Attire for Vigil Mass

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That’s terrible. Your priest should’ve taken that into consideration.
 
I had no dry shampoo left was late for mass no time to wash hair so used plain flour (just as good if used sparingly) and went to mass. Trouble is I used too much and wondered why I was getting funny looks ! Came out and realised I looked like lily Munster. Hey at least I went 😆
 
He was not my regular parish priest so he didn’t know me personally. But yes, he should have known better.
 
I am so sorry this happened. It is unacceptable. Some priests place unrealistic expectations on altar servers. It is so wrong.
 
This is simply wrong. I pray that you are exaggerating or something.
 
13pollitos said:
This is simply wrong. I pray that you are exaggerating or something.
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Me, too. It seems so contrary to the New Testament. The only thing I can think of, is that there was more to object to than the clothing. Perhaps the person thrown out was drunk or abusive. Even so, I can’t see the ushers at our parish getting so aggressive. They’d try to deal with it discreetly. with minimal disruption.
 
I wear nice jeans, a sweater and sneakers. I can’t wear dress shoes because of a bad foot.
 
What is the purpose of shaming people like that? How does it benefit anyone or draw them closer to God? My husband grew up extremely poor and didn’t have any shoes until he was 9. One of his cousins outgrew her pink flip flops and they happened to fit him, so that was his first shoes. Many of the adults in his town never had shoes, the rest had tattered hand me downs. Of course there were better off families that dressed well (but apparently not good enough for your parish. Shorts, t shirts, flip flops, traditional indiginous dresses, etc). I can’t imagine what shame it would have been if the ones who had better decided to shame the others like that.

Now that my husband is here in the US and can buy whatever shoes he wants, he still has one pair of flip flops he wears around the house. They are pink. He says he hopes they help him stay humble and connected to his roots. And every year he sends tons of nice tennis shoes to his town in multiple sizes so that others can have them.

I’ll pray for your parish. It seems that many people have forgotten that even our poorest are better off than half the world population. Our homeless have options for food and clothing that many areas of the world can’t even dream of.
 
The important thing is that you’re showing up to receive Jesus. Don’t worry about it.
 
He really does. I am so happy he is the father of my children. Thank you
 
Even priests can’t agree on this topic. I’ve had a priest tell parishioners it doesn’t matter, just come to mass, and another tell parishioners that they should dress as if going to a wedding. I don’t dress as if going to a wedding except for Christmas and Easter, but I draw the line at wearing shorts (even in the heat of August), since Church is air conditioned. Casual work attire is perfectly acceptable
 
Parishioners in my parish dress in a variety of different ways. Some men wear suits, some wear khakis, some wear jeans. Some women wear dresses, some pants, some jeans. To be honest, not all of it is to my personal taste, but big deal. If our pastor has an issue with anyone’s attire, he will address it discreetly.
 
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Then your pastor should be ashamed of himself. Have parishioners spoken to him privately to tell him how inappropriate that behavior is? If he hasn’t listened, have they written to the bishop?
 
I’ve always felt that the Saturday Vigil Mass was somewhat more casual and has more leeway in terms of attire. Although it doesn’t seem to matter much anymore one way or the other.
 
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I am stuck at work in casual attire and don’t have time to go home and change for Mass
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As mentioned to another poster, this is my situation as well. I’ve never worried about, at least not after I saw how casually numerous others were dressed.
 
I would say, if you are working on Saturday, then why not wear dress shoes or maybe a collared shirt to work? Would that be OK?

Or, if for some reason you can’t, leave a pair of dress shoes and a sport coat or collared shirt in the car and change when you get to Mass. Easy to put on another pair of shoes in the car…
 
You misunderstand. The people who have been thrown out for dressing inappropriately are not poor. They are not homeless. They purposely dress provocatively causing a scene among the rest of the parishioners as well as being loud and using crude language.

These people have been given the opportunity to change into clothes that are more appropriate. They have been asked to stop the loud and crude behavior. They refuse to stop any of it.

As a result, they are not welcome in our parish.
 
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You misunderstand. The people who have been thrown out for dressing inappropriately are not poor. They are not homeless. They purposely dress provocatively causing a scene among the rest of the parishioners as well as being loud and using crude language.

These people have been given the opportunity to change into clothes that are more appropriate. They have been asked to stop the loud and crude behavior. They refuse to stop any of it.

As a result, they are not welcome in our parish.
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It seems to me that you have massively changed the story now, lilypadrees.

Possibly because of all the posts disagreeing with you?
 
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