thank you for the thoughtful responses, but can anyone refer to church doctrine like the Catechism?
If I gather right from the opinions expresses so far, it is up to the parish priest whether or not my friend can partake. But are we sure about this? Any canon laws regarding it?
At my suggestion, he has gone to confession on a few occasions now, and understands that in order to receive the body of Christ one must be in a state of grace, free from the stain of mortal sin. But possibly he must first undergo an official “first confession” according to a previous post?
On a side note, my own RCIA instruction failed to mention the above teaching regarding mortal sin and the Eucharist. Instead they focused only on ceremony- “bow before receiving in the hand- cross your hands this way- say Amen before consuming- go back to your pew and remain standing (kneeling is not our local custom), etc.” I had to force a question about receiving in the mouth and about kneeling afterwards. One would think an instructor would cover all aspects of the Eucharist, including its history. Also, I brought the matter about mortal sin up later as a neophyte during a meeting with all the other neophytes a month or so after baptism, and most were shocked to hear that, thinking instead that everyone should freely take the Lord’s body whenever possible. I found that to be a serious fault of the RCIA program and its instructors- imagine, such an important aspect of our faith, and letting newbies who don’t know better go forward at the risk of committing grave sins everytime they receive the Eucharist, AND yet thinking they are receiving His infinite grace by partaking.
So please understand my hesitancy to accept common opinions, even those from RCIA teachers. My RCIA also failed to impart upon our class one of the most important teaching tools in the last 50 years- The Catechism of the Catholic Church. My local parish is pretty progressive, and it seems that the Truth isn’t always revealed- sometimes deliberately for fear of “scaring” people away. It seems that the modern church often likes to focus on all things that feel good, that don’t challenge, offend, or draw away from what is perceived as “love” Matters of the sacred and holy and just just seem too stoic and stuffy and scary.
I guess what I’m saying is that I love all my brothers and sisters, but am very skeptical
when it comes to common advice and so I really only 100% trust what the Holy See has to say when it comes to important Church teachings, which I regard this to be. Maybe I’m wrong in this, maybe too stubborn, but it is the way I am. And yes, I see the irony in wanting only answers from the Magesterium yet I’m appealing to CAF members! Unfortunately I havent yet mastered using the index of the Catecism nor can I seem to get straight answers from the clergy themselves, so i’m a bit stuck and hoping the wise apologists come out on this one. I’m sure thousands of others out there might have a similar situation? I can see parents these days insisting on a baptism since “it seems right”, is a nice thing to do, a beautiful ceremony afterall, extra supernatural insurance should something happen to the young child, etc.- but then the parents don’t follow through with the hard work of actually raising a child in the faith- which is exactly what happened to my dear friend.
Any help is greatly appreciated.