Being friends with someone who is prochoice

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so i recently found out that a friend of mine is prochoice. we normally don’t disagrew on stuff, and we dont usually open up about this. like other thatn this we have a smooth friendship. but i’m just worried that im not supposed to be friends wirh her. like if she was a celebrity and has different views with me, i’d be fine because i can just listen to their music with out focusing on the actual celebrity. but like, since its my friend i just don’t know. should i try to change them, should i just drop them, or could we still be friends
 
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@Irishmom2 sry about that :((
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Friends don’t usually agree on everything. So you can certainly be friends. Over time, she may change her views. If it is just one thing and she isn’t trying to get you to do something immoral or sinful, let it go. If she asks for clarification, answer her.
 
She has her opinions, you have yours.
It would be a shame to stop a friendship because of that, right ?
 
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I have prochoice friends; one of my closest is a Planned Parenthood worker and loves to talk about it. It is hard for me, and I can’t dismiss it as “her opinion” when we are talking about killing babies. Still, I like this friend and we get along great in many ways. I pray for her and try to never argue but divert the conversation.
 
The vast majority of my friends and indeed the people in society are “pro choice”. Most of them haven’t thought much about it or been directly involved with anyone contemplating abortion, they just take the default position. If they were very intensely involved with pro-choice and it was coming up constantly, then I wouldn’t want to be their friend, but if it’s something that comes up twice a year in political chit chat, which is the case for most people, it’s easy to set aside.
 
It depends. Personally, I would not want to be friends with someone who is pro-choice unless they just take it as a default position and never really put much thought into it. However, if they were a pro-choice activist or were involved in procuring/performing an abortion (not under duress), I would probably be too disgusted with them to consider them a friend. Really, if our worldviews and morals were that far-apart, what would we have in common anyway? Just superficial things.
 
How can we evangelize people effectively without first forming friendships? Jesus ate with tax collectors and “sinners” and was criticized for it…

If our only friends are devout Catholics, yet we live in the world (as opposed to those who are called to cloistered life), I would wonder if we commit the sin of omission by shunning those who need our witness…
 
I often wonder if Catholics are consistent in their views on abortion. If you think abortion is the equivalent of child murder, how could you be friends with someone who supports it?
 
Because they rarely see it that way… they’ve been deceived and may very well benefit from your witness. Where live it would mean shunning the vast majority of people. Sadly abortion is barely even on the political radar in Canada it is so accepted. I would say it is potentially a serious sin of omission to avoid all such people… in terms of our obligation to evangelize and witness - which is often more effective through friendship.
 
I’m not saying don’t associate with people who think differently. I’m guessing you and I have a different idea of what a friend is. I personally seek out people with the same worldview so that I can confide in them, be completely uncensored around them, and be confident that they can understand where I am coming from. Anything less is an associate, which is not bad, just not someone close enough to share everything with.

This may sound a bit exclusive, but, then again, I never saw the point in trying to befriend everyone and anyone. You only need a handful of people you can depend on in life to be happy.
 
I would have literally no friends and be unable to spend time with 80% of my relatives if we weren’t supposed to be friends with people who are pro choice. Jesus spent time with the tax collectors and sinners. Because they were the ones who needed him most.
 
You don’t have to agree with everything. Don’t let this come between you,maybe it’s just something you can’t talk about.
 
Every single friend I have is pro choice.

I live in area that is very secular. Church goers are very low.

I wouldn’t ever have a friendship if I avoided anyone prochoice. I don’t even have a friend who goes to church. My parish is full of the elderly or individuals from the Indian community (and they keep to themselves and have their own gatherings)

My friends respect my POV and we don’t discuss it. If they ask for advice I would freely give it.
 
Depends how you define friendship I suppose…
Many of us have close relatives, even parents or children, who are not Catholics… are they not friends?
 
You don’t have to be family to eat at someone’s house a couple times.
 
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“Pro-Choice” doesn’t necessarily mean the person supports abortion for themselves and their families. Most people I know would not kill a child of their own and would gladly take on the child of another family member or even a non-relative to raise. People tend to be “pro choice” because they don’t feel they can impose their personal views on other women and tend to be overly concerned about the hard cases of rape or incest. So it’s incorrect to call every “pro-choice” person I know, especially the ones who are raising a child that isn’t their own bio kid, a “child murderer.”
 
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