Late to the discussion but here I am.
The parishes in my area tend to be extremely modern to put it politely with their approach to mass and I do not fit in well culturally either.
We believe in transubstantiation, meaning the body and blood of Christ are very much present at the Eucharist. Attending Mass, where it is done licitly and validly, is a blessing and a requirement on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation for Catholics.
Why would you place warm fuzzy community feelings over that?
I’ve parish hopped plenty, but never have I considered going to a service that isn’t Catholic to fulfil the aforementioned obligations—because they wouldn’t be fulfilled. I’ve parish hopped because I have also not liked aspects of worship such as the music or lack of it, the people attending, the priest, etc. Sometimes, the soul feels restless but many times it is such a blessing and relief to let go of the “ideal” Mass we may have in our minds.
This Advent and Christmas I am journeying with
this Henri Nouwen book. On Day 22 there is an excerpt from a speech he gave in 1994 to FADICA members about community:
[…] Community is in fact the place where you are purified, where your love is tested, where your childhood of God is constantly put through the mill of human relationships. […] Community is a place where Judas always is and sometimes it is just you.
Preferably, you would find a community that allows you to let go of the “idea” of the perfect Mass. Communities change—the priest leaves, a new parish council is appointed, people move away, the Choir goes on a hiatus. Finding Jesus and allowing yourself to sit with him, everywhere you go is such a blessing.
The complaints about modern Masses feels like that may be your Judas, enticing you to seek an ideal that may never be able to be satisfied, if it is is perhaps only momentarily.
Hope you find your place of peace.
