Being angry at others sometimes (occasionally)

[Blood_Angel]

I don’t often get angry and I never raise for voice or take it out on anyone or anything like that but often when I’m tired and not in the best of moods I get a certain anger with myself and sometimes blame other people for not letting me sleep, maybe their TV is too loud or somebody’s voice is too loud when they’re talking, usually it turns out that I couldn’t sleep even if all was peaceful and quiet, I’m just looking for somebody to blame!
Either way, after returning to sleep and waking up a little more refreshed, I’m not angry anymore and whoever I was blaming, I’ve forgotten why I was feeling anger at them.

So long story short, little moments of anger and frustration with people. Usually they’re just passing things. Well, could you tell me if these are sins or not? What do Catholics say on matters like this?
I am sure I’ve made others angry like that before and it’s not like people are doing these things as a personal attack against me, I understand these things but during those moments, I get so mad at others sometimes! Do you guys ever get that?

 

[tomarin]

I don’t often get angry and I never raise for voice or take it out on anyone or anything like that but often when I’m tired and not in the best of moods I get a certain anger with myself and sometimes blame other people for not letting me sleep, maybe their TV is too loud or somebody’s voice is too loud when they’re talking, usually it turns out that I couldn’t sleep even if all was peaceful and quiet, I’m just looking for somebody to blame!
Either way, after returning to sleep and waking up a little more refreshed, I’m not angry anymore and whoever I was blaming, I’ve forgotten why I was feeling anger at them.

So long story short, little moments of anger and frustration with people. Usually they’re just passing things. Well, could you tell me if these are sins or not? What do Catholics say on matters like this?
I am sure I’ve made others angry like that before and it’s not like people are doing these things as a personal attack against me, I understand these things but during those moments, I get so mad at others sometimes! Do you guys ever get that?

Well it sounds like a gray area because for something to be a sin it has to be intentioned and you’re getting angry because you’re tired, therefore there’s not a lot of forethought there. But I would counsel you to try to control your emotions so as not to unnecessarily hurt someone else’s feelings.

 

[Kithrus]

There is a time and place for everything (within reason) and there is always measured responses for anger. sometimes it only requires a deep breath or a short reply other times it takes beating someone out a temple with a cord.

The important part is not that they made you so mad but that justice demands a price for another’s folly.

Guy cut you off in traffic? Most he warrants is a ticket for reckless driving and a shout from you.

Guy cuts off your financial support/burns down your house? Drag the jerk kicking a screaming to the law.

Someone levels a 12 gauge at your family? Grab him, break his hand and if in the ensuing struggle you off the jerk without intending too don’t lose any sleep over it.

There is nothing wrong with anger, temper your anger with fair justice and you’ll be fine.

 

[Blood_Angel]

There is nothing wrong with anger, temper your anger with fair justice and you’ll be fine.

Like I say I don’t really get angry unless I’m run-down. I know some people get angry very often and have problems dealing with it but this is noting like that. I think it’s only human to feel anger sometimes like any other emotion. I suppose it depends on what effects it has on you when it can become a serious thing.

 

[ClearWater]

I don’t often get angry and I never raise for voice or take it out on anyone or anything like that but often when I’m tired and not in the best of moods I get a certain anger with myself and sometimes blame other people for not letting me sleep, maybe their TV is too loud or somebody’s voice is too loud when they’re talking, usually it turns out that I couldn’t sleep even if all was peaceful and quiet, I’m just looking for somebody to blame!
Either way, after returning to sleep and waking up a little more refreshed, I’m not angry anymore and whoever I was blaming, I’ve forgotten why I was feeling anger at them.

So long story short, little moments of anger and frustration with people. Usually they’re just passing things. Well, could you tell me if these are sins or not? What do Catholics say on matters like this?
I am sure I’ve made others angry like that before and it’s not like people are doing these things as a personal attack against me, I understand these things but during those moments, I get so mad at others sometimes! Do you guys ever get that?

I’m not sure about the sin part. I used to live in some cheap apartments, and it got really bad with the noise level. People would blare their music and such. I went once, think it was around 3 am, and asked if it could be turned down. He said he’d only turn it down a little.

I ended up getting earplugs, but even so, it was still loud as far as I was concerned!

One thing…could you get a pair of earplugs to help you with these people in the meantime? You could also ask some of these people to “keep it down”, because some people are not being very consider to those around by doing this, might need to be aware of that. You’d need to weigh that, if it’s worth it.

In Mexico, I’ve been to mass, and noise in an issue that really bothers me, as well. I’ve left churches here if the noise level is too high. Once, we had a guy who came in, put up his speakers in church, and the music was so loud that I covered my ears through much of mass, didn’t try that church back for months!

I have had where they bring in mariachi bands with trumpets, etc. I’m pretty sure you can hear them for blocks away! I’d like to keep earplugs in my purse for those occasions. Even with those, I’m pretty sure the music would still be loud.

We have people here who will party all night. One place in Mexico I lived, they’d have fireworks, song till like 8 am, day after day for the holidays! I didn’t bother to even try to stop them, because it was the neighborhood celebrating, music, talking and screaming, not much to be done. Sometimes, they will shot in the air, things like that. I think it’s just something I’ll need to accept.

We’ve got chimes that go all day and all night!

People come by and scream everything…"¡paletas!", but I think I’ve gotten used to that. Although I live IN the city, we also have roosters! The band from the soldiers I can also hear from a good distance.

 

[JRKH]

Yes I get like that too. but then of course, I am a recovering angerholic.

In dealing with issues like this I think it important that one distinguish their true feelings.
What you describe involves disappointment and frustration - but not necessarily anger.
You are upset over missing sleep or some other frustration - but do you really wish ill on the other person / people? It doesn’t sound like you do.

So - I don’t really think there is a sin involved.

However, if you DO ever wish ill on others…that’s different.

That said, these kinds of emotions can be negatives in our personality makeup and - from a spiritual (and even a physical) health standpoint - they can have some negative consequences.

Just some thoughts.

Peace
James