Battle with Mother

[EqualinHim]

Hi guys,

So I’m inquiring into the church. My mother was raised Catholic and left over 20 years ago due to some hurt feelings and theological differences. I recently scheduled a meeting with an RCIA director to talk about the inquiry period. My mother was not pleased. She came to my room late at night and started ranting about how she was unhappy with my choice. She spouted off a bunch of half-baked beliefs that showed that she was badly catechized.

I still live in my parents’ household. My dad does not care if I become Catholic or stay Protestant. My mother objects quite a bit. If she attempts to keep me from becoming Catholic, what can I do to stop her? Would it be wise to wait and make a formal conversion when I’ve moved out of the house?

 

[kptrs]

Hi guys,

So I’m inquiring into the church. My mother was raised Catholic and left over 20 years ago due to some hurt feelings and theological differences. I recently scheduled a meeting with an RCIA director to talk about the inquiry period. My mother was not pleased. She came to my room late at night and started ranting about how she was unhappy with my choice. She spouted off a bunch of half-baked beliefs that showed that she was badly catechized.

I still live in my parents’ household. My dad does not care if I become Catholic or stay Protestant. My mother objects quite a bit. If she attempts to keep me from becoming Catholic, what can I do to stop her? Would it be wise to wait and make a formal conversion when I’ve moved out of the house?

How old are you?

 

[EqualinHim]

How old are you?

I am 24 years old.

 

[SuperLuigi]

I am 24 years old.

You are old enough to be making your own decisions on religion.

I would advise at this time to avoid discussing religion with your Mom. I don’t see a need (since you are an adult now) to be disclosing this subject to your parents.

See if that works and go from there.

In the long-term, you may want to consider moving out and getting on with life.

 

[pianistclare]

I am 24 years old.

She cannot stop you. Honestly, the only way to change her attitude is to have a peaceful heart, a joyful smile and offer patient prayers for her.

It’s your soul, not hers. She cannot prevent you from joining the Church. Once you are more settled at the parish where you will do RCIA, you can ask her to talk with the Pastor. Meeting well formed Catholics dispels many of the harsh criticisms and fears that people have.

Don’t worry too much about it.
Think back and reflect on some of the stories of the martyrs: St. Cecilia, St. Catherine of Alexandria, St. Lucy, St Agatha, St. Apollonia, and the many women of the early Church.
Without them, and their example, we would know far less about life in the early Church.

Hers are words of a person who doesn’t understand.
Daily, ask the Holy Spirit to soften her heart.
I will pray for your journey…welcome home.

 

[USMC_Convert]

You need to find a time when both of you are calm, then ask her if her belief as a Protestant teaches that one has to follow their conscience. I’ve never heard of a Christian religion that does not teach that, so her answer should yes.

Then explain to her, gently, that your conscience is telling you that you need to explore this path.

The important thing is that no matter what you don’t let anyone interfere with your journey. Follow God…

 

[tawny]

You are old enough to be making your own decision regard your choice of faith. Go with your heart, the Holy Spirit will guide to the right decision. God bless you on your RCIA journey. Welcome home.