Being a Better Husband

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I know what works for me. When I see my wife doing something about the house and I am doing nothing, it is always nice to say “let me do that” It is very simple but has profound effects.

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Fergal:
I know what works for me. When I see my wife doing something about the house and I am doing nothing, it is always nice to say “let me do that” It is very simple but has profound effects.

Just my :twocents:
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Good answer! Nothing makes me madder than heck to see my DH sitting around all day long…usually on Sundays…while I am cooking cleaning, taking care of kids…hey, I want a Sabbath also!

Anyway, in seriousness, I would say to always remember that your wife just wants to be acknowledged, shown attention (even the simplest things)…

Just say “THANK YOU” and “I LOVE YOU” all the time. If my hubby would just say these two things to me frequently…it would be amazing how much energy I would get from those words just to get through the day.

I’m sure that I could come up with other things…maybe I will post them later. I’m sure this thread will take off!
 
I think showing signs of affection is also important. Making your wife feel special. I think to often our lives are so involved and so busy - we are busy showing the kids love and affection, we forget to share that affection with one and other.

Yes, affection is so important. Last Sunday at Mass both our girls were in between my husband and I and I had my arms around the two girls – my husband took my hand at some point … just made me feel great.

Would like more of that personally!

What a nice guy you are to try and be better … I am sure you are there already! 👍
 
Well my dear husband and I have been married for a few months shy of 4 years. We have been together as a couple for 9 years. I must say that he is already such a wonderful husband and does not need to do too much more to be a better husband. He always tells me he loves me multiple times a day, says I am beautiful, surprises me with flowers every now and then, and also helps out with All the housework. But all of this pales in comparison to his tender touch when he is just holding me before I fall asleep. To me a good husband holds you close and makes you feel comforted and safe from all the difficulties in the world. And to top it off, he is standing right by me every Sunday in Church celebrating God’s Love and His gift to us - each other.
 
“Please” and “Thank You” go a long way for me. Little sincere comments are always welcome. It also helps if you scrape your dish off before you put it in the sink. 😉
 
I think it’s so sweet that you care! I love it when my husband buys me little gifts when there is no occasion…I feel so spoiled…he also waits on me…getting me a drink, refilling a drink, sometimes cooking…and makes me sit…
 
Yeah, my parents always shared chores and such. Both work, both cook, both clean after dinner. That’s how I was raised and I have every intention of treating my future wife the same. It seems wrong to think that women are simply meant to clean up the mess. Rediculous.

And it is amazing how far “thank you” and “I love you” go.:yup:

Eamon
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Good answer! Nothing makes me madder than heck to see my DH sitting around all day long…usually on Sundays…while I am cooking cleaning, taking care of kids…hey, I want a Sabbath also!

Anyway, in seriousness, I would say to always remember that your wife just wants to be acknowledged, shown attention (even the simplest things)…

Just say “THANK YOU” and “I LOVE YOU” all the time. If my hubby would just say these two things to me frequently…it would be amazing how much energy I would get from those words just to get through the day.

I’m sure that I could come up with other things…maybe I will post them later. I’m sure this thread will take off!
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You know, after reading various threads about good and bad relationships as well as personal experience, I’ve come to the conclusion that as long as each spouse puts the other ahead of himself/herself, the marriage will be great. It seems like most problems come froom selfishness from one or both spouses.
 
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cargopilot:
Uh, oh! Does that mean the airplanes have to go?
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I made that post just after my husband called me to say that the engine blew up in his Pulling Tractor…yes, Pulling Tractor you heard me right…a tractor that is super modified to pull alot of weight…kinda “redneck” … we own a tractor dealership (another expensive hobby Ha!) and he says the Pulling Tractor is “advertisment”…no…it’s a big toy for big boys…so…last night…he rebuilt the engine…cost…oh…a few grand…didn’t get home until 2am…BTW, I’m pregnant with child #3…8 1/2 months…ready to unload on him because EVERY weekend he is at a tractor pull until 2am both Friday and Saturday nights…

Sorry for the rant…

Airplanes? Guess my hubby could at least take me somewhere with an airplane…Sounds more fun than a stupid Pulling Tractor…

So, do you take your sweet wife on trips? You better! :love:
 
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turboEDvo:
Wait…shoot, I meant inexpensive :o

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can’t you make up your mind?? oh well… I guess we cannot help everything! (:love: …:whacky: )
 
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Fashina86:
can’t you make up your mind?? oh well… I guess we cannot help everything! (:love: …:whacky: )
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Oh come on…the Volvo only costs like $5000, a cargo plane costs lik $ 10 million.

Eamon
 
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turboEDvo:
Oh come on…the Volvo only costs like $5000, a cargo plane costs lik $ 10 million.

Eamon
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whatever you want!.. I don’t need the plane (I can go to my uncle for that!)
 
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DJgang:
I made that post just after my husband called me to say that the engine blew up in his Pulling Tractor…yes, Pulling Tractor you heard me right…a tractor that is super modified to pull alot of weight…kinda “redneck” … we own a tractor dealership (another expensive hobby Ha!) and he says the Pulling Tractor is “advertisment”…no…it’s a big toy for big boys…so…last night…he rebuilt the engine…cost…oh…a few grand…didn’t get home until 2am…BTW, I’m pregnant with child #3…8 1/2 months…ready to unload on him because EVERY weekend he is at a tractor pull until 2am both Friday and Saturday nights…

Sorry for the rant…
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I propose we say some prayers for you and your husband. Hopefully the Holy Spirit can come and comfort you and give your husband some understanding to spend a bit more time with you. I’m sure he’s a good guy though. And of course some for the little one on the way. Congratulations, and hope for the best for your growing family. 🙂
 
Touching the small of my back in a crowd…grabbing my hand when walking. TAKING OUT THE TRASH (and replacing with a new bag) WITHOUT BEING ASKED. Sorry about the capital letters.
 
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