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Just to forewarn, I may ramble on a bit but there are certain things I need to get off my chest. I’ll try to be as brief as possible…
Things between me and my older sister (she’s 24 years old) are becoming increasingly awkward and tense; not just between me and her but the whole family is starting to go a little nuts.
Why is this you ask? Well, long story short, she is convinced that she will, singlehandedly, bring all the churches together…and in order to do that, the first step, in her mind, is to be initiated into as many churches as possible. She’s already making plans to become baptized into the Mormon church…Thing is, she’s made it very clear that she doesn’t see it as “converting” to another faith, but just joining it. She fully intends to still go to Mass and receive Communion despite this o_o She says it’ll inspire others if she tells one church that she’s ALSO attending another; that she can in some way be the middle man or something.
Me, my parents, we’ve talked about the MANY issues with this plan, numerous times; contradicting doctrines (she says she can believe EVERY doctrine of EVERY religion, what??), the serious sin of receiving Communion as an apostate (then she says “who says it’s a sin?”), the biblical proof of ONE true church, etc. Nothing we say to her gets through to her.
For one thing, she’s been talking to this non-denominational Christian friend of ours over the phone who may or may not be putting certain ideas in her head. Thing is, even if it was just the hint of an idea, I think she has taken certain ideas proposed to her and just ran wild with them.
For an example, this friend of ours has been teaching her about things which come from the prosperity gospel, and now my sister thinks that you can get whatever you want if you believe “hard enough”. She talks about things like wanting to own a huge mansion, marry a “hot” guy, having gorgeous looking children, and some rather crazy things as well (like having an amusement park in her home). Not that it wouldn’t be cool, but…I don’t know. Her beliefs have just about flipped upside down from what they were, even to a more harmful extent. She was talking about it being ok to have sex before marriage (Adam and Eve didn’t have a “wedding”, right?) and that it would be fine for her husband to marry more than one!
…In short, she came to one, very mislead conclusion about the Bible: “It teaches that everything is ok”.
Um, no! How did you even come to that conclusion? What are the 10 commandments even for?? Also, she has this whole “if it doesn’t hurt anyone else, than it’s A ok” mentality now. It’s kind of crazy. When she was younger, she would be shocked at what she believes now. She feels like a different person almost. One one hand, she went through a lot of mental struggles with people in the past (she has Aspergers) and was depressed all the time. Now, she seems to be all giggles and smiles on the outside at least, but she won’t admit that she has a problem. She is a bit manic as well. She doesn’t want medicine or counseling and seems to think she is right as rain!
Not to mention she just…has this “high and mighty” arrogance about her a lot of times. This shows up most when she’s talking to my parents; comparing their IQ to zero (often saying things like “you just don’t understand how smart I am”), claiming she is “her own authority” in discerning scripture, claiming that our interpretations are not from God but man, and other such things.
I cringe every time she starts a conversation about…almost anything, actually. I don’t talk to her much anymore, but the way she goes about talking to my parents about not having a job and “working hard” to find one (she stays in bed for a good portion of the day and spends most of her evenings partying with friends), and any mention about religion inevitably leads to a heated discussion.
But her arrogance towards my parents really irks me. She often ridicules them for not raising her well enough, blaming everyone for her problems, it makes me sick sometimes. I once told her few days ago while she was practically bullying my parents with her words “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” and she’s all like “that’s funny coming from you” “What? What did I do??” “You’re siding with them.” “Yeah, because you’re crazy!”
It just slipped out because it makes me angry the way she treats them; being utterly ungrateful for how good she has it. Was it wrong for me to call her crazy? I still feel bad for saying it…but the truth is, I don’t know if I should apologize for it. I feel bad but in the end, I do believe she IS crazy. My mom was raised in a bad household when she was young. Thank goodness for our great Aunt for taking her in, but it goes to show you that it could’ve been worse! Have some gratitude!
I just don’t know what to do besides pray for her.
Any thoughts or advice about this would be appreciated. Prayers, as well.
Things between me and my older sister (she’s 24 years old) are becoming increasingly awkward and tense; not just between me and her but the whole family is starting to go a little nuts.
Why is this you ask? Well, long story short, she is convinced that she will, singlehandedly, bring all the churches together…and in order to do that, the first step, in her mind, is to be initiated into as many churches as possible. She’s already making plans to become baptized into the Mormon church…Thing is, she’s made it very clear that she doesn’t see it as “converting” to another faith, but just joining it. She fully intends to still go to Mass and receive Communion despite this o_o She says it’ll inspire others if she tells one church that she’s ALSO attending another; that she can in some way be the middle man or something.
Me, my parents, we’ve talked about the MANY issues with this plan, numerous times; contradicting doctrines (she says she can believe EVERY doctrine of EVERY religion, what??), the serious sin of receiving Communion as an apostate (then she says “who says it’s a sin?”), the biblical proof of ONE true church, etc. Nothing we say to her gets through to her.
For one thing, she’s been talking to this non-denominational Christian friend of ours over the phone who may or may not be putting certain ideas in her head. Thing is, even if it was just the hint of an idea, I think she has taken certain ideas proposed to her and just ran wild with them.
For an example, this friend of ours has been teaching her about things which come from the prosperity gospel, and now my sister thinks that you can get whatever you want if you believe “hard enough”. She talks about things like wanting to own a huge mansion, marry a “hot” guy, having gorgeous looking children, and some rather crazy things as well (like having an amusement park in her home). Not that it wouldn’t be cool, but…I don’t know. Her beliefs have just about flipped upside down from what they were, even to a more harmful extent. She was talking about it being ok to have sex before marriage (Adam and Eve didn’t have a “wedding”, right?) and that it would be fine for her husband to marry more than one!
…In short, she came to one, very mislead conclusion about the Bible: “It teaches that everything is ok”.
Um, no! How did you even come to that conclusion? What are the 10 commandments even for?? Also, she has this whole “if it doesn’t hurt anyone else, than it’s A ok” mentality now. It’s kind of crazy. When she was younger, she would be shocked at what she believes now. She feels like a different person almost. One one hand, she went through a lot of mental struggles with people in the past (she has Aspergers) and was depressed all the time. Now, she seems to be all giggles and smiles on the outside at least, but she won’t admit that she has a problem. She is a bit manic as well. She doesn’t want medicine or counseling and seems to think she is right as rain!
Not to mention she just…has this “high and mighty” arrogance about her a lot of times. This shows up most when she’s talking to my parents; comparing their IQ to zero (often saying things like “you just don’t understand how smart I am”), claiming she is “her own authority” in discerning scripture, claiming that our interpretations are not from God but man, and other such things.
I cringe every time she starts a conversation about…almost anything, actually. I don’t talk to her much anymore, but the way she goes about talking to my parents about not having a job and “working hard” to find one (she stays in bed for a good portion of the day and spends most of her evenings partying with friends), and any mention about religion inevitably leads to a heated discussion.
But her arrogance towards my parents really irks me. She often ridicules them for not raising her well enough, blaming everyone for her problems, it makes me sick sometimes. I once told her few days ago while she was practically bullying my parents with her words “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” and she’s all like “that’s funny coming from you” “What? What did I do??” “You’re siding with them.” “Yeah, because you’re crazy!”
It just slipped out because it makes me angry the way she treats them; being utterly ungrateful for how good she has it. Was it wrong for me to call her crazy? I still feel bad for saying it…but the truth is, I don’t know if I should apologize for it. I feel bad but in the end, I do believe she IS crazy. My mom was raised in a bad household when she was young. Thank goodness for our great Aunt for taking her in, but it goes to show you that it could’ve been worse! Have some gratitude!
I just don’t know what to do besides pray for her.
Any thoughts or advice about this would be appreciated. Prayers, as well.
) I have been clean 7 years btw and other than possibly increasing my OCD symptoms, I have recovered pretty much completely from my drug use. I hope your sister is not on drugs but it sounds like she might be.