Attire and behaviour when attending masses

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Does anyone else here also feel a little bit triggered when attending masses and you see people:
  • wearing shorts, sleeveless top or thongs.
  • have their arms in the pocket or behind their back while standing
  • don’t bow when passing the altar
  • receive communion with one hand only (rare)
 
Do you mean thongs in the Australian sense of the word or British. If Australian it wouldn’t bother me but if British I would be 😲
 
Lost, I am in Australia.
In summer when it’s hot, really hot, like over 100F hot,
There are people who wear shorts thongs and bare arms.

You might need to learn to focus on your interaction with Jesus at Mass if you are finding
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have their arms in the pocket or behind their back while standing
don’t bow when passing the altar
receive communion with one hand only (rare)
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Triggering you,
 
Your job is to focus on how you behave in the presence of God. Your focus is to focus on God.

It is a temptation to distract one’s self away from God and look at others. Try not to do this. It’s not helpful to your relationship with God or to others.
 
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Maybe it’s a bit of cultural difference.
Sorry if I offended anyone.
 
Maybe a little more attention on the Mass, and a little less on other people?
 
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have their arms in the pocket or behind their back while standing
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Standing with their arms behind their back and with one wrist held in the other hand?
That was probably me.
 
Ok that explains why I see it differently.
Where I grew up these are considered not respectful in church. That’s why I am asking. I don’t actively look for people to judge. Just saw before my eyes.
You might consider my questions rude, but I didn’t mean to be rude.
But please don’t reply with harsh comments.
 
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I used to be very strict about how I dressed for Mass. Then, one Saturday when I was preparing special arrangements for the Palm Sunday Masses, and rushing to finish, one of the ushers came to find me and said “X isn’t here and we’re short a lector. Can you do one of the readings?” I argued I couldn’t because while I still looked neat (despite having been arguing with palms for several hours) I was wearing blue jeans. The priest walked by and said, “I’m wearing blue jeans too. You’re fine. It’s a Mass, not a fashion show.”

I still wear business attire most times, but I remember his words when people get fussy about what others are wearing.
 
I am not fussy at all, just to clarify.
I don’t wear fancy clothes.
I just think spending time to groom yourself shows respect.
Like going to work for example. Being neat is what I mean.
But some might say I judge people. Do I hate/look down on the people with behaviour I mention? No. Was just finding an answer for my confusion. Thanks for your answer though, I was just explaining myself.
 
Here’s what I personally do. I save and wear my best (an old tradition) every Sunday. I only have one suit and I keep it as nice as I can for those times that are special to me. I also receive communion on the tongue only so my hands are not an option.
I don’t mind if others don’t. I’ve seen plenty of different styles. Some people do the same as me and some don’t. I just like the tradition that I’ve held on to.
By the way, if I attend mass any other day other than Sunday, I usually dress in something more comfortable. Most of the time I would be coming from working all day. Just a matter of taste I guess.
 
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have their arms in the pocket or behind their back while standing
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Standing with their arms behind their back and with one wrist held in the other hand?
That was probably me.
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Or me. Sometimes my back gets sore from sitting on a hard bench, and stretching it out like this helps.
 
Oh I am totally fine with receiving communion on hands too. But both hands is what I mean.
I receive communion on my hands btw.
Again the more I think about it, that’s the cultural difference.
Thanks for the answer.
 
That’s certainly a relief. I would try not to focus on how others dress. If there was a problem I’m sure the priest would mention it after mass or in a newsletter.
 
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