And also, how are we suppose to answer according to the church?I did that once…then my mom said “Did you hear what I said?” Apparently she thought I didn’t hear her, lol!
I would feel very uncomfortable to just smile. Honestly, I would most likely say something like “She is cute!” 
You’re good!
lol!
… Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful…???My mother has a habit of bringing me into her conversations. For instance, she will say “Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful?” or “Doesn’t Bob make the best chili!”. I really hate when she does this because usually I don’t agree and I end up saying “yes” so as not be rude.
So, how would you answer?
I think there is a difference with social niceties…when you pass a peer in the hall at work and they say in passing how are you, do you go into a litany of the complaints, “it was raining and my socks are wet and the damp flared up my allergies and I just had diarrhea from the **** that John brought in for food day” or do you just say “fine” and keep walking?My mother has a habit of bringing me into her conversations. For instance, she will say “Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful?” or “Doesn’t Bob make the best chili!”. I really hate when she does this because usually I don’t agree and I end up saying “yes” so as not be rude.
So, how would you answer?
then just add a noncommittal “mmmmhhhhmmm”.I did that once…then my mom said “Did you hear what I said?” Apparently she thought I didn’t hear her, lol!
I think you misunderstood my post. My mom and I have a very good relationship. We actually live down the street from my parents and we go over to visit every single day.
I thnk it is a real stretch to call the conventions of social conversation “sinning” and unless I was your priest in confession I would not dare to make such an assertion, and I think people are out of bounds if they make such statements about the actions of other people (they are free to comment on their own if they want).I th. Normally, I lie and say yes…however, after reading some threads here on CAF, it appears that this would be considered a sin, even though I never felt like I was sinning.
I think that she does not really want your opinion but that is simply her way to state her opinion about something. My suggestion is not to reply to her question but to mirror or paraphrase what she said. For example to the question “Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful?” you can say “You really like her dress. I can see why you like it!”. With that comment you acknowledge her point and you do not state your opinion.My mother has a habit of bringing me into her conversations. For instance, she will say “Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful?” or “Doesn’t Bob make the best chili!”. I really hate when she does this because usually I don’t agree and I end up saying “yes” so as not be rude.
So, how would you answer?
You Maureen, are The Master of good answers!
How much would it cost to have you follow me around all day pulling my foot out of my mouth?
Seriously, why can’t I think of such diplomatic things to say.?I would tell her, " No Sues dress is not beautiful, It does not go with her hair, and those shoes are sooo out of fashion." “As for Bobs chile, it gives me gas…” thats just me I guess. LOL! If I disagree I let them know it and why. I am a conservative with some pretty liberal friends. and neither of us, takes anything lying down. Trust me, You, and your mothers disagreements are mild.My mother has a habit of bringing me into her conversations. For instance, she will say “Isn’t Sue’s dress beautiful?” or “Doesn’t Bob make the best chili!”. I really hate when she does this because usually I don’t agree and I end up saying “yes” so as not be rude.
So, how would you answer?