Awesome article about how it's impossible to abuse NFP

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But in reality providentialism regarding family size is a fairly recent thing also and could be called a new theology. People traditionally did have big families in the past but that was in the context of lack of knowledge about fertility cycles. The idea of providence meant something different in that environment than it does now. For example, people coped with mulitple deaths of children due to disease in those days also and the idea of providence was Gods comfort and support for this situation. Some of the crazier providentialists now though reject the use of modern medicine… because they feel it is the Christian thing to leave our fate to providence! That’s not what providence meant or means! This is what the new ‘providentials’ are extrapolating from past experience in order to assume that leaving everything to providence is ‘the default’.

Planning your family based on your individual marriages vision for it by periodically abstaining from sexual intercourse based on fertility knowledge … or just ‘going for it’, is legitimate. Accepting children lovingly from God is the ideal. A theory that states that choosing not to plan your family is the ‘default’, reduces us to mere animals. Not co-creators with God.
People traditionally did have big families in the past but that was in the context of lack of knowledge about fertility cycles.
False. It is quite evident in the Bible that fertility cycles were widely known. (Clean and unclean) This idea that women in the past did not know how babies were made is a misrepresentation of history. In fact, the argument could be made very well that people knew BETTER then than now. ABC has taken care of that for us and reduced it to am answer on a high school biology test. When I was in youth ministry many young people who asked questions about why the Church was against ABC and who were sexually active had no idea when one could get pregnant or what their cycle was. Many thought a period was ovulation.🤷
The idea of providence meant something different in that environment than it does now. For example, people coped with mulitple deaths of children due to disease in those days also and the idea of providence was Gods comfort and support for this situation.
That is speculation on what they thought. I’m sure comfort played a part in it but we don’t really know what the average person thought do we?
Some of the crazier providentialists now though reject the use of modern medicine… because they feel it is the Christian thing to leave our fate to providence! That’s not what providence meant or means! This is what the new ‘providentials’ are extrapolating from past experience in order to assume that leaving everything to providence is ‘the default’.
By calling people crazy for a religious belief you are smearing more than just Catholics who do not like NFP. And saying it is a new thing is not really accurate either. Perhaps you have head of the Amish and other religions who also shun medical treatment. Now, I have never met a Catholic who thought this. 🤷
Planning your family based on your individual marriages vision for it by periodically abstaining from sexual intercourse based on fertility knowledge … or just ‘going for it’, is legitimate. Accepting children lovingly from God is the ideal. A theory that states that choosing not to plan your family is the ‘default’, reduces us to mere animals. Not co-creators with God
😃 If only you had just written this part of the post. A very true paragraph!
However sometimes the plan is for some marriages to not plan. That does not make them animals, but rather just have a different plan than you.
 
By calling people crazy for a religious belief you are smearing more than just Catholics who do not like NFP. And saying it is a new thing is not really accurate either. Perhaps you have head of the Amish and other religions who also shun medical treatment. Now, I have never met a Catholic who thought this. 🤷
At least on this forum one often bumps into Catholics who are doing less medical treatment than they are morally allowed to or really ought to–enduring years of painful gynecological symptoms, not doing ultrasounds during pregnancy, not using pain relief during labor and delivery, etc.

There are genuinely a lot of misunderstandings in this area.
 
At least on this forum one often bumps into Catholics who are doing less medical treatment than they are morally allowed to or really ought to–enduring years of painful gynecological symptoms, not doing ultrasounds during pregnancy, not using pain relief during labor and delivery, etc.

There are genuinely a lot of misunderstandings in this area.
I don’t see the theological issue here. Perhaps a medical one. Either way, I have not seen it. I do however see the opposite on IVF threads and ABC threads. Using medical treatment for illicit means. But that is not really relevant to the NFP discussion anyway.
 
From Catechism:

2367 Called to give life, spouses share in the creative power and fatherhood of God. 154 "Married couples should regard it as their proper mission to transmit human life and to educate their children; they should realize that they are thereby cooperating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain sense, its interpreters. They will fulfill this duty with a sense of human and Christian responsibility." 155

I always wonder why people feel that if a couple does not use periodic continence, they are not thinking, they are acting like animals, and are not cooperating with God in this area.

Do you not agree that the Catechism is saying that in transmitting life and educating their children, couples are cooperating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain sense, its interpreters? It doesn’t mention that couples need to use periodic continence by default in order to do this. And you can ask families out there that by default have not used NFP (maybe using it here and there when needed, maybe never using it) whether they have had to think, whether they have had to pray about their family, seek God’s will in their life, or if they simply have used ‘Que Sera Sera’ as a motto in the education of their children and making decisions in their life etc. And I don’t mean ‘Que Sera Sera’ in a trusting in God, praying and doing our best, but being at peace way… I mean it in the negative way Dr. Popcak did in his article…
 
I don’t see the theological issue here. Perhaps a medical one. Either way, I have not seen it. I do however see the opposite on IVF threads and ABC threads. Using medical treatment for illicit means. But that is not really relevant to the NFP discussion anyway.
Believe it–it pops up a lot on CAF. A woman might have horribly painful gynecological issues and believe that she isn’t allowed to follow the normal treatment plans for it, a woman might believe that she “has to” do unmedicated childbirth, has to do extended breastfeeding, has to do attachment parenting, has to do homebirth with no ultrasounds, has to have 8+ kids no matter what, etc. There are a lot of barnacles that attach themselves to the barque of Peter and (too switch metaphors), not every faithful Catholic is a black belt ethicist.

It took me rather a while to realize that, hey, all that old CCL attachment parenting stuff is not actually magisterial teaching, and I have more access to orthodox Catholic academics than the average Catholic bear.
 
Women all over the world at many points in human history had a decent working knowledge of their fertile cycle. The now passe rhythm method is an example of an application of what humans already understood. Sure there were problems applying such a model to all women, but it was based on a rough outline of the female fertility cycle.

Furthermore, women thousands of years ago as women of today exhibited visible and noticeable signs of fertility around ovulation, which gave them even greater clues about their own personal cycle. TMI Alert: It is really, really hard to overlook the sudden increase in wetness and slipperiness in the female genitals that strangely occurs at the roughly halfway point in the cycle. Also, middlesmertz (spelling?), meaning middle pain, or the pain accompanying ovulation, has been widely known and transmitted centuries, if not more, before NFP as a scientific method was developed.

Did every single woman on the planet know exactly what these signs meant and how to interpret them? No, obviously not. But the fact that some women might have signs that might be missed, or the fact that some women might not know what the signs mean, and the fact that such knowledge was only recently investigated using the scientific method does not mean that people in the past had no way of knowing when pregnancy could occur and when it was not likely. And I think it would be a safe wager to bet that a good percentage of married couples acted on their understanding with respect to observing periods of abstinence to avoid pregnancy if necessary.

I suspect that the great majority of those who abstain during the fertile time and those who do not abstain are just trying to live chastely and prudently (as well as a host of other virtues). So, I do not really see why there is a battle at all. 🤷 Both groups of people are living within the moral framework and natural order given to us by God, so why would there be such vitriolic condemnation of the other side?

I know I am probably preaching to the choir about this, because many people here have expressed similar sentiments already. I guess I just felt compelled to chime in. 🙂
 
Believe it–it pops up a lot on CAF. A woman might have horribly painful gynecological issues and believe that she isn’t allowed to follow the normal treatment plans for it, a woman might believe that she “has to” do unmedicated childbirth, has to do extended breastfeeding, has to do attachment parenting, has to do homebirth with no ultrasounds, has to have 8+ kids no matter what, etc. There are a lot of barnacles that attach themselves to the barque of Peter and (too switch metaphors), not every faithful Catholic is a black belt ethicist.

It took me rather a while to realize that, hey, all that old CCL attachment parenting stuff is not actually magisterial teaching, and I have more access to orthodox Catholic academics than the average Catholic bear.
Is it your contention that the authors were addressing those who refuse medical treatment? Or is all of this a different subject.

I have not seen people (catholics) reject medicine or technology on theological principle on these boards. Any more than we reject the “medicine” of ABC.🤷 But if you see that a lot, then you must be on different threads than me. I just don’t see what the point of arguing and pigeonholing these hypothetical “others” as crazy.
 
Believe it–it pops up a lot on CAF. A woman might have horribly painful gynecological issues and believe that she isn’t allowed to follow the normal treatment plans for it, a woman might believe that she “has to” do unmedicated childbirth, has to do extended breastfeeding, has to do attachment parenting, has to do homebirth with no ultrasounds, has to have 8+ kids no matter what, etc. There are a lot of barnacles that attach themselves to the barque of Peter and (too switch metaphors), not every faithful Catholic is a black belt ethicist.

It took me rather a while to realize that, hey, all that old CCL attachment parenting stuff is not actually magisterial teaching, and I have more access to orthodox Catholic academics than the average Catholic bear.
unmedicated childbirth
extended breastfeeding
homebirth
attachment parenting

These things I have seen promoted as “gospel” amongst secular groups, but I was unaware that any Catholics promoted them. In fact, the more the years pass since my conversion, the more those “truths” of secular philosophical systems seem to just wither away compared to the Truth of the actual Gospel and the reality that all pregnancies and all mothers and all marriages/families/children/childbirth/etc are different.
 
Is it your contention that the authors were addressing those who refuse medical treatment? Or is all of this a different subject.

I have not seen people (catholics) reject medicine or technology on theological principle on these boards. Any more than we reject the “medicine” of ABC.🤷 But if you see that a lot, then you must be on different threads than me. I just don’t see what the point of arguing and pigeonholing these hypothetical “others” as crazy.
I don’t think it’s “crazy,” but I do think it’s a misunderstanding of what Catholic teaching actually requires.
 
unmedicated childbirth
extended breastfeeding
homebirth
attachment parenting

These things I have seen promoted as “gospel” amongst secular groups, but I was unaware that any Catholics promoted them. In fact, the more the years pass since my conversion, the more those “truths” of secular philosophical systems seem to just wither away compared to the Truth of the actual Gospel and the reality that all pregnancies and all mothers and all marriages/families/children/childbirth/etc are different.
Yeah.

My feeling is that there’s a tendency for a lot of different non-mainstream groups to embrace the same “alternative” lifestyle stuff, even though the philosophies animating them are totally different, in fact diametrically opposed. I have no particular hostility toward practitioners of attachment parenting, but I think it would be wiser for Catholics who write professionally about attachment parenting and family life to be more explicit about the fact that it’s not mandatory and that there are many fine Catholic families who don’t do it.

“I’m doing this, but this is optional” needs to be said a lot more, I think.
 
Do you think refusing modern medical treatment for oneself or ones children out of some Christian belief that we should leave our fate to providence is crazy?
No I don’t. And I think it is against forum rules to degrade people of faith that way. While I don’t agree with some people, I recognize that some of my “crazy” beliefs would be subject to the same criticism. LIke a resurrected God. The Eucharist. Flying saints, incorruptible dead bodies, the sun dancing in the sky. etc. So I tend to hold off on viewing others as crazy. Misinformed perhaps, but not “crazy”

Crazy as forsaking your own life for the life of others? That too my friend, can be called crazy by those who are not of our faith.
 
No I don’t. And I think it is against forum rules to degrade people of faith that way. .
Here you go again with the religious exemption clause. I would imagine it is against forum rules to degrade anyone, even people of no faith and people who do not hold the same opinions as us.
And I think it is against forum rules to degrade people of faith that way. While I don’t agree with some people, I recognize that some of my “crazy” beliefs would be subject to the same criticism. LIke a resurrected God. The Eucharist. Flying saints, incorruptible dead bodies, the sun dancing in the sky. etc. So I tend to hold off on viewing others as crazy. Misinformed perhaps, but not “crazy”

Crazy as forsaking your own life for the life of others? That too my friend, can be called crazy by those who are not of our faith.
This speaks exactly to my point. It’s not all or nothing…it’s not either all religious ideas are crazy and absurd or they all deserve respect. Good try though. 🙂
 
False. It is quite evident in the Bible that fertility cycles were widely known. (Clean and unclean) This idea that women in the past did not know how babies were made is a misrepresentation of history. In fact, the argument could be made very well that people knew BETTER then than now. ABC has taken care of that for us and reduced it to am answer on a high school biology test. When I was in youth ministry many young people who asked questions about why the Church was against ABC and who were sexually active had no idea when one could get pregnant or what their cycle was. Many thought a period was ovulation.🤷

By calling people crazy for a religious belief you are smearing more than just Catholics who do not like NFP. And saying it is a new thing is not really accurate either. Perhaps you have head of the Amish and other religions who also shun medical treatment. Now, I have never met a Catholic who thought this. 🤷
I find people endlessly curious. Hoosier, you were so indignant about the biased reporting of the original article and how it was her interpretation of the audience reaction. Yet I find this tactic such a strong feature of your own ‘reporting’ of my post. It sent the conversation off into an altogether different direction based on your misrepresentation of my post.

I did not say people in the past didn’t know about fertility cycles at all. I said they lacked knowledge about those cycles. The ability to control family size was limited by this lack of knowledge. The opportunity for husbands to be part of that plan through knowledge was even less available. General attitudes towards women and their shared place in the ‘marital debt’ has improved across society. A positive of that lack of knowledge was a more cultural expectation to stay chaste until marriage. It was not just seen as a Catholic thing and its a lot easier to be chaste when it is a general taboo not to be. Also whilst our knowledge of fertility has increased along with many other technological improvements, our capacity to cope with larger families has reduced by less availability of extended family to share in the parenting and even down to the need for bigger vehicles to cope with bigger families. When I was a kid, we regularly crammed 4 or 5 children in the back of the holden, with a baby on Mums lap to go to Mass or visit relatives etc. It’s against the law to do such things now.

There are so many factors that make the ability to more accurately plan your family size a godsend and I mean… truly from God.

When I addressed the providentialist mindset in regards to medical treatment, I wasn’t suggesting this is a Catholic providentialist thing. I was thinking of the Christian sects that refuse blood transfusions and organ transplants etc. But as is also mentioned, there is a providentialist stronghold around events like childbirth, breastfeeding and gynacological issues that sees its position as morally superior rather than a personal preference that may or may not have godly motivations.

With that example… I was addressing the mistake of the *theoretical *providentialist.
That is speculation on what they thought. I’m sure comfort played a part in it but we don’t really know what the average person thought do we?
We do have a clear perspective on what providence really means to us, via the CCC…

306 God is the sovereign master of his plan. But to carry it out he also makes use of his creatures’ co-operation. This use is not a sign of weakness, but rather a token of almighty God’s greatness and goodness. For God grants his creatures not only their existence, but also the dignity of acting on their own, of being causes and principles for each other, and thus of co-operating in the accomplishment of his plan.

307 To human beings God even gives the power of freely sharing in his providence by entrusting them with the responsibility of “subduing” the earth and having dominion over it.168 God thus enables men to be intelligent and free causes in order to complete the work of creation, to perfect its harmony for their own good and that of their neighbors. Though often unconscious collaborators with God’s will, they can also enter deliberately into the divine plan by their actions, their prayers and their sufferings.169 They then fully become “God’s fellow workers” and co-workers for his kingdom.170

To me this makes the issue of choosing family size out of the bounds of anyones elses judgement and makes NFP primarily about protecting the integrity of the sexual act against fracture and abuse and to guard against the concupisence that tends to prioritise sexual gratification over genuinely working as co-operators with God in responsibly planning our families.
However sometimes the plan is for some marriages to not plan. That does not make them animals, but rather just have a different plan than you.
This is where the author distinguished between personal providentialists and theoretical providentialists. To not plan and to welcome unlimited children into your life as a reflection of you, your preferences and capacities to cope… is perfectly in line with Church teaching and as she says the Church has a preferential love for these families. But the idea that not planning is morally superior to planning, indicates a rejection of our gift of being co-operators with God in choosing our family makeup and esteeming the meaning of our animal urges. It’s about the erroneous default attitude of the theoretical providentialists.
 
With that example… I was addressing the mistake of the *theoretical *providentialist.

We do have a clear perspective on what providence really means to us, via the CCC…

306 God is the sovereign master of his plan. But to carry it out he also makes use of his creatures’ co-operation. This use is not a sign of weakness, but rather a token of almighty God’s greatness and goodness. For God grants his creatures not only their existence, but also the dignity of acting on their own, of being causes and principles for each other, and thus of co-operating in the accomplishment of his plan.

307 To human beings God even gives the power of freely sharing in his providence by entrusting them with the responsibility of “subduing” the earth and having dominion over it.168 God thus enables men to be intelligent and free causes in order to complete the work of creation, to perfect its harmony for their own good and that of their neighbors. Though often unconscious collaborators with God’s will, they can also enter deliberately into the divine plan by their actions, their prayers and their sufferings.169 They then fully become “God’s fellow workers” and co-workers for his kingdom.170
These quotes from the Catechism are not at odds with choosing to leave things “up to God” instead of planning out when you want to have each kid.
To me this makes the issue of choosing family size out of the bounds of anyones elses judgement and makes NFP primarily about protecting the integrity of the sexual act against fracture and abuse and to guard against the concupisence that tends to prioritise sexual gratification over genuinely working as co-operators with God in responsibly planning our families.
I am not understanding this part. The first part, yes, we cannot judge from the outside, but I don’t understand the rest… are you saying NFP does this vs choosing to live without using anything to avoid (in other words the latter is more harmful to the integrity of the sexual act etc etc)? Or are you comparing it to ABC? NFP is not necessary to genuinely work as co-operators with God, nor to be responsible with our gifts of fertility etc.
 
I just feel that the Catechism is pretty straightforward here and there is no need to come up with new rules that can mislead people seeking the Truth.
2367 Called to give life, spouses share in the creative power and fatherhood of God.153 "Married couples should regard it as their proper mission to transmit human life and to educate their children; they should realize that they are thereby cooperating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain sense, its interpreters. They will fulfill this duty with a sense of human and Christian responsibility."154
A couple is cooperating with God when they have their children and educate them. Deciding to have them 3 years apart, or only in the winter or whatever isn’t what makes a couple cooperators with God.
2368 A particular aspect of this responsibility concerns the regulation of procreation. For just reasons, spouses may wish to space the births of their children. It is their duty to make certain that their desire is not motivated by selfishness but is in conformity with the generosity appropriate to responsible parenthood. Moreover, they should conform their behavior to the objective criteria of morality:
When it is a question of harmonizing married love with the responsible transmission of life, the morality of the behavior does not depend on sincere intention and evaluation of motives alone; but it must be determined by objective criteria, criteria drawn from the nature of the person and his acts criteria that respect the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love; this is possible only if the virtue of married chastity is practiced with sincerity of heart.155
We need to make sure our reasons are not selfish. Period. It is very clear here that we need to have just reasons, and make sure they are not selfish ones. I cannot imagine why this would be included in the Catechism if it was a known Truth that it was impossible to have reasons that were selfish or not just. I don’t understand the fixation with trying to say this is true. How does it help anyone? We need to have sensitive consciences (different from scrupulosity), aim for what is best, and we cannot aim for what is best if the Truth is muddy. Saying that just/unselfish reasons are needed is far from saying that just/unselfish reasons don’t exist. Of course they exist, and a couple can very well embrace NFP to avoid and grow towards holiness using NFP when they find themselves in a situation where they need to avoid. The morality of periodic continence is pretty straightforward. If you have reasons to avoid, you can avoid, if you don’t, then you shouldn’t. I can’t imagine anyone reading the Catechism and reaching the conclusion that even though you don’t feel you have just reasons to avoid, you should avoid pregnancy to plan out when you will have your kids in order to prove that you are using intelligence etc.
2369 "By safeguarding both these essential aspects, the unitive and the procreative, the conjugal act preserves in its fullness the sense of true mutual love and its orientation toward man’s exalted vocation to parenthood."156
Self-explanatory, and once again, periodic continence is not necessary for the act to preserve in its fullness the sense of true mutual love etc.

Also, if a couple feels like they should avoid periodically to help them in other ways, they don’t have to coincide the abstaining with the fertile period if they don’t have just reasons to avoid. They could choose to abstain for other periods of time etc.

I always feel this helps in discerning if reasons are good or not:
2371 "Let all be convinced that human life and the duty of transmitting it are not limited by the horizons of this life only: their true evaluation and full significance can be understood only in reference to man’s eternal destiny."160
 
I find people endlessly curious. Hoosier, you were so indignant about the biased reporting of the original article and how it was her interpretation of the audience reaction. Yet I find this tactic such a strong feature of your own ‘reporting’ of my post. It sent the conversation off into an altogether different direction based on your misrepresentation of my post.
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  1. I am not a reporter or journalist.
  2. People in the past knew enough about cycles to abuse or use the information.
  3. NFP (methods)in theology is unique and new.
  4. I will say what I say in every thread. Morality is the same throughout all Christian history. Just because we have packaged avoiding conception in a website, book, class, or method does not mean that it is without rules. The marketing of NFP has been an utter failure. And instead of going after ABC Catholics NFP and providentialists go at it with each other. And to be honest, they both serve a need.
What is moral regarding children and sex is uniform across educational backgrounds economic status, and historical time periods.

I take issue with those who preach NFP as a mandate (Dr. Greg) and who are somehow offended that others choose not to use it. I also take issue with those who say it is immoral or illicit to use it in every circumstance and that it is no better than ABC.

My wife and I abandoned NFP. Are we somehow less holy? Do we somehow get pigeonholed as judging those who use it? We used to instruct in NFP and we stopped, then we stopped using it in our marriage. We have friends who divorced because of NFP who were instructors.
We abused NFP and it was a bad thing. Now we do not have that in our marriage. No offense to those who do. But when people like the OP author and Dr Greg start taking shots at those who do not see it as they do, they only give scandal to those outside the fight practicing ABC. Same with the provs.

NFP is not the default or the historical theological way we have fulfilled God’s very first command to us. (multiply) Nor is it part of one of the sacraments Jesus instituted (marriage)

NFP is not the default, having children is the default.
 
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