We have now explained why your assumptions are faulty.
I didn’t say that or imply that. But here’s what would happen, should I knowingly engage in material cooperation with evil: At my Particular Judgment, Jesus will review with me why I did that. To use a modern term, it will go into my complete “file” (haha, a big one

) of bad decisions. But note that a large “file” of bad decisions does not necessarily result in damnation; it may result in purgatorial time for whatever temporal harm my decisions and omissions caused, which I did not sufficiently acknowledge in this life, atone for, and rectify or repair.
~It could have been a decision based on expediency (greed, and/or favoritism by the gay community
vis-a-vis gay "marriage" in particular; notice that I have already said twice before that I personally disapprove of discrimination in terms of general, non-“marital” services to self-identified gays) And by implication, the Church also disapproves of such non-marital discrimination in terms of services, lack of persecution, job & housing opportunity, etc. That is included in the Faithful Citizenship document & other Church documents, including the CCC.
~It could have been (whatever the decision/action) a decision based on fear (cowardice, wanting community or individual approval, concern about economic retaliation, etc.)
~It could have been a decision based on vainglory (such as, wanting to be “seen” politically or socially as completely accepting of the entire Gay Agenda, including the phony & illegitimate term “Marriage Equality.” Or some other immoral cause.)
~It could have been a decision based on laziness. (Too difficult to “fight it.” “Not worth” the effort, in a shortsighted way. Minimalizing the effect of my decision.)
THOSE ARE ALL CONVENIENT RATIONALIZATIONS for actions. They are not well-constructed, thoughtful moral decisions. They are cop-outs.
And yes, I will have to answer at my Particular Judgment for the fact that I already know that I have made decisions based on all 4 above categories at least once in my life: I have compromised my moral beliefs on occasion based on the above rationalizations.
No. You are trying to reduce the effect of personal decisions and are using an over-broad understanding of the term “judge.” My explanation is the Church’s explanation. You may not like the complexity of moral theology, but it is what it is: complex.