Asperger's syndrome cont'd

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I was hesitant do do anything like this at first, out of fear that it might be construed as “attention seeking”. However a number of people have PMd me asking for updates on my situation, and also a few of the Prayer Warriors here who said I am welcome to post weekly updates or something like that. So here is my first attempt.

First of all, this was the original thread. Wow I sound really sad.
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=217927

In a nutshell: I have Asperger’s syndrome, which has led to various problems in my life, especially in the last couple of months. Compounding the problem is that the vast majority of people out there aren’t familiar with AS and it’s hard to find any kind of help or guidance. 😦

Things are a lot better since the last time around. Actually I look back at that thread and I’m a little bit surprised how low I had sunk. It’s no picnic now either, but it seems like the problems that are here… I’m just better equipped to handle them or something? For whatever reason I just don’t get nearly as overwhelmed now.

Well this is the biggest problem I’m currently facing, anyway… finances. So if you could pray for me please keep that specifically in your intentions I’d appreciate it. Finding a job seemed to be going alright until one of my aspie issues interfered with performing job duties (had to listen to customers on the phone while other people in the room wouldn’t shut up). This just skyrocketed my anxiety but other people seemed to be able to handle it. One of the things with Asperger’s is that it’s very hard to filter out background talk from the speech that you’re trying to focus on and everything just gets garbled up into a bunch of random words in my brain. Often people with AS will also be misdiagnosed as having some kind of auditory processing disorder because of this, in fact.

But yeah, I may not be despairing like in the last note (which surprises me) but the issues I’m facing are serious nonetheless. Now I need another job FAST, because quite honestly it’s gotten to the point where I won’t even be able to feed myself for the next week and from that point on it only gets worse. I never thought I would see myself ever sink this low.

Thank you again for your continued prayers, everyone.
 
Praying for the Holy Spirit to guide you to the right job for you and that God’s Will be done in your life.

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Praying for you exoflare…put it in the Lord’'s hands, He will never fail you.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
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Praying for your intentions:

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

God Bless
In Jesus through Mary
Steve
 
You have a heavy cross - good to read that there has been some improvement - although things are low again - and may The Lord continue to support you daily more and more. Keeping your finances in daily prayer too…
 
I finally went to confession earlier today too… for the first time in at least a month. That should probably help quite a bit.
 
You are in my prayers exoflare. I have an autistic neice, and so I understand your difficulties. You do sound so much more optimistic in faith than in your initial thread - Thanks be to God!
May he continue to pour out his blessings upon you, and bring peace into your life, through gainful employment that you is suited to your special gifts and needs.

:idea: just wondering, perhaps you may shed some light on a thought I just had. Are you able to offer help to children with Asperger’s, or other spectrum disorders? Or even other adults? Having personal insight and understanding of the difficulties they face, if it is within your abilities to do so, you could provide great hope for others facing this difficult syndrom.
 
Praying for you Exoflare, you do sound a lot better it is hard but stay strong the holy father will guide you to the right job, hope all goes well, and keep writing and letting us know how you are doing god bless:gopray2: :hug1:
 
my prayers are with you. My sons are on the autistic spectrum and my husband has aspie issues. I can so very much understand what you are dealing with. May God bless you abundantly and bring true friends and a great job into your life.
 
Exoflare … I am praying for you :gopray2:

I cannot truly understand all that you are going through but it is not as if I cannot imagine some of your troubles …

For perspective and FYI: I own a very small business [myself plus three full time and one part time employees] A little over two years ago, I hired a young man with autism …

I wish I could say it was a great experience for both of us … don’t think that is how I would describe it … It is a reality and it is not bad. I think it has been good [for him, me and my employees]. At least I hope so…but ‘great’ is not how I would characterize it.

My husband often asks me “how it is working? … can I keep him on?” … and various other questions … my other employess … well they are managing …

Is it easy … No … I am currently attempting to discern if I can keep him on * … as he is limited in his work - CAD [computer automated drafting] ONLY this is real hard - the part time employee was hired mostly to answer the phone when I am not in the office - normally a function that the CAD person would do … he cannot work in the field parttime [like the person they replaced] and does not function well working under stressfull conditions [with contractors looking over the shoulder, phoned in reevisions, time pressure of short deadlines and revisions in general] …

Now you are thinking “Why did I hire him in the first place?” Well everyone deserves a chance … He does good work …

Has it been easy? No

Do I regret the hire? No

Will I be sad if I have to lay him off? Yes

And I do worry about what will happen to him … that is one reason why I have not laid him off already …

The hardest things to deal with us the exposive reponse to normal requests [and the language used] and a phone message that the bus is running late is painful to get through …

And know this … I try not to lay off any employee during my slow times … this is not unigue to this person …I often carry employess through December/January plus/minus …

I hope this is just a normal seasonal slow down … but with this economy … I am nervous about the economy… I am praying for a project soon :gopray: … I only have about another month of overhead before I will be laying off or borrowing money … I want to keep all my employees working … 🙂

Anyway I hope you find comfort and peace to help you and those who work with you … May Jesus hold you in his loving care …*
 
Praying for you and your finances, as well as your health. Have you ever looked into or tried Neurofeedback? I remember reading about Asperger when I was researching neurofeedback because my little nephew was receiving it. I found this site, but there is more on the subject just google it.

neurofeedbacktoday.com/effective.htm

I know that my nephew was using neurofeedback for his anger problem and he is like night and day now. He is so much better. Anyway, something for you to look into, but the bad thing is that no insurance will pay for this and it is expensive.
 
:idea: just wondering, perhaps you may shed some light on a thought I just had. Are you able to offer help to children with Asperger’s, or other spectrum disorders? Or even other adults? Having personal insight and understanding of the difficulties they face, if it is within your abilities to do so, you could provide great hope for others facing this difficult syndrom.
You are actually the second person to bring up this possibility to me. I’ve thought about it, but it kind of discourages me to think just how much extra school may be required for such a thing. I do think it’s an interesting idea, as I can certainly relate to these people and the tendencies they exhibit, yet I’m told that I’m at the “high functioning” end of the spectrum. This means that apparently I’m just “normal” enough that I was able to form sufficient coping strategies to figure out and get myself through everyday social situations. Doesn’t mean it was easy though. 😦 …and of course I went through most of my life not even knowing just what it was that I was having to battle against.

So yeah this is an idea that interests me somewhat right now… but aack the extra school (and extra $$) that it would take… :banghead:
 
Now you are thinking “Why did I hire him in the first place?” Well everyone deserves a chance … He does good work …
I wish more people thought like you did. 😉

What I’m really wondering is how you discovered this guy in the first place? Aspies aren’t generally the best at career networking if you know what I mean.
 
Also I wanted to say thanks to everyone on here (yet again) for their continued prayers. Earlier this weekend I went to confession and received the Eucharist for the first time in at least a month. I can’t believe I’m saying that but that’s how long it had been.
 
I wish more people thought like you did.

What I’m really wondering is how you discovered this guy in the first place? Aspies aren’t generally the best at career networking if you know what I mean.
He had an advocate that assisted him in schedulig the interview and at the actual interview itself. He has an associates degree in CAD drafting *…so there is lots of confusion beyond the normal work related stuff …

As I said, God must have a plan … I am trying to do what I can … My business is very small but I have insurance for my employees [they can purchase dependent coverage] a small dental/vision assistance amount, a Simple IRA retirement plan, paid holiday and vacation…None of my employees earn minimum wage, they all earn more than tht - pay range is $11.30/hour to $21.50 per hour … and as I said I do not lay off for normal slow times … I may not guarantee 40 hour per week but I will keep them working as long as they can hang out … I just hope I get some contracts … I specialize in road/bridge construction staking … I do every kind of work but that is the work that pays the bills, the other is starvation city :rolleyes:*
 
Receiving the Eucharist must mean alot to you, Exoflare! It is truly a gift, and I’m so happy we can all receive it! God bless you and take care of you.
 
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