Hi I would like to pray for all those I work with who are ostracizing me at work, due to me being the only different race in my team. I am left out at lunch, not included in any social gatherings, talked down to and ignored but my colleagues who are a very closed group of people which unfortunately, my boss is the main instigator. Sad to say that we are in the Human Resource team. I am depressed and would end up walking for hours after work aimlessly. I can’t quit my job because I am the sole provider of my mentally and physically disabled son. I bear the Lords cross each day and each day I pray but I am starting to lose this battle. Please Lord forgive them as they don’t know what they are doing. Have mercy on us. Amen
Sorry to hear that you haven’t been included as you should be and worse, that you’ve been excluded.
Can you get some support to help you take care of your son? There is a program called, “Respite” which may be able to at least give you a break once in a while.
Also, could you contact Goodwill (the office, not the store) about their programs? They work with all kinds of disabilities, both physical and mental. They have different programs.
I wish I could offer some kind of advice about that situation at work.
I’ve sometimes felt excluded at one place I have been volunteering. Basically, I like the work, feel I’m needed. My students like me, but I’ve also felt excluded.
I’ve been there almost a year, and nobody has ever invited me so much for a cup of coffee. We have birthdays, and mine got forgotten.
There seems to be some dynamic going on. In my case, I don’t have to stay if I don’t want to, but because I love my work, I put up with these dynamics.
Of late, I actually avoid people, stay to myself. I teach my classes, head home. I help them isolate me. It’s more comfortable for me to cooperate, than resist, that process in all irony.
I will use these next 3 months as a trial period. I want it to work, actually, because I doubt anyone else in the entire state does what I do. Also, I’d miss my students.
I look outside that environment for friendship and contacts. I have one other place I volunteer. I have one real friend over there. That helps to make up for what I don’t get in other areas of my life.
I was initially just basically an aide and was never considered part of the “equipo” (team). I thought once I became a teacher I would be, but no. Even though I’m a teacher, too, turns out I’m still not included.
The difference is that now, I have stopped wanting to be, and caring. If they want to be together in their cliques, exclude me, why do I want to be with people like that?
Although, my situation is quite different. I go a few hours, can leave. You are probably stuck there all day.
I wish you could find just even one ally. With one ally, it can make such a difference.
I’ve read what keeps people in a job. I’ve read if someone has even just one friend, it greatly increases the probability that person will stay. Whereas, if he has no friends, it’s that much more likely he/she will leave that job.
I hope you can find even just one friend to make this more bearable. If I were there, I’d try to help you through this.
It may not be much consolation, but we’re pulling for you! :hug1:
However, I’ve worked in many settings. If I get this to work out where I am, it will be the very first time I’ve ever been able to overcome a situation like that. Generally, I’ve either left on my own, or been forced out.
In your situation, I would probably be going through the “want ads” just in case.
