Very interesting question which I’ve thought about a little bit. For a long time, the jury was out for me on the subject of cussing. Being from the South myself, I was raised in an environment where cussing was just plain wrong-something you didn’t do. I never really heard a good reason to explain why though, so I guess that’s why I witheld opinion on it for a long time.
I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of Steven Pinker, but I’ve been somewhat influenced by his ideas on cussing. I heard him interviewed a while back on a local radio program (see here:
kpbs.org/news/2008/sep/11/steven-pinker-tells-us-about-the-stuff-of-thought/). I have to confess that I sympathize with his views on cussing, or ‘swear words.’ They are a particular example of what Pinker calls “word magic.” The phenomenon of word magic occurs when you basically believe that you alter the very moral fabric of the universe when you cuss.
In reality, is it at all likely that there is any substantial difference that obtains when you use/utter the word sh** as opposed to shoot, freaking rather than f***ing? Not likely, I think.
Having kids probably helped to make me a little more liberal on this point too. When I was a boy, I know I felt empowered when I used cuss words. Well, being the very kind father that I am

, I’m afraid I had to rob my own children of this misperception of power because there never was any real power emanating from me using or uttering those cuss words. I was, unknowingly, a tacit subscriber to the theory of word magic.
There are arguments to be made against profanity, I think: arguments from civility and against laziness. And there are arguments to be made that profanity is an age-appropriate form of expression. So I haven’t fallen off the liberal deep end or anything. I think my wife and I have struck a good middle ground on this issue. I humbly offer the above as food for your thoughts…