Balancing faith life and relationships

[Nameless6291]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. The devil seems to plant thoughts in my mind that there is no way I can get married and have a fulfilling faith life, but I really want to get married one day.

I know it’s possible to have a fulfilling faith life and also a fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel like God won’t make that possible for me because he doesn’t want me to get married. It makes me feel pretty crummy. Does anyone have any good ideas about how to balance your faith life and a relationship? Thanks!

 

[Edward_H]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. The devil seems to plant thoughts in my mind that there is no way I can get married and have a fulfilling faith life, but I really want to get married one day.

I know it’s possible to have a fulfilling faith life and also a fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel like God won’t make that possible for me because he doesn’t want me to get married. It makes me feel pretty crummy. Does anyone have any good ideas about how to balance your faith life and a relationship? Thanks!

God made us whole. He doesn’t want us to separate Him from other parts of our life. We need to integrate our faith and let it penetrate every aspect of our life, especially our family life and our other relationships. God uses our relationships to reach others who may not come to see Him, even once a week.

So tie God into everything you do. Begin the day offering Him everything you do. Pray very briefly before work periods…offer Him your well done work for your spouse, friends, in reparation for the sins of the world.

Convert your whole life into prayer, a union with God. Let Him incarnate all you do, through you, for Him and others.

God gives us a vocation to help keep us focused. God, family, friends, work, the world.

 

[Pfaffenhoffen]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. The devil seems to plant thoughts in my mind that there is no way I can get married and have a fulfilling faith life, but I really want to get married one day.

I know it’s possible to have a fulfilling faith life and also a fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel like God won’t make that possible for me because he doesn’t want me to get married. It makes me feel pretty crummy. Does anyone have any good ideas about how to balance your faith life and a relationship? Thanks!

I had a problem with assertiveness. A good friend of mine whom I talked this through and she is a pasychologist told me that the best answer is “Why?”. Yes. He does not want to get married, why? and after his answer, another why? and so on till you reach the bottom of the causes and start digging from there.

He may have a deep reason not to want to get married. A friend of mine did want want to get married for her parents divorced and she suffered a lot from it. We cannot blame such a situation. Even, today, I read in a gossip magazine a german star saying that nowadays marriage is not for life. Nowadays !!! Nowadays ???

 

[JoyfulLife]

I had a problem with assertiveness. A good friend of mine whom I talked this through and she is a pasychologist told me that the best answer is “Why?”. Yes. He does not want to get married, why? and after his answer, another why? and so on till you reach the bottom of the causes and start digging from there.

He may have a deep reason not to want to get married. A friend of mine did want want to get married for her parents divorced and she suffered a lot from it. We cannot blame such a situation. Even, today, I read in a gossip magazine a german star saying that nowadays marriage is not for life. Nowadays !!! Nowadays ???

“Why?” That’s cognitive behavioral therapy. It’s great.

 

[chief714]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. The devil seems to plant thoughts in my mind that there is no way I can get married and have a fulfilling faith life, but I really want to get married one day.

I know it’s possible to have a fulfilling faith life and also a fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel like God won’t make that possible for me because he doesn’t want me to get married. It makes me feel pretty crummy. Does anyone have any good ideas about how to balance your faith life and a relationship? Thanks!

I’m recently married a little over a year ago. We have a 4 month old baby girl and I have 2 older children from an old relationship. I am a fairly new convert from protestant to Catholocism about 3 years ago. I am pretty active within a Charism of my Parish (Neocatecuminal way) and I essentially work 2 jobs. Sometimes… things are rough and I’d just like to stay home. I won’t say that it’s cake… because it’s not. But the graces God places in our lives is beyond worth the daily struggles.

I generally spend about 2 to 3 days out of a week preparing for a Word Celebration or Preparing for Eucharist (Presenting the Word & setting up the Alter,Chalice, etc. & everything else that goes along with the Mass) or for a once a month Agape with our community.

I have to tell you… Burying myself in Christ and all of His teachings & the Church he left behind for me has been the Foundation that keeps my wife and I completely in union with each other. Even in the moments that we’re in disagreement with each other. Don’t go out looking for a man to be your husband. Let God bring him to you. If a man loves you, he will carry his cross and Follow Christ to your heart. Be Evenly Yoked as Christ tells us.

Do not sacrifice your faith & beliefs for the affection of another and God will be the foundation of your relationship with whoever God brings into your life.

Hope that helps.

 

[fhansen]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. The devil seems to plant thoughts in my mind that there is no way I can get married and have a fulfilling faith life, but I really want to get married one day.

I know it’s possible to have a fulfilling faith life and also a fulfilling marriage, but sometimes I feel like God won’t make that possible for me because he doesn’t want me to get married. It makes me feel pretty crummy. Does anyone have any good ideas about how to balance your faith life and a relationship? Thanks!

just put God first in everything and He’ll lead you to wherever you need to go. He created marriage and blessed it as a Sacrament. If He can’t He trusted, who can anyway?

 

[puzzleannie]

I was wondering if anyone has any advice about maintaining a fulfilling faith life while being in a relationship or being married. !

if your vocation is marriage, in that God is callling you to that state in life, then marriage is the means God wills you to most fully live out your faith, and the sacrament of matrimony gives you that grace necessary to do it.

there is no “sacrament” involved in a romantic relationship outside marriage so that I cannot answer since I have no idea what moderns mean by that term.

 

[mamaslo]

if your vocation is marriage, in that God is callling you to that state in life, then marriage is the means God wills you to most fully live out your faith, and the sacrament of matrimony gives you that grace necessary to do it.

there is no “sacrament” involved in a romantic relationship outside marriage so that I cannot answer since I have no idea what moderns mean by that term.

Even within that there is a variety of things to keep in balance. As seen in this forum, often there is one person in the union who isn’t living out anything to help bring the other to Christ, so the person must rely on the grace given via the sacrament to endure the suffering and the cross provided.

Very often we all have to learn about what marriage really is and die to ourselves.

Also very often, we must stand up for God in our own lives because the spouse is not helping.

There is also finding balance in teaching your family about giving of yourself OUTSIDE the family for the body of christ.

The common theme…conversion to Christ.

Often, even if married, we are called to things outside of the family. We must find balance. If you are at home with your family all the time and not reaching out to others in some way, then your children learn very little about charity to anyone else.

It’s all a balancing act to love God and your neighbor.