Bachelor Party Woes

[punisherthunder]

I’ve been in one of these situations before and actually attended a strip club. This was, of course, before I FOUND THE CHURCH.

Anyways, if offered now I wouldn’t go because to be honest everything (including the women) is dirty. Dirty as in needs a good shower! . I would be afraid to catch an STD or something worse. Plus you usually have to tip AND BIG!! Tip $10 a dancer, and say you see 20 dancers. That’s $200 out in about an hour.

These places take your money amongst other things. Stay away.

 

[susie_g]

Along these same lines, my husband and I were invited to a birthday party for a friend. It was dinner at a restaurant, then continue the party at someone’s house. Fortunately, someone let me in on the big “surprise” for the b-day girl (turning 40). They had hired a male stripper to come over around 11:00 pm. She had no idea, but everyone else was kind of in on it. We said, “That’s not really our thing,” and made sure we left the party by 11:00. On our way out, we saw the guy showing up to “perform” and he tried to convince us to stay, saying, “It’s a really tame show, I’ve done it for 90 year olds, etc…” We just smiled and continued on. I found out later that the women at the party were licking tequila off his bare chest! That’s not really my idea of “tame”.

Unlike you, though, we do know these people, and they all know where we stand as far as our faith and values. They pretty much already think we’re kind of nutty for having 6 children and homeschooling, etc. We didn’t really have to do that much explaining. I don’t think any of them really expected us to stay.

Fortunately, we also hang out with lots of good, Catholic families as well.

 

[Dandelion_Wine]

What bothers me is at the end of the night they are doing the usualy machismo bachelor party thing and going to a strip club. None of these people are even an inkling religious so they see nothing wrong with it.

I’ve been in this situation twice now. I just tell them that it’s not my thing and leave. I don’t owe an explanation to them nor do I care what they think.

Fibbing wasn’t the best thing to do but I understand that sometimes it comes out of frustration. If anyone ends up asking though I’d stick w/ the “it’s not my thing”.

Good luck

 

[StratusRose]

I had this same dilemma last year. Not as bad as yours though, since I wasn’t in the wedding party. However, I was invited to go to the bachelorette party at a strip club. Everything would have been paid for, including the limo. I turned them down, and it turned out that some of the gals didn’t want to go either. I bet there are some guys who are only going along with it because everyone else is. If they think you’re a prude (like they did me) then so be it. Deep down some of those guys will respect that and it may lead to inner reflection about their own lives and how they view women.

I am SO glad that my fiance frowns upon strip clubs, he’s also a recovering drug addict and alcoholic, so I doubt his buddies would take him to a club anyway.

 

[decn2b]

My bachelor party was an all out glutton fest at an italian place. No women just lots of pasta and some beer. I have been to my fair share of strip clubs…as a younger man and they always gave me the creeps. I could never look at the women and was absolutely terrified if one started to come near me.

 

[Jay2]

A co-worker of mine was getting married a few years ago. The party was at mutual friend’s house, after “doing the rounds at the places your wife won’t let you go to anymore” beforehand.

“Let you go anymore” needs clarification - we had an impromptu pool/9-ball league in the shop, and we’d hit several different pubs and shoot games for beer/pitchers.

So, we wind up back at “Dave’s” house… Tap a keg, break out the munchies and start the general BS when “BAM, BAM” on the front door… no less than 1/2 dozen young ladies of questionable morals and NOT questionable surgical “enhancements” barge in.

About 6 of us (myself included) excused ourselves to the kitchen and started a poker game, while the “girls” demeaned themselves.

Here’s the best part… about 45 mins. into this there was another “BAM,BAM” on the front door, and 1/2 second later the local Police barged in… Turns out that one of the “girls” was under-age, and that the vice squad had been trailing this “service” waiting for an opportunity. Everyone in the living room was taken downtown… the 6 of us playing cards in the kitchen were told “Don’t drive home… there’s a lot of beer left and we’re watching”.

Why are “Bachelor/ette” parties supposed to be associated with “one last fling”??? Mine was spent with my best 3 buddies over an incredibly expensive (and good) meal and 3 hours of “catching up”…

 

[Viki59]

I always welcome the opportunity to let people know how I feel about things like this – but then I’m not very popular.

I do recall a true story- wish I could remember who told it – about a Catholic man who was timid about standing up for his faith, and went along with drinking and so on with his buddies so they wouldn’t think he was weird. Then one of his buddies was hit by a car – as he lay dying he asked for someone to pray with him, and when the Catholic volunteered, the dying man looked at him in disbelief, and said, “You’ve got to be kidding.”

You never know when people may need a serious friend – life is not all beer and skittles. It might be good to just be upfront about your motives for not attending a strip club, at least with the groom. Then when your friend’s marriage founders, he might remember you and ask your advice instead of a divorce lawyer’s.