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There is a woman I work with who sits in a cubicle adjacent to me and she can constantly be very loud. She hums all day, sings out loud, and makes sound effects. I honestly don’t know if she is conscious of this because all day, she has her head phones on. Usually I wouldn’t care, but it’s reached a point where I am becoming distracted to where I can’t concentrate. It’s a constant annoyance I’ve tried to “grin and bear” and even with headphones on her humming/singing is quite prevalent in the background.

Today I asked her nicely if she could stop humming because I was finding it distracting to do my work. When I went to her desk she didn’t acknowledge I was even there, even after I said her name several times. I’m not sure if this was because she couldn’t hear me or if she was purposely ignoring me. She told me to “leave now” and went back to her singing. She said it in a rather rude way. I was asking sincerely so I don’t know if she is always this narcissistic or if I caught her when she was busy. Out of the few months I’ve been contracted I’ve never said more than a few “thank you’s” to her and that’s it. I never bother her. Her response upset me and now I’m afraid she’ll report me because she took it the wrong way or something. I’m afraid if I try speaking with her again it will aggravate the situation so I’m not going to speak to her at all.

So I’m worried over this because I haven’t yet come across a situation at work where someone has snapped at me, or been rude to me. I have been screamed and yelled at by previous employers, however. I’m just worried that I will be called to see my manager eventually; that or it’s my paranoia.

Please pray for me and this situation, and please pray for my stress because this week I am being forced to complete a project that was put on me by others who didn’t bother to get it done months ago.
 
Go see your manager and (nicely) complain about the noise next door. Ask if you can be moved somewhere else so you can 100% concentrate on completing the project.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
St. Joseph, pray for this situation. St. Cecelia, pray for this situation.
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Catholic1954 said:
Go see your manager and (nicely) complain about the noise next door. Ask if you can be moved somewhere else so you can 100% concentrate on completing the project.
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Agree with your recommendation. As much of a pain as it seems I would take it one step further. The poster should document all incidents as well as the meeting with the supervisor and the outcome of the meeting. Keep documenting. Unfortunately, this is where we are as a society.

If the poster was told to ‘leave now’ that definitely constitutes a disrespectful and possibly hostile reaction.
 
Don’t spend your time worrying over this. Take action. Maybe try to speak with her once more, but first ask if it is a good time to talk. Maybe she was busy, or was having an especially bad day and regrets being so rude. If you get no where with that go talk to your boss or hers or both. As a manager I have addressed singing and humming, popping gum and all kinds of annoying habits. Common courtesy goes a long way in a cubicle farm.
 
Agree with advice already given. And will pray that St. Dymphna grant you all the mental peace you need to get your job done right. 👍
 
It is possible that she has OCD, ADHD or Aspbergers. Some people with Aspbergers have reactions that can be seen as rude, though the person is not intending to be rude. Also, they tend to have OCD or ADHD, both of which can be the cause of the incessant singing/humming. The person does not even know they are doing it. My daughter hums all day long and doesn’t realize she is doing it. When she was in school it would bother the other kids but she is homeschooled now so it is not a problem. I do try to work with her so she won’t have these issues later in life. I used to do it as well but forced myself to stop. It took a long time to retrain myself and realize I was humming all the time.

Perhaps speak to your manager and kindly say that the humming is very distracting to your work. Ask for a different cube or maybe get some noise canceling headphones and listen to some podcasts or music you enjoy. My husband has to do that at his job because it is so noisy in his office.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.

:crossrc:***
 
Tous_Logous said:
There is a woman I work with who sits in a cubicle adjacent to me and she can constantly be very loud. She hums all day, sings out loud, and makes sound effects. I honestly don’t know if she is conscious of this because all day, she has her head phones on. Usually I wouldn’t care, but it’s reached a point where I am becoming distracted to where I can’t concentrate. It’s a constant annoyance I’ve tried to “grin and bear” and even with headphones on her humming/singing is quite prevalent in the background.

Today I asked her nicely if she could stop humming because I was finding it distracting to do my work. When I went to her desk she didn’t acknowledge I was even there, even after I said her name several times. I’m not sure if this was because she couldn’t hear me or if she was purposely ignoring me. She told me to “leave now” and went back to her singing. She said it in a rather rude way. I was asking sincerely so I don’t know if she is always this narcissistic or if I caught her when she was busy. Out of the few months I’ve been contracted I’ve never said more than a few “thank you’s” to her and that’s it. I never bother her. Her response upset me and now I’m afraid she’ll report me because she took it the wrong way or something. I’m afraid if I try speaking with her again it will aggravate the situation so I’m not going to speak to her at all.

So I’m worried over this because I haven’t yet come across a situation at work where someone has snapped at me, or been rude to me. I have been screamed and yelled at by previous employers, however. I’m just worried that I will be called to see my manager eventually; that or it’s my paranoia.

Please pray for me and this situation, and please pray for my stress because this week I am being forced to complete a project that was put on me by others who didn’t bother to get it done months ago.
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Praying for you.
 
I pray this information helps you:

From Kempis’s The Imitation of Christ:
On Enduring Injuries and the Proof of Patience
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CHRIST. My son, what are you saying? Consider My sufferings and those of My Saints, and cease to complain. You have not yet shed your blood in resistance;(Heb 12:4) your troubles are but small in comparison with those who have suffered so much, whose temptations were so strong, whose trials so severe, and who were proved and tested in so many ways.(Heb. 11:37) Remember the heavier sufferings of others, that you may more easily bear your own small troubles. If they do not seem small to you, beware lest your impatience be the cause; and whether they be small or great, try to bear them all patiently.
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The better you prepare yourself to meet suffering, the more wisely will you act, and the greater will be your merit. You will bear all more easily if your heart and mind is diligently prepared. Do not say, `I cannot endure such things from this person,’ or, ’ I will not tolerate these things: he has done me great injury, and accused me of things I never considered; from another person I might bear it, and regard it as something that must be endured.’ Such thoughts are foolish, for you ignore the merit of patience and Him who rewards it, and think only of the person who has injured you and the wrong you endure.
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You are not truly patient if you will only endure what you think fit, and only from those whom you like. A truly patient man does not consider by whom he is tried, whether by his superior, his equal, or his inferior; whether by a good and holy man, or by a perverse and wicked person. But however great or frequent the trial that besets him, and by whatever agency it comes, he accepts it gladly as from the hand of God, and counts it all gain.
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Always be ready for battle if you wish for victory; you cannot win the crown of patience without a struggle;( 2 Tim.2:3) if you refuse to suffer, you refuse the crown. Therefore, if you desire the crown, fight manfully and endure patiently. Without labour, no rest is won; without battle, there can be no victory.
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THE DISCIPLE. Lord, make possible for me by grace what is impossible to me by nature. You know how little I can bear, and how quickly I become discouraged by a little adversity. I pray You, make every trial lovely and desirable to me for Your Name’s sake, since suffering and affliction for Your sake is so profitable to the health of my soul.
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worldinvisible.com/library/akempis/imitation/chapter%2056.htm
Seven Heavenly Virtues
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A list of the seven heavenly virtues - to oppose the seven deadly sins - appeared later, in an epic poem entitled Psychomachia, or Battle/Contest of the Soul. Written by Aurelius Clemens Prudentius, a Christian governor, who died around 410 A.D., it entails the battle between good virtues and evil vices. The enormous popularity of this work in the Middle Ages helped to spread **the concept of holy virtue **throughout Europe. The virtues are identified as chastity, temperance, charity, diligence, patience, kindness, and humility. Practicing them is said to protect one against temptation from the seven deadly sins, each one having its counterpart. Due to this, they are sometimes referred to as the “contrary virtues”.
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en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seven_virtues

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO “OFFER IT UP”?

rcspiritualdirection.com/blog/2013/02/18/what-does-it-mean-to-offer-it-up
 
Tous_Logous said:
There is a woman I work with who sits in a cubicle adjacent to me and she can constantly be very loud. She hums all day, sings out loud, and makes sound effects. I honestly don’t know if she is conscious of this because all day, she has her head phones on. Usually I wouldn’t care, but it’s reached a point where I am becoming distracted to where I can’t concentrate. It’s a constant annoyance I’ve tried to “grin and bear” and even with headphones on her humming/singing is quite prevalent in the background.

Today I asked her nicely if she could stop humming because I was finding it distracting to do my work. When I went to her desk she didn’t acknowledge I was even there, even after I said her name several times. I’m not sure if this was because she couldn’t hear me or if she was purposely ignoring me. She told me to “leave now” and went back to her singing. She said it in a rather rude way. I was asking sincerely so I don’t know if she is always this narcissistic or if I caught her when she was busy. Out of the few months I’ve been contracted I’ve never said more than a few “thank you’s” to her and that’s it. I never bother her. Her response upset me and now I’m afraid she’ll report me because she took it the wrong way or something. I’m afraid if I try speaking with her again it will aggravate the situation so I’m not going to speak to her at all.

So I’m worried over this because I haven’t yet come across a situation at work where someone has snapped at me, or been rude to me. I have been screamed and yelled at by previous employers, however. I’m just worried that I will be called to see my manager eventually; that or it’s my paranoia.

Please pray for me and this situation, and please pray for my stress because this week I am being forced to complete a project that was put on me by others who didn’t bother to get it done months ago.
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What is wrong with your supervisor that this is permitted? File a formal complaint and ask that she not do this. This is a work area not a private domain were she can do as she pleases. If your supervisor won’t do anything complain to the Human Resource Department. You have a right to work in an environment that is conducive to meaningful work. She does not have right to disturb you. Period.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.

:crossrc:***
 
:gopray:

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

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