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Km2012
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Before proposing, is it ever appropriate to ask for her father’s blessing over the phone? Say the father isn’t around often, and you see him 1-2 times a month tops, and it’s never a good time when you do see him.
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Allegra
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This tradition isn’t really required at all and some people even find it offensive. If you believe it would be well-received, I would simply invite her parents to dinner or something. I’m not sure why the man is expected to ask for the blessing alone anyway. Doesn’t it make more sense for the couple to ask together, so at least the father knows that the daughter want to get married too? I honestly think this weird tradition should be replaced with a celebratory meal, outing, or get-together where the couple asks their parents for their blessing as a team.
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Lou2U
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Would your girlfriend like you to ask her father for his blessing?
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TheLittleLady
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I think it is a lovely tradition and show of respect to her parents.
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Irishmom2
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If you want to ask his blessing, please do not do it over the phone. Call and ask him if he can meet you for coffee or a beer (you would know which) because you would like to talk to him. Most likely he will guess why.
While it is not a requirement, it is a lovely gesture.
While it is not a requirement, it is a lovely gesture.
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alice24
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I hate this tradition, to be honest. Don’t ever ask for permission if you won’t obey at least- and regarding marriage, if you really would make your plan to marry her dependent on her dad, than this would be not a good example for a christian view on marriage, IMHO.
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JulianN
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Make sure your girlfriend is OK with this first. It would have caused my daughter to have a serious conversation with her fiance if he’d done this. And I sure would have had words with my husband if I found out he’d talked with my father before talking to me!
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