Being sad at a wedding

[TheLittleLady]

To joy!!! To peace. To contentment (“I have learned that in whatever state I am to be content” as St Paul said)

 

[Dolphin]

I think it’s very easy to be that sometimes but othertimes not so easy. Everything seems monotonous sometimes

 

[runningdude]

Don’t be hard on yourself. I found this examination of conscience from the USCCB helpful:

Cast Your Cares upon the Lord: The Sacrament of Reconciliation and Single People
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The Temptations of the Single

The temptations that single men and women face are, for the most part, similar to those encountered by married men and women. Everyone, for example, is tempted by selfishness, impatience, resentment and anger.

Yet singles are more susceptible to some temptations. Self pity, for example, is a temptation that single men and women need to watch closely. Because they can more easily feel lonely, vulnerable and unprotected, single men and women can feel sorry for themselves because of their state of life. They may become depressed. …

Now, being lonely (or even depressed) is not itself sinful, but allowing yourself to wallow in self pity can be. Rather, these feelings are meant to be warnings that things need to change.

I read this guide several weeks ago, when I had maybe one sin to confess, and it struck me just how broken I was feeling. Someone had betrayed my trust recently, and I was hurting. It took humility for me to have been sinned against, yet for me to be the one to go to confession; to deal with the tree in my eye.

My point in posting a guide to confession is not to push you on dwelling on being a sinner, but to share the church’s insight regarding an an unhealthy habit of self pity. I also want to share what the sacrament of confession fundamentally is: a means of healing. Christ specifically gave us in-person confession, because he created us as social beings; the human touch, the verbal feedback of the priest, is meant to affirm our place in the human and heavenly community.

If you are consistently feeling lonely and unconnected, I would encourage you find human contact, whether it be clubs, your parish, or a professional counselor.