is, I have made several in recent years. This has been my favorite pattern so far, but my colors were different from this photo. I would not recommend any ladies wear this on their head during mass. 😂

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Sorry,on rereading my post I can see that I didn’t communicate what I meant clearly enough so I should clarify that I was talking purely in the context of the Islamic religion.
My comment about strict/fundamentalist was referring solely to some Muslims wearing the burka (or similar)-a clothing which covers the face,and realistically does bring about social discussion.

Regarding headscarves-My own grandma used to wear a headscarf for “everyday” but this is different than for religion.
The queen,in the same way is wearing one not in religious context.
There’s nothing wrong with wearing one in the religious context but I’m just objectively stating that isn’t the context of the Queen’s photos here.
Separate from religion,people will/do wear all sorts of things according to personality and fashion.

I should clarify that I also believe that what the Father did was wrong in this situation.
He should never have had a homily on it or spoke with presumptions.
If he had a concern,then he should have talked to her privately to get a more clearer picture of where her “heart was coming from”.
 
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“PetraG said:
The poster I was replying to was asking about the motives of women who choose for themselves to cover their heads in church…

I think that I am the poster you are referring to.
The reality is,it may always be human nature to wonder people’s reasons for doing things but that is not the same thing as suggesting that it’s ok for people to be “clothing” police.
People should and will wear what they want whether headscarf or boob tube and mini skirt etc.
Some people will sometimes have thoughts though on other people though.
For example if I choose to wear a rubber dress to a restaurant its very likely that some people will have internal thoughts curious about my outlook or “motives”.
Sure I am think it’s better to mind their own business,but being “social creatures” they probably won’t.
As long as it is just thoughts and not judgments,and they retain their kindness, i think that is just human nature to be curious.
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I still have my first communion veil headcovering from the 1960’s and I also recently received the black lace veil my mother wore during that era also. I agree a lot of women wore hats as headcoverings, and that is frequently what I do today, but I do remember veils too. I also remember the round lace headcoverings.
God bless.
 
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I think it is awesome that women are returning to wearing headcoverings and that this is a conversation that happens frequently.
 
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