Ask Me Anything: Muslim Edition

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Walaikum salam! šŸ™‚

May I just say I’m very grateful you’ve come to this forum and taken all this time to answer our questions.

I’m a young man who, through no fault of my own, suffers with same-sex attraction. I have tried to change but I can’t. I just try my best to keep chaste.

How would a Muslim be expected to approach this difficult situation?

Thanks in advance
 
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Chai is the most popular, but it’s a little different usually than what is sold as chai in coffee shops in the US. Arabic and Persian teas are usually combined with spices to the taste of the person drinking it. My dad’s family usually brews their tea with dried rose petals in the mix and my mom’s family usually likes a mix of cinnamon, cardamon, and clove.

Coffee is, of course, usually Arabica and made very, very strong and usually with spices in the mix, too, depending on where you are. Coffee preparation is a point of social pride and it’s really impolite not to offer a guest coffee and usually impolite not to accept if it’s offered. The Gulf states usually put saffron in their coffee, which makes it taste really bitter to me since I’m used to Levantine-style coffee, so I like to tease my Saudi colleague about his coffee preparation skills by telling him that Saudi men must like their coffee like they like their women: strong and bitter.
 
In the face of terrorism, how is Islam a religion of peace?

And what miracles did Muhammed perform in his lifetime.
 
SSA is really difficult. I have a cousin who’s going through that, so I know it’s tough.

With Muslim cultures, any sort of sex outside of marriage is sinful, whether it’s same sex or opposite sex, so the act itself is forbidden for basically the same reason as it is in Catholicism. Marriage can only exist in Islam between a man and a woman, so SSA can’t be consummated in a halaal fashion. It’s no better or worse than other acts of zina by our estimation. How to help people cope with SSA and deal with the related zina has been a subject of debate by Islamic scholars for hundreds of years, but the majority opinion is that a person with SSA who commits to living a moral life by not engaging in haraam sex acts is perfectly fine. Everyone struggles with something. If it wasn’t SSA, it would be something else. They should avoid circumstances that would tempt them to sin and try to find halaal ways to satisfy the need for social intimacy. Some people choose to remain single and help care for other family members. In some cases people have entered a supportive marriage with someone who already has children or who simply doesn’t need much sexually from their spouse so that they have supportive social connections and family life. Islamic social philosophy is usually pretty flexible to accommodate people who need to be integrated into halaal family life a little differently at no fault of their own.

Rahimakallah. I wish you well with it and I will pray for you.
 
Terrorism isn’t strictly confined to Islam. All religions have terrorists and violent people in them, but we don’t consider them violent religions because it is understood that those people are not acting according to the actual teachings or spirit of their faith. It’s the same with Islam. We’re allowed to defend ourselves and our brethren from harm. In all things however, we are to be merciful and compassionate and treat all people as our brothers and sisters because Allah is perfectly merciful and compassionate.

Regarding miracles:
He healed battle wounds and Ali’s sick eye. He provided water for an army in the desert and several times was noted to cause springs to well up in dry areas. The splitting of the moon before his pagan adversaries. He blinded a band of assassins so that he was able to pass among them to safety without them seeing him. An enemy came out to chase him on horseback, but he caused the horse to sink into the earth and then when the man relented and asked for mercy he rescued him. On the day that he entered Medina, a heavenly illumination fell over the city. On the day that he died, Medina became dark. There are many recorded instances of prophetic revelations that came true. Remarkably, before a battle, he predicted the exact locations that all of the enemy chieftains would die and they in fact died in those places. The sunnah is full of the testimony of the miracles God performed through the Prophet (peace be upon him) and most of them were witnessed by large groups of people.
 
Which Islamic countries are most tolerant of Christianity and other religions?
 
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Omar Khayam is the Shakespeare of the East?
Are there poets who are considered more famous than Omar Khayam?
 
This video shows the features of aggressive Islam.
Some Indians fear that some States of India may turn into a new Pakistan.
Is the theory true that when representatives of Islam become too many they become uncompromising and demand an ā€œIslamic stateā€?
 
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There is indeed sometimes aggressiveness among different Muslim groups. The Hanafi muslims in Washington DC were involved in such a dispute with a different group, several people were killed, a house was burned down. I think there was a dispute over doctrine between NOI and Hanafi groups.
 
Interestingly, Indians are very sensitive to killing cows. The Indians from what I’ve heard I consider the cow a sacred animal
 
What really fascinates me about Islam is the tradition of tea drinking instead of alkohol drinking, understanding the dangers of sexual stimuli in women’s clothing for the male eye(of course many modern people will disagree with me), five-day public prayers…
There are a lot of interesting things there.
But as for society (let it be no offense to say) life can be compared to the army, or ā€œarmy lifeā€ (if you don’t want? we’ll make you!)
Of course you can not unite Christianity with Islam (as it was trying to do by BahÔ’í Faith and some new denominations.)but it is possible to unite in understanding humanity, charity, compassion and mutual respect in co-existence.
Christian religion is distinguished by the fact that the tomb of the founder of our religion is empty, but in Islam there are the obvious features in which you can see the fear of God and the desire to serve him.
 
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This is specific to Khomeini’s interpretation and one or two other people as far as I’m aware. In Iran, transexual surgeries are only performed male-to-female, because the reasoning is that it’s easier to integrate a transexual woman into Islamic society in a halaal way than it is to integrate a male with SSA. Which is a completely bizarre interpretation of Islamic law, but that’s Iran for you. The way it’s practiced is totally inhumane since the law forces people to have the surgeries sometimes against their will and this can often also apply to homosexual men if they’re considered to be effeminate enough. It’s totally bonkers to most of the Muslims in the world, but so are a lot of things Khomeini has done.

Sunni and traditional Shia have been developing a theology of intersex people and transgender for some time, since many Central Asian and Middle Easter cultures historically have recognized third sexes of various kinds. The common thread is that people who are genuinely physically intersex are not at fault in anyway because this is a malady beyond their control. So, fatwas in modern times now that gender reassignment surgery is available, have tended to rule that intersex people should be examined by qualified physicians who can determine whether their medical nature is male or female and determine a solution accordingly. Or, they can choose not to undergo any alteration and simply live in a manner that doesn’t leave them vulnerable to zina or compromise modesty (so, like, an ambiguously intersex person with male only attraction might choose to identify as female, spend time in women’s areas, and wear hijab to protect themselves from zina). For people who are not intersex, the issue is less clear. A hadith in Sunan Abu Dawud states that the Prophet (peace be upon him) would not permit a transwoman who persisted in dressing as a female to be killed, but instead sent the person away. So, basically, it’s wrong to harm a person who is transgender because they have gender dysphoria, but it’s also not acceptable to allow them to continue pretending to be other than what they are in a moral society especially for the immoral purpose of committing acts of zina. It’s a form of lying.

It’s a complex issue and as more science is revealed on transgenderism, I expect we’ll see corresponding changes in how transgenderism is dealt with in Muslim society. My personal reasoning is that it’s a violation of basic moral decency to perform life-altering surgery on a healthy person and that it amounts to mutilation. Especially regarding the Iranian solution, it strikes me as being in the same ethical category as the lobotomy. I’m not a doctor or a mental health professional, though, so I could be off base about that. Intersex people have a hard row to hoe and so I support them having surgical options if they want them, but I think it’s best to wait until the person is an adult and can make that decision for themself instead of having it made for them in infancy. Whatever the situation, people with gender dysphorias should be treated with compassion and respect.
 
Omar Khayam is one of the big ones, but Rumi is probably the mostly widely respected Muslim poet. He was a mystic and a lot of his poetry is very subtle and layered. One of my favorite of his verses is: ā€œYour task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.ā€

Ghalib probably has more in common with Shakespeare in terms of content since he’s kind of scandalous.
 
Syria (pre-civil war), Jordan, and Tunisia are probably in the top ranks because Syria and Jordan actually have appreciable Christian populations and Tunisia is one of the more progressive states in the Muslim world these days. Turkey is up there with them, although there are some tensions there. Malaysia was one of the more tolerant places for a very long time, but I understand there have been issues there in the last 20 years.
 
I don’t think so. India and Pakistan are kind of a peculiar case, there’s a lot more there than just the religious differences so it’s easy to conflate religious tension with political and ethnic tension.

Majority Muslim countries like to push the Islamic state line because it lends legitimacy to monarchies and other hereditary clan rulership. Most Muslims aren’t all that concerned with having an ā€œIslamicā€ state. Some people would like to have the option of resolving disputes under sharia law. Like, here in the US, I don’t know of any Muslims who want to impose sharia law at the national level on everyone, but some would like to be able to have certain types of interpersonal disputes voluntarily arbitrated by a religious authority, like Jews have rabbinical councils.
 
The Hanafi Movement isn’t the same as the Hanafi school of jurisprudence, although the founder was instructed in the Hanafi style, just want to clarify on that. The dispute was over some murders that had taken place. Both Nation of Islam and the Hanafi Movement were considered heretical to mainstream Muslims for various reasonsand they were more political movements than religious ones anyway. NOI, for instance, believed that their founder was an incarnation of Allah, which is basically the worst sin you can possibly commit in Islam proper (shirk). The leader of the Hanafi Movement was profoundly mentally ill and involved in something shady regarding the NOI. It’s my understanding that most mainstream Muslims at the time were just as freaked out by the NOI and related groups as anyone else.
 
Ghalib and Rumi are they poets or prose writers?
It may be indecent, amid the immorality of other societies, to condemn Islamic States in excesses, аs for the moral side of life in saving society, Muslim Iran seems to be one of the favorites, but I can’t understand the Iranians on this issue.
Iranian school of wrestling is one of the best in the world.
The wrestlers of Free and Greek-Roman style from the different countries when they come to the training camp or competition , can call this country ā€œThe Champions Factoryā€ or " The Wrestling University".
Why not, for example, treat these women - like and feminine young men with combat sport therapy.
There are many examples when due to power sports the weak, weak-willed young people became courageous, reckless and real men.
Perhaps such therapy will be able to treat many types of masochism and all kinds of transvestism. Although this my personal peasant opinion on these problems.😊
 
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Historically, the Persians invested in the wrestling not only militant and patriotic sense, but also philosophical, religious and spiritual meaning, as evidenced by the rituals - ā€œPahlevan and Zoorkhanehā€.
This is why Iranian wrestlers are always among the prize-winners in international competitions.
This is why in Iran, the wrestling for popularity competes with football.
It is interesting that by exploring knights spirit and warrior spirit in the spiritual sense, they do not explore the possibility of combat sport in therapy treatment of sexual diseases such as masochism and transvestism.

https://video.genyoutube.net/ciNHFdYvIU8
 
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