Battling with lust has led to homosexual thoughts

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I’m a teenage male who exposed myself to porn and lust from a young age. Over the past couple years I’ve taken considerable steps against this including going to Confession. However, in training myself not to be attracted to such perverted things I sometimes find an outlet or a replacement in other places…

I don’t want to have to deal with this but I’m trying to wait until the fall to have a girlfriend…
 
It’s not uncommon for pornography to have negative effects like this. There’s an article on PinkNews about how people who watch porn are more likely to become bisexual. My advice to you is that you stop masturbating, stop watching porn, and stop worrying about these temptations. They don’t mean you’re gay. The devil is just attacking you with sexual sin.
 
Like the other poster said, stop masturbation, and stop viewing porn at all. I trust you can, with the help of God that is Grace. What may bother you is lustful thoughts. Be honest with yourself and pray for Grace, never purposefully thinking lustily. Think of Christ, suffering. Marian devotion can especially help on matters of chastity. Things like the Rosary, for instance.

Remember when you get a girlfriend (if you do) that the purpose of dating is to find a suitable partner for marriage. Sexual relations are to wait for marriage.
 
So I have stopped with all of that and while I still face temptations and thoughts and what I can only describe as a VERY MILD form of ptsd, I am doing my best on that part. Thank you for your encouragement. I expect this to only be a temporary issue until I start getting into dating girls and discerning my vocation.
 
Thank you for the encouragement. I have taken major steps in stopping that kind of lust yet still face temptation today. I haven’t masturbated in about a year and a half and don’t purposefully search for porn. Thank yoh
 
You’ve stained your memory with impure images. It’ll take some time for these to recede from your memory. When I watched porn, I used to be assailed with impure dreams. It took a long time for my wounded mind to heal.

Your supports must be the Sacraments and prayer. You’ll only beat this temptation by fighting it with all the spiritual weapons at your disposal: the Rosary, fasting, meditation, cold showers. Get yourself a spiritual director and begin the spiritual fight.
 
Good. Now, stay away from sites with a high likelihood of bringing you to such sites as well.

Be honest with yourself, and go forward with prayer from there.

Remember that temptation is not sin, and don’t get too tough on yourself just for temptation, which can come from outside sources like the devil. Stand strong. I believe you have got this, with God’s Grace!
 
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( I don’t know if the story is true)

"One day, during his time living in a cave above a lake as a hermit, the Devil presented Benedict’s imagination with a beautiful, tempting woman. Benedict resisted by rolling his body into a thorn bush until it was covered in scrapes. It is said through these body wounds, he cured the wounds of his soul."
 
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However, in training myself not to be attracted to such perverted things I sometimes find an outlet or a replacement in other places…
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It fine to be attracted to members of the opposite sex. You should not try and get rid of these feelings, they are natural. Just avoid masturbation, porn, and lustful thoughts.

What you are describing sounds like OCD. It often takes forms of worrying you have a sexual perversion. I knew someone who when trying very hard to avoid lust then got intrusive thoughts are paedophilia. It means nothing about actual attraction.
 
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That sounds very similar to me. Thank you for helping because ocd is in my family and I do believe I have some form of it.
 
My problem is no longer porn. My problem is thoughts meant to replace heterosexual lust that end up being homosexual of nature among other things I wouldn’t normally be or like to be attracted to. The reason I mentioned a girlfriend is because I believe focusing on one female (who, believe me I would definitely respect in all ways) my age could definitely be a good distraction from and potential solution to my problem.
 
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My problem is no longer porn. My problem is thoughts meant to replace heterosexual lust that end up being homosexual of nature among other things I wouldn’t normally be or like to be attracted to. The reason I mentioned a girlfriend is because I believe focusing on one female (who, believe me I would definitely respect in all ways) my age could definitely be a good distraction from and potential solution to my problem.
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I’m not sure this makes sense. You would just be bringing your current problems into a new relationship and would not be fair to that person. I think you should try to get to a place of healing first. Relationships don’t solve problems and shouldn’t be seen as a distraction. Also, your homosexual thoughts need addressing. I’ve never heard of same-sex thoughts used as replacement for something else. I think you should work these things out with counseling and/or spiritual direction and not drag someone else into this confusion.
 
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