I’ve been thinking the same thing.thehiddenfaithful.wordpress.com/2015/11/02/testifying-to-the-truth/
Many of the problems the Church is facing is because of the singles crisis.
What do you all think?
I once heard a story of a woman who converted to the Catholic faith in her late 20’s. She was unchurched before that. She told some Catholic friends, half joking, that it was so much harder to get a date now that she was Catholic. The reason? Before becoming Catholic she had “no standards”. In fact, she had been living with her boyfriend and had a baby with him before learning about the Catholic faith. After accepting all of the Church’s teachings, she found out how small the dating pool is of others who are willing to go along with those standards.“Sometimes it seems as if many of the people marrying young in the Church are the folks who are living together, using contraception, etc., while those who follow the Church’s teachings are unable to establish a family.”
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I think high standards are a big part of the reason for older single Catholics. I understand not compromising your faith but many of the chronically single that I see complain here are holding out for someone who simply doesn’t exist.I once heard a story of a woman who converted to the Catholic faith in her late 20’s. She was unchurched before that. She told some Catholic friends, half joking, that it was so much harder to get a date now that she was Catholic. The reason? Before becoming Catholic she had “no standards”. In fact, she had been living with her boyfriend and had a baby with him before learning about the Catholic faith. After accepting all of the Church’s teachings, she found out how small the dating pool is of others who are willing to go along with those standards.
Among my circle of friends and family who are Catholic, most of the people who married young were those who disagreed with Church teaching, especially where birth control was concerned, sometimes with premarital sex as well. The Catholics I know who agree with Church teaching in these and other areas usually can’t find someone to marry until they’re middle age. Some are older than that and still can’t find anyone. Maybe the author was referring to situations like that.
Or if the person did exist, they wouldn’t like them. You can check all the boxes, but not have any chemistry whatsoever.I think high standards are a big part of the reason for older single Catholics. I understand not compromising your faith but many of the chronically single that I see complain here are holding out for someone who simply doesn’t exist.
Right that’s what I meant. There are plenty of fair young maidens just not many who want chubby, entitled, middle-aged men.Or if the person did exist, they wouldn’t like them. You can check all the boxes, but not have any chemistry whatsoever.
That’s a good point, but not what I meant. My pronouns got confusing!Right that’s what I meant. There are plenty of fair young maidens just not many who want chubby, entitled, middle-aged men.
Well said. I personally think we’re going to have fewer priests in the future because the marriage rate continues to go down every year. It’s odd that Church officials aren’t concerned about the high number of single Catholics for that reason.It’s also beneficial for the church because they’ll likely get more seminarians from Catholic families than from converts.
Lay people are of more benefit to the church than seminarians.It’s also beneficial for the church because they’ll likely get more seminarians from Catholic families than from converts.
The main snag is, Catholics aren’t supposed to relate. R-word = dirty word.… Many of the problems the Church is facing is because of the singles crisis.
What do you all think?
I think it was on this forum that I heard of a theory that the current “priesthood crisis” or “vocation crisis” was actually a marriage crisis. Because we have had so many unmarried Catholic of so long, we haven’t had enough families for our priests to be born into.It’s also beneficial for the church because they’ll likely get more seminarians from Catholic families than from converts.
I was watching EWTN’s Life on the Rock a while back. A gal named Emily Stimpson was explaining this same connection. I think the phrase she used was, “If devout Catholics don’t start marrying and having children, we’re going to have a vocations shortage to the priesthood, the likes of which we have never seen before.”I think it was on this forum that I heard of a theory that the current “priesthood crisis” or “vocation crisis” was actually a marriage crisis. Because we have had so many unmarried Catholic of so long, we haven’t had enough families for our priests to be born into.
I think this is true. The areas and parishes from which I see the most vocations arising are those areas with strong families, often large families, belonging to parishes where the faith is strong. I’m convinced that the true vocation crisis is the marriage vocation crisis.I was watching EWTN’s Life on the Rock a while back. A gal named Emily Stimpson was explaining this same connection. I think the phrase she used was, “If devout Catholics don’t start marrying and having children, we’re going to have a vocations shortage to the priesthood, the likes of which we have never seen before.”
Scary thought! Unfortunately it’s very true.
There is a lot of truth to this. Couples who are cohabiting often end up marrying, and marrying younger than those who are following Christian teaching against extramarital sex. The end result is that the chaste end up unmarried or married later in life, while the unchaste are the ones getting married. I can’t say for sure without statistics; but this is my personal observation.“Sometimes it seems as if many of the people marrying young in the Church are the folks who are living together, using contraception, etc., while those who follow the Church’s teachings are unable to establish a family.”
I have seen this in my community. Those who do end up getting married young are the ones not having children because they are contracepting. If a traditionally minded person manages to find love and get married, which is EXTREMELY rare, they often can’t have the big families they wanted to because they spent 15-25 years of their life looking for love. By the time they found it, they had few fertile years left.There is a lot of truth to this. Couples who are cohabiting often end up marrying, and marrying younger than those who are following Christian teaching against extramarital sex. The end result is that the chaste end up unmarried or married later in life, while the unchaste are the ones getting married. I can’t say for sure without statistics; but this is my personal observation.