Attending EF form with no head covering

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My husband is actually the one who would like to go back to the local EF community. I like it but honestly prefer Divine Liturgy or the OF done extremely traditionally. however I do like the missa cantata EF.

However I don’t have a head covering…the scarves I have make me look like a Muslim which isn’t the look I’m wanting.

does anyone here frequent the EF without a head covering? The last time I was there about a quarter of the female attendees there didn’t cover.
 
Forgive me for the ignorance, but what’s EF and OF, and Mantilla?
 
Chatter163 said:
Why not pick up a mantilla?
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well mainly b/c I’m of German/Irish heritage and my mom and grandmas wore hats to church not mantillas…but I don’t own any hats either. I guess I just feel really odd wearing something on my head…I have NEVER done this before. At our Ukrainian Mission no one has head coverings either.
 
I’ve attended the EF once or twice when I somehow simply forgot to wear a mantilla.
It was okay, though I do prefer to wear one to the EF Mass.

followingtheway:

EF = Extraordinary Form = Latin Mass
OF = Ordinary Form = Mass in English, or the language of your home country

mantilla = woman’s head covering common to Spain

:blessyou:
 
Angel_Gabriel said:
well mainly b/c I’m of German/Irish heritage and my mom and grandmas wore hats to church not mantillas…but I don’t own any hats either. I guess I just feel really odd wearing something on my head…I have NEVER done this before. At our Ukrainian Mission no one has head coverings either.
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I’m Irish/German too.
Picked up a mantilla in Fatima, Portugal.
In any case, hope it all works out smoothly for you.

:blessyou:
 
the_phoenix said:
I’m Irish/German too.
Picked up a mantilla in Fatima, Portugal.
In any case, hope it all works out smoothly for you.

:blessyou:
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thank you 🙂 last time we sat in the very back and didn’t go up to communion…mainly b/c I was unsure about the mechanics of going up and kneeling down by row yet still standing in a line…very odd…so I’m observing till I get the hang of it lol! next week we have Divine Liturgy so I won’t be attending the EF then.
 
the_phoenix said:
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EF = Extraordinary Form = Latin Mass
OF = Ordinary Form = Mass in English, or the language of your home country
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It is not quite correct to say “Extraordinary Form = Latin Mass” – the normative version of the Ordinary Form is written in Latin and is celebrated in Latin all over the world (including every Sunday at my parish.)

It is better to say that the Extraordinary Form is the Mass using the 1962 Roman Missal – which is also known as Tridentine Mass.
 
It is not a strict requirement, except in a few extremely conservative places, that a woman be veiled. many places have headcoverings as loaners. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
 
Not everyone wears head coverings, but the times I’ve forgotten a covering, I’ve just picked up a beret or other hat from the store.

So you can just grab a hat from home.
 
I don’t have all the right vocab (or spelling), but when my Jewish cousin had her Bat-Mitzvah she received a scarf-like garment from Israel and it really was beautiful. I know the Muslim coverings have a certain way of being bound; perhaps you could look on the internet for different ways to wear a scarf for it to stay on while looking exactly how you want it to. Maybe if you got it from somewhere significant it would be more endearing to you.

Explore your options with the Internet!

For example, you could go more for the 17th Century Dutch look. (See Girl with the Pearl Earing.)
 
UGH. Somebody posted a link to a letter written by Cardinal Burke like yesterday or today addressing this very topic. Does anyone remember where it is?
 
It’s so weird that this popped up because I came here to search a similar topic that just occurred to me. I am going to the EF tomorrow for the first time (excited!) so I decided to brush up a little on the order of the Mass. The site I was reading from (not going to link to it) mentioned that women usually wear headcoverings, which I know, and also mentioned that some priests may refuse the Eucharist to a woman if her head isn’t covered. Now, I’ve never heard that, and would not expect to see that in a regular Catholic parish, perhaps an SSPX or the like, but not a regular parish. I have seen photos of the EF offered in a Diocesan parish, and while most women wear a covering, I do see quite a few without. Can/should the priest do that?

FYI, this doesn’t affect me, I love mantillas and have two lovely ones, one of which I will be wearing tomorrow, I was just wondering because I’ve never heard this before.
 
pbr7w6 said:
I believe this may be what you are referring to:
stlouiscatholic.blogspot.com/2011/04/premature-glee-on-veiling-issue.html
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Yes. Thank you.
anp1215 said:
It’s so weird that this popped up because I came here to search a similar topic that just occurred to me. I am going to the EF tomorrow for the first time (excited!) so I decided to brush up a little on the order of the Mass. The site I was reading from (not going to link to it) mentioned that women usually wear headcoverings, which I know, and also mentioned that some priests may refuse the Eucharist to a woman if her head isn’t covered. Now, I’ve never heard that, and would not expect to see that in a regular Catholic parish, perhaps an SSPX or the like, but not a regular parish. I have seen photos of the EF offered in a Diocesan parish, and while most women wear a covering, I do see quite a few without. Can/should the priest do that?

FYI, this doesn’t affect me, I love mantillas and have two lovely ones, one of which I will be wearing tomorrow, I was just wondering because I’ve never heard this before.
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No, a priest can’t refuse Holy Communion for that.
 
Some parishes that do only the EF Mass may be more strict on the head covering requirements for women and girls but its best to check ahead of time as to what they want but I am sure they would be more forgiving of a visitor compared to a regular. Every EF Mass I have attended, I have worn a mantilla as I’ve not found a dressy yet small hat that doesn’t make me look like an old woman. I have seen some older women wear dress hats to the EF Mass. Most females wear some type of mantilla that varies in style, color (black or white), and size.

Keep in mind, I do attend both forms of the Mass, and wear a mantilla at both. No one has dared approach me and asked me to remove it before or after Mass. I do get more compliments on my mantilla at the OF Mass with a few women asking me where they can get one.
 
Tridentinum said:
Did they in the past I wonder? In the 1917 Code of Canon Law, women wearing veils was a requirement if I am not mistaken.
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Headcoverings. Not necessarily veils. And that would be based on the custom and culture of the time and place. Catholic women in “Little House on the Prairie” days in the US would have worn a bonnet or their “Sunday best” hat. Women in that time in Spain would have worn a mantilla, but you wouldn’t have found an Irish immigrant sporting one of those at Mass in Boston in the 1800’s. The “veil” that so many on here adore (that would be a lacy Mantilla) was made popular by Jackie Kennedy when she was photographed meeting the Pope wearing one. Given the relative ease to get one online these days, their inexpensive cost, and the fact you can stash one in your purse, car, or pocket, they seem to be an easy way to cover at Mass…but it’s not the required form of headcovering.
 
Angel_Gabriel said:
well mainly b/c I’m of German/Irish heritage and my mom and grandmas wore hats to church not mantillas…but I don’t own any hats either. I guess I just feel really odd wearing something on my head…I have NEVER done this before. At our Ukrainian Mission no one has head coverings either.
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I don’t cover my head at Mass, nor do a number of other women. No one seems to care.
 
Deo_Gratias42 said:
I don’t cover my head at Mass, nor do a number of other women. No one seems to care.
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I don’t know wear you live, but it is winter outside and if you have a scarf with you, just wear it as you normally would (as in around your neck) and when you get to Mass, it all the other women have headcoverings, slip your scarf up on your head. If not every female is covered, you can go without and not feel like you are sticking out. Then you can determine if God is calling you to cover at Mass or not.
 
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