At what age will the sexual urge start to diminish?

[tigster]

According to my Mom, who is 90 years old, it is cyclical. When all the kids left the house, apparently my folks went a bit crazy for each other again. And when they hit their 80s, she claimed they couldn’t get enough of each other.

Now that my Dad has passed on, she says she misses him terribly, but she also misses the sex terribly.

And yes, for those wondering, all this was ENTIRELY too much information at the time… I much prefer to think they only made love 3 times and got us 3 children…

All that said, it is striking that the original poster doesn’t seem to have much understanding of what a marriage is all about. Perhaps from a broken or disfunctional home? Definitely time to look into the sacrament of marriage and what its all about before falling in love accidentally and ending in a disaster of a marriage.

sojo

I certainly think my parents did not have sex , lol, that is way to much for me to handle.

 

[AlanFromWichita]

If sex really shouldn’t have any impact on peolpe getting married…could someone please explain what St. Paul was talking about?

It amazes me how many Catholics refuse to believe that passage is even in the Bible and then if you read it to them they try to explain it away because they’ve always been programmed to say otherwise. It seems pretty clear cut to me.

Alan

 

[Norseman82]

It amazes me how many Catholics refuse to believe that passage is even in the Bible and then if you read it to them they try to explain it away because they’ve always been programmed to say otherwise. It seems pretty clear cut to me.

Alan

Unfortunately, some people fit the stereotype of uptight religious prudes.

There is also a subset of extremists who think that being a faithful Catholic = making the faith more difficult than it has to be.

 

[deb1]

Unfortunately, some people fit the stereotype of uptight religious prudes.

There is also a subset of extremists who think that being a faithful Catholic = making the faith more difficult than it has to be.

This is true not only of Catholics but some extreme fundamentalists,also.

 

[valient_Lucy]

For those folks who may not consider the sexual urge a gift, or who want it to go away with age, let’s not forget that we wouldn’t have the Church if it did. If Abraham and Sarah had been dead below the waist when they were in their 90s, Christ never would have come to us.

Another thing to remember is that the FIRST command God ever gave humans was to procreate. It’s not only built into our “animal” side, it’s a special gift from God to our “rational” side as well. The trick is treating it with respect and reverence as it deserves.

Peace and God bless!

I wish I could view it as a gift, but that seems impossible. It was shortly after I entered puberty and started to have sexual desires that I started to suffer from clinical depression. Even now, more than 12 years later, my sexual desires bring on feelings of depression. I can’t help but think that, if it wasn’t for them, I probably would not need to be on anti-depressant medication. How can I view something as a gift when it is literally making me unhappy? It’s seems more like a very cruel joke than a gift. Believe me, if I could make them go away, I certainly would.

 

[dbacks5439]

As a young adult who can relate quite well, I would suggest that you reflect on life in the Garden. Did Adam and Eve have sexual urges? You betcha. But what separates us from them while they lived in the Garden is that they had complete control of their drives. So often we see on sitcoms and stand-up comedians making light of the fact that sometimes one partner may be “into it” and the other is just too tired. Adam and Eve never experienced that in the Garden. They had sex when they wanted to. They had the ability to call up their sex drives in order to perform the marital act. After the Fall, the drives and urges turned the tables and now they dominate us, not us dominating them. So what does this mean for us? Well, we have free will. We can choose to act on our urges or ignore them. Secondly, we have powerful weapons that we can use to keep our urges in check. Rosary, frequent reception of the Eucharist, and Adoration help immensely in keeping our urges in check.

Just to let you know, I had for a long time the embarrassing erection that would come at the worst time. Now, I don’t experience it anymore.

 

[distracted]

Another thing to remember is that the FIRST command God ever gave humans was to procreate. It’s not only built into our “animal” side, it’s a special gift from God to our “rational” side as well.

I am mad at God because He only gave us the power to procreate (us women anyway) for a relatively short number of years…

(Ok, i am not really mad at Him… just don’t like it :whacky: )…

But then there were several women in the OT who conceived in their old age…

there was a woman in Portland, OR in the 1970s who was almost 58 when she gave birth to a healthy girl! Has anyone heard of anyone else in her 50s who has had a baby? I love these kinds of stories…

 

[Norseman82]

there was a woman in Portland, OR in the 1970s who was almost 58 when she gave birth to a healthy girl! Has anyone heard of anyone else in her 50s who has had a baby? I love these kinds of stories…

But how many of these are done via in vitro fertilization (IVF), a method which the Church finds immoral?

 

[johnnydigit]

I wish I could view it as a gift, but that seems impossible. It was shortly after I entered puberty and started to have sexual desires that I started to suffer from clinical depression. Even now, more than 12 years later, my sexual desires bring on feelings of depression. I can’t help but think that, if it wasn’t for them, I probably would not need to be on anti-depressant medication. How can I view something as a gift when it is literally making me unhappy? It’s seems more like a very cruel joke than a gift. Believe me, if I could make them go away, I certainly would.

i once used to think, “man the world would be such a more peaceful and happy place if we men were castrated. it’s such a crippling attribute we men have. less wars, less anguish, less drama, etc.”

now i know my thinking was twisted. it is a gift. i wasn’t understanding the true gift that it is, i wasn’t aware of Theology of the Body. i understand you, but i am grateful for the anguish and hardship it puts me through. it brings me closer to Christ.

i would suggest you looking deeper into what’s happening to you. look to Christ. frequent the Sacraments. spend time with Jesus in adoration. He’ll reveal to you why you are the way you are. you can overcome it and master it, you can flip it around and turn the pain into joy, no matter how excrutiatingly debilitating it seems. God bless!

“in the world you will have troubles. take courage, for i have conquered the world.”

 

[distracted]

But how many of these are done via in vitro fertilization (IVF), a method which the Church finds immoral?

The woman in Portland, OR had a child naturally… in vitro wasn’t available then… Or was it?? But anyway, she did it the natural way…