Being a doormat vs standing up for oneself vs letting things go

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Meek and humble doesn’t = weak and feeble.

Meekness and humility are virtues that involve not drawing undue attention to oneself, not bragging etc
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This illustrates a point which people often forget.
In order to be humble you need to be strong. If you are weak then there is nothing to be humble about. That’s not called humility if you are weak, that’s just called reality. Humility by definition means you are strong.
 
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There are a lot of people who make similar mistakes, but they are nice aboutyt it.
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Looks like there’s a lot of customers who tend to make similar mistakes? If this is the case Perhaps the company need to review why that’s the case and prevent this from happening instead of blaming it on the customers?

Eg do you need to warn customers to double check the details or send reminders etc?
 
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Even Christ overturned the tables.

However, one doesn’t need to attend every fight that one is invited to.

There isn’t one answer. Something I heard makes sense to me.

Be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble without being servile or scraping. As God’s Children, we stand on our feet; we don’t crawl before anyone.

I don’t know how Catholic this is, but it has served me well when I follow it.
 
Not every one is strong and there are many different definitions of what being strong means.
 
Yes, being humble means sometimes to be "stepped on’. If we are defending ourselves, conversely we can say God will be doing the defending. And question to be asked or as a guide, what are we defending - is it to prove that we are right, is it because we do not want to be treated unfairly? Is it to show that we are not stupid as thought by our detractor?

Sometimes we need to defend our faith or even a principle. How far should we go to do that? Is not it enough to say the truth and then let it be at that rather than go on fighting?

The fact that we can justify our action perhaps shows how difficult it is to be humble.
 
See, this is what I mean. It seems like Catholicism teaches that we should always just let everything go like this, just offer it up.

But that can lead to a mess too, where you end up with people treating you badly all the time.
 
I’m just using what happens at work to illustrate the question, and I just brought those people up to show it’s not that they are making a mistake that is the peoblem for me but the attitude.

Percentage-wise, there aren’t too many people who have trouble entering the info.
 
I have to say, I can’t agree with this. Humility seems to be more about accepting the reality of oneself, especially one’s need for God’s help. Even weak people can be prideful and oblivious!
 
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Even weak people can be prideful and oblivious!
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No I call this embarrassment.

So the 4 situations are thus

Person making a true remark (usually highly intelligent) but bragging about it. I call this arrogance and pride. There is nothing wrong in substance what they say. It’s the wrong attitude.

Person knows the truth but does not brag about it. That’s humility.

Person who doesn’t know the truth and does not brag about what they know. I call this reality. They don’t know it so they should keep quiet.

Person who doesn’t know the truth and brags about their falsehoods thinking they are the truth. That’s just an embarrassment to themselves.
 
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It.s not Catholicism. It’s business. Those who work in retail or work with customers have to let a lot of rude comments roll off their back. It’s not personal. It’s not your job to point out who made a mistake. It’s your job to solve the problem. And if the customer cannot be made happy, still be pleasant. Those who can remain calm and pleasant in the face of rudeness do best. The world won’t end because somebody is being rude.
 
It depends on the motivation. If you’re defending Truth, God’s Truths, being a doormat would not be good. If you’re defending your actions in maybe a deceitful way, not so good.

Sometimes it’s necessary to remind yourself of the unimportance of certain matters. What will result if you fight back? Will it be worth it?

Provide the truth. Yes, that includes correcting people. In this case, I’m sure correcting the customer would be a good thing, so they don’t make the same mistakes in the future.
 
I would add that in that situation, do not let their rudeness get to you. Suffer them patiently, then move on. Because long-term anger diminishes you spiritually.
 
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