Bad Confession Questions

[CarrieH]

I want to know if i have done anything wrong here:
My sister was playing around with the budgiees and one smacked into the glass windows pretty hard and nothing happend but i got a bit nervous of what might happend and told her to put them back in the cage she said They are not gona die i replied if they do you will too and walked off i didnt mean it i just tried to scare her have i done anything seriously wrong?

We are all going to die sooner or later, that’s a fact. I don’t think you have seriously sinned, but it wasn’t very nice to try to scare her. If she was upset by what you said, you should apologize to her. I hope the budgie was OK.

 

[puzzleannie]

I’ve been wondering about this for a while and decided to post

1. What happens to a person who makes a bad confession unknowingly and goes on to believe that they are forgiven?
2. Let’s say a person makes a good confession but does not confess one mortal sin, knowing that it’s there. When they return to confess it, will that person have to repeat the entire previous confession or just the previously unconfessed mortal sin?

no 1 - there is no way to “unknowingly” make a bad confession (or to unknowingly commit any sin), if you don’t know it is bad, or don’t realize you did it, you did not have full, free consent of the will, so there was no bad confession.

no 2. If you deliberately withheld a mortal sin, your confession is invalid, and you must confess all sins since your last good confession, including the withheld sin, and including the fact that you made a bad confession.

 

[daniel87]

no 1 - there is no way to “unknowingly” make a bad confession (or to unknowingly commit any sin), if you don’t know it is bad, or don’t realize you did it, you did not have full, free consent of the will, so there was no bad confession.

no 2. If you deliberately withheld a mortal sin, your confession is invalid, and you must confess all sins since your last good confession, including the withheld sin, and including the fact that you made a bad confession.

but if ever you can remember a serious sin then you should confess it. Its always better to be safe than sorry.

 

[dazzi]

I just have another question:
Someone At school who i call a “Bully” who really annoys EDIT me and thinks he is all tough etc. today he started annoying my friend while playing indoor soccer they were both trying to get the ball and for no reason this guy pushes my friend and he pushes him and the other guy pushes him again and says Push me again Fagget( If this word is rude please remove it later but i dont know) and my friend walks off and i really felt sorry for my friend who is smaller then this guy and Looked very scared i told him why didnt you push him or hit him if he tried to do something i would have steeped in and helped you. I mainly said this because i felt annoyed at this guy because he keeps doing this type of stuff to people he knows wont fight back, I felt sorry for my friend who i know looked scared afterwards and i knew from past experience what he does really frustrates you and you feel very annoyed and upset i used to feel angry but now i just feel annoyed that he does it? I want to know have i commited a mortal sin what i said was not out of anger i think some of you know what i mean its not out of anger but i dont know some other reason because i was not angry i didnt see a point at the moment you cant imagine your self killing someone for no reason.
I also wnat to know when is anger mortal exactly i asked this before but i didnt get a clear answer. Is anger mortal when you like imagine yourself killing or severly near death hurting someone and want to do it for a long time?
Is anger mortal when someone hits you and you just turn around and hit them back ?
Is anger mortal when someone keeps annoying you and you get angry but no killing comes to mind and you just walk off.
my sister annoyed my today by saying i did something i DID NOT DO and she knows i didnt but told my parents who started getting angry and i had my clothes in my hand and she started sulking for something i didnt do so i swung my clothes and it got her in the side of the head like a whip but it was a thick layer and i doubt you would feel it was this mortal or not?

 

[jmcrae]

Hi, Dazzi;

You know what? You could go to Confession and just tell the priest all that stuff, and it would be okay - he would give you the Absolution even if none of it is mortal sin.

Remember, we go to Confession to tell God all the things that we want to be sorry for - we don’t have to worry about which kind of sin we committed.

In answer to the question “Do I have to go to Confession,” the answer is, “If you have something that you want to be sorry for, then yes, you should.”

By the way, the F word is, in fact, very rude, because it means either a used cigarette butt, or else a homosexual person. We should avoid calling other people rude names, because it hurts their feelings.

It’s okay to be angry with people who are deliberately trying to hurt us and get in our way. It’s what we do with our anger that is important. We always have to keep our actions and our words under control - we should never let our anger cause us to lose control of ourselves, or to hurt other people without meaning to.

That doesn’t mean that we can’t do anything - but when we yell at the person who is making us angry, we need to use the kind of words that will communicate with the person, without hurting the person back - that is, without name-calling or put-downs. And if we have to get into a physical fight with the person, we only fight for as long as it takes to give him the message that we will defend ourselves when necessary - but we don’t actually try to injure the person, and if he is down on the ground, then we stop fighting him and just walk away.

 

[dazzi]

No i never ever call people names because i think it is just dumb and slack to the person you are saying it to i dont even say it back when someone calls me it.
I have been in a fight but in that fight i have never had the urge to kill that person and teh fight was started by him throwing a piece of wood at me i threw it back i walked up to him with a piece of wood to scare him and outside he started pushing me over and over again and saying “You want to fight?” and headbut me so i pushed him against a wall and hit him.
Never do i want to start a fight in future i doubt i will either i only do something if someone else does something to me first i will never go ahead and hit someone if I dont like them.
I will go to confession in 2 weeks anyways and i will say “Anger” Anway because i will feel more comfortable after saying it but i also think after i finish school i will not fall into sin so much because i will hopefully work around people where People dont tease swear or hit you.
Just one question what i said to my friend is that alright?
Now i think i said it to get him a bit less scared like assuring him that if he did something i would help him out.
I dont know if i would but if i saw that my friend was getting hammered by this guy i think i might have helped out i dont want to sit there and watch my friend get bashed.

 

[jmcrae]

No i never ever call people names because i think it is just dumb and slack to the person you are saying it to i dont even say it back when someone calls me it.
I have been in a fight but in that fight i have never had the urge to kill that person and teh fight was started by him throwing a piece of wood at me i threw it back i walked up to him with a piece of wood to scare him and outside he started pushing me over and over again and saying “You want to fight?” and headbut me so i pushed him against a wall and hit him.
Never do i want to start a fight in future i doubt i will either i only do something if someone else does something to me first i will never go ahead and hit someone if I dont like them.

Okay.

I will go to confession in 2 weeks anyways and i will say “Anger” Anway because i will feel more comfortable after saying it

Yes - you can also tell him what it was that caused you to be angry, as well.

but i also think after i finish school i will not fall into sin so much because i will hopefully work around people where People dont tease swear or hit you.

Even some adults do that stuff, but when you are an adult, there are also other sins that get you. It’s good that you are in the habit of going to Confession, because it will help you a lot when you are older, too.

Just one question what i said to my friend is that alright?

Yes, it’s good that you supported him and let him know that you would stick up for him.

Now i think i said it to get him a bit less scared like assuring him that if he did something i would help him out.
I dont know if i would but if i saw that my friend was getting hammered by this guy i think i might have helped out i dont want to sit there and watch my friend get bashed.

No, of course not - you would want to help, and you would do something to make the bully go away and stop bothering him. That’s what good friends do, after all.