I had already sent him an email (last night) stating I did not think we were a great match… I explained it a bit but more in what I am looking for (doing a Masters myself someday).
He is pretty set on how he wants to live his life - woman must come to his city, have children, stay at home, home school the children, and he doesn’t want internet/tv. As much as I love the US, that sounds really isolated from my family and all my friends. It sounds like his main social group is his family - his sister, his mom, his dad, and his niece. So that sounds even more lonely, especially since he’s the only Catholic in his family. I think he’ll make a great husband for another woman
Canadiannurse:
You seem like a good woman with a good head on your shoulders. Sometimes, these online discussions with someone you could be interested in dating are good to have before meeting in person (like schooling, places, personality differences, etc.), and it looks like you and your potential male friend did just that. Sometimes, it’s good to bring up things like that on sites such as Ave Maria Singles and Catholic Match (I speak from experience).
However, I will say attraction is different for a woman than it is for a man. Some women after a while will become more attracted to a man who treats her with respect, a man who can carry on a conversation, and particularly a man who is able to make a woman laugh (women I have known tell me that humor is important). My mother wasn’t physically attracted to my father at first (at least that’s what she told me many years ago), and they have been married now for 52 years.
Second, I wouldn’t let height go too much into consideration. I have had some women who are 5’-8" or taller tell me that height is an issue. I can understand if a woman is say, 5’-9" or taller that she would want to date a man who is at least 6’-0". That way, it’s easier for her to wear heels and do some slow dancing. One woman I know who is 5’-11" got married recently and she confided in me years ago that she felt more protected with a taller man.
Personally, I think if a woman is say, average height (which I believe is 5’-4"), please don’t hesitate to go out with a man with a good personality who is say, 5’-7". I know several couples where the woman is about the same height as the man, and some where the woman is a few inches taller. Quite frankly, my brother’s wife is 3 inches taller than him, and they have been married 15+ years. I have a female co-worker who has a slightly shorter husband, and she doesn’t mind wearing flats from time to time, even though his height doesn’t bother him very much - he is a successful man, deeply religious, and he is also athletic.
By the way, I am a guy who has dated a few girls that were taller than me, and I was really flattered that a woman I met online (and later met in person) didn’t mind the fact that I was about 3 cm shorter than her. (I’m 5’-5" without shoes, and I can make eye contact with a lady who is around 5’-7".). Personally, I’m uncomfortable asking out someone who is over 5’-8", and I’ve had a few girlfriends who were under 5’-4".
Canadiannurse, it’s just something to think about - that’s all. You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders, and I’m sure you will find a nice Catholic man to marry.
