Baffled

[lynnehelen]

As I just finished saying, bless this site but you have to be careful about getting here and back again due to the sometimes treacherous ins and outs of computer hardware and software and the internet. I just unplugged my ethernet cable in haste to move to a spot with more light and lost my whole prayer intention.

Suffice it to say that I am confused about the relationships with a family a few blocks away, my son’s best friend, whose father is my husband’s best friend, whose wife and I do not get along very well.

This has been a source of serious conflict, especially as I began to fear that she and my husband were getting involved.

It’s a long detailed story which I just finished telling but, as I said, I lost the text so if you would please just pray for J., the woman, her family, and a resolution of the issues between our families which play a part in the present, critical mess about which I have been submitting so many prayer requests. Our families have been involved with each other since 2002 and there has been conflict and confusion for me and animosity as well as friendship. My husband is good friends and well-liked by all over there, they sometimes mistreat my son, and they enjoy making me feel bad for having an education when J. doesn’t. I have tried to handle this to the best of my abilities, and have only gotten hurt.

These relationships are the backdrop of the present mess. I am baffled by J., who is one half native American and very proud. Her husband, R., is born Welsh, and his family emigrated to Canada before settling here so there is a strong bond for him with my husband. I take psych meds, and my health problems in the past made me uncomfortable around people, and I cannot touch alcohol, they enjoy drinks every Thurs., Fri., and Sat. night when my husband is in town and I am left alone at home as it’s no fun to be around people who are drinking when you are sober.

Please, I have pushed all this to the back burner for a year now while dealing with the present mess, but it continues to generate conflict for me in my mind, as I just don’t understand her motivations and reactions. Instead of love, there is an incestuous mess here.

 

[Trishie]

Jesus please lead Lynnehelen through the healing of all the hurt places in her life, under Your loving protection.

Please give kindness, wisdom and healing to all interactions and choices in this troubled family and in their relationships within and external to the family unit.

 

[toniace1]

I’m going to go way out on a limb and reply here. I have been in similar situations (in the sense that I have had relationships with neighbors that were toxic). It is a very difficult situation to get out of, but I urge you to focus on the fact that your relationship with these people does not seem to be focused on anything wholesome which comes from God. I see jealousy, social climbing, drinking to excess, and possibly a little bit of inappropriate attraction between your husband and the woman (this is what you have described). Also, your child is not being treated in a manner which is pleasing and uplifting to him/her. I urge you to not overlook these “red flags”. Sometimes our need for friendship and to be loved and accepted clouds our judgment in choosing relationships which are wholesome and good. I urge you to allow God to put a “hedge of protection” around you and your family. Cut all ties with these people (social gatherings, facebook, phone calls etc.) and just remain cordial. Do it even if it means that you will be uninvited to all of the neighborhood “social gatherings”. Keep your eyes focused on Christ: your soul, peace of mind and well-being are more important than any friendship or social network here on Earth. In cutting ties with these “toxic” people, you may also see that God puts better relationships in your path. I pray for you that you have the courage to remove yourseves from this situation. Trust in God: with Him, all things are possible.

 

[ready]

Mother Mary, I recommend J and her family to you. Please make your intentions in this matter come true. Amen.