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Luvz2travel
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So how to you get by being single during the holidays? Lets face the truth it’s no fun being single on New Years Eve or Christmas Eve. I’m not venting or moaning about it just looking for suggestions.
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Domnall
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Do something fun. Spend Christmas with your family. For New Years, go out with friends.
I’m going to a concert on New Years, for example, and I’m going stag
I’m going to a concert on New Years, for example, and I’m going stag
Do you live near family? If so then you can spend time with them.
Does your parish have any special events for either day? Volunteering to help with the Mass where the children’s choir sings or helping out for the parish New Years Eve get-to-gether can be a great way to socialize and keep busy.
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kib
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I will be spending Christmas alone with my parents, none of my sisters or their families will be able to come. This is the first Christmas I have been single in quite a long time. New years will be spent with my parents, sisters and their families. I’m sure I will feel lonely. No sense being sad about it though, I am so blessed to have a family to spend that time with, otherwise it would just be me and my cat like every other day!
The only useful suggestion I can think of is to volunteer to help the needy on those days if you can’t be with family.
God bless you!
The only useful suggestion I can think of is to volunteer to help the needy on those days if you can’t be with family.
God bless you!
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Nanny_PK
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Christmas I spend with family.
But for New Year’s I usually do something with girl friends. This year we’re going to a high-class steakhouse and then either going to a movie; or if there’s nothing showing we want to see, we’ll go to one of our house and watch a DVD. I’ll bring a bottle of champagne so we can have a toast and then that gets us home before all the bars close and the drunks get on the road – or we might have an old-fashioned slumber party
But for New Year’s I usually do something with girl friends. This year we’re going to a high-class steakhouse and then either going to a movie; or if there’s nothing showing we want to see, we’ll go to one of our house and watch a DVD. I’ll bring a bottle of champagne so we can have a toast and then that gets us home before all the bars close and the drunks get on the road – or we might have an old-fashioned slumber party
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ElizabethPH
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I spend it with friends and family. Being single during Christmas and New Years isn’t a bad thing. If your comfortable with being single all the rest of the year it shouldn’t be a problem .
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twoangels
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I gave up dating when I was 19, then became passively open to it a couple years later, but remained single till I met my husband when I was 27. I don’t recall the holidays being especially tough because I was single. I just felt more like I was God’s temp. I’d go through periods of volunteering myself in one thing or another and that work would end and I’d wonder where God wanted me next. I longed for a more permanant mission from God.
I’d say appreciate what you have. Make sure you are being greatful for the people and family you do have in your life. Try to hand your heart and your desires more and more to God in order to work on your envy.
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GIR
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i’m pretty much a confirmed bachelor already at the age of 25, but I learned a lot from my parents about what to do if you don’t have close friends or family nearby for the holidays (note that by “holidays” I don’t mean the PC word for Christmas, I mean the period consisting of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s.)
When my parents moved before they had my sister, they made a decision to form a circle of friends around the church, and we spend most of our holidays with them, especially now that my dad’s parents have died. (my mom’s parents were both gone by the time I was in kindergarten)
Sometimes being deliberately single can be lonely, but I feel like if I had a wife/girlfriend she would end up as my caretaker (I’m disabled) and that’s not healthy.
My dog is enough companionship most of the time, and I have friends and family around when I get really lonely.
When my parents moved before they had my sister, they made a decision to form a circle of friends around the church, and we spend most of our holidays with them, especially now that my dad’s parents have died. (my mom’s parents were both gone by the time I was in kindergarten)
Sometimes being deliberately single can be lonely, but I feel like if I had a wife/girlfriend she would end up as my caretaker (I’m disabled) and that’s not healthy.
My dog is enough companionship most of the time, and I have friends and family around when I get really lonely.
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Joannm
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I’m not single and I don’t do anything on New Years Eve…in fact we are asleep usually by 10:30 and wake up when the neighbors kids start banging pots ant midnight. My kids are out for the night and it’s just like any other night for my husband and I. We don’t need to go out eating too much and drinking and worrying about drunk drivers on the road. One of the best new years eve we spent was at a parish that had a 10 PM mass and then adoration till midnight. That was nice but it was still too late to be getting home. I don’t miss not doing anything on New Year’s Eve. New Years Day we go to Mass and watch football. At some point during the day the kids come home and go to sleep.
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Corinne3
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Well I was never one to stay out late on New Year’s Eve or even like to stay out late ever, but I do like spending Holidays with loved ones, and this year I will be alone, perhaps, don;t know yet.
I say friend, “Don;t worry, Be happy”.
Read a good book, take a bath and just relax.
I say friend, “Don;t worry, Be happy”.
Read a good book, take a bath and just relax.
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Magickman
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As a never married person of 61, I have lots of experience being single during the holidays.
The important thing is not to feel sorry for yourself, when you are alone at these times. Rather than moping about, I buy some good food, and secure interesting reading material from the library.
After a nourishing meal, I will settle down with a book and read until falling asleep. No TV. I have been unplugged for over a year. This is a safe and sane celebration of holiday times.
The important thing is not to feel sorry for yourself, when you are alone at these times. Rather than moping about, I buy some good food, and secure interesting reading material from the library.
After a nourishing meal, I will settle down with a book and read until falling asleep. No TV. I have been unplugged for over a year. This is a safe and sane celebration of holiday times.
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CountrySinger
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I’m not single, but my fiance is in Scotland and I’m in Seattle, WA, so I will be spending the holidays alone. My parents have both passed away (so this time of year is hard anyway), and the rest of my family lives at least 5 hours away (and we aren’t particularly close ever since Mom died, so it would be at the best uncomfortable). I got some invites from my co-workers and friends to spend Christmas with them, but I feel awkward for crashing a family celebration, you know? So it will be wine, Wii, and movies for me and my cats.
I think the one thing that makes it better is that next year, I will be married and spending my first Christmas in the UK.
I think the one thing that makes it better is that next year, I will be married and spending my first Christmas in the UK.
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beckers
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I will go to church alone and then go visit my family on christmas since they live in town. Then i will come home and crash on the couch and watch football, movies and taking naps and just enjoy being done with 2nd to last semester of law school. Woohoo!!!
I will probaly then head out at some point and see some friends during the break since I haven’t seen anyone during this semester except by facebook.
New Years will probally be alone down at the beach house. This has been the roughest year of school and i got engaged and ended the engagement this year so i am kind of looking foward to leaving it all behind but for good reason you can understand why i don’t really want to be around people.
My best suggestings is to enjoy what you can and don’t push youself to hard or you will wear yourself out. Realize what the season is really for and embrace advent and the christmas season in the church litgury. Spend time with yourself. Read a good book or go to the movies by yourself.
I will probaly then head out at some point and see some friends during the break since I haven’t seen anyone during this semester except by facebook.
New Years will probally be alone down at the beach house. This has been the roughest year of school and i got engaged and ended the engagement this year so i am kind of looking foward to leaving it all behind but for good reason you can understand why i don’t really want to be around people.
My best suggestings is to enjoy what you can and don’t push youself to hard or you will wear yourself out. Realize what the season is really for and embrace advent and the christmas season in the church litgury. Spend time with yourself. Read a good book or go to the movies by yourself.
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Rascalking
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Stay busy by volunteering, working, being with friends. I donate my time at various charities, hang out with my friends and family.
Idle hands are the devils playground…and idle hands also lead to depression!
Idle hands are the devils playground…and idle hands also lead to depression!
I’ll spend Christmas with my family, but New Years is always depressing. My brother and his wife usually go to a party with college friends of theirs. My sister and her husband usually just do something together because that’s when he proposed to her and I don’t have any friends to do anything with and I don’t want to go someplace by myself. It sucks doubly because my birthday is Dec 30th and I never have anything to do special for my birthday.
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baltobetsy
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When I was single, I used to throw a big party the day after Christmas. I invited all my single and married friends and relatives. It was a blast. Then one year, my DH-to-be (whom I had just met) blew off his Godmother’s day after Christmas party to come to mine, and soon after, I wasn’t single any more.
Another good thing to do is volunteer on Christmas day if you’re totally alone. One year after I was married, all the relatives were out of town, so I took a shift in the hospital emergency room as a patient rep. That was a great day. If you have a regular volunteer job, see if you can work Christmas so the marrieds can be off.
Another good thing to do is volunteer on Christmas day if you’re totally alone. One year after I was married, all the relatives were out of town, so I took a shift in the hospital emergency room as a patient rep. That was a great day. If you have a regular volunteer job, see if you can work Christmas so the marrieds can be off.
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Magickman
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It takes courage and determination to break out of dull routine and make connections with others.
When New Years rolls around, you can bury your head in the sand, or else go try something new.
Honestly, it isn’t necessary to have a date, to enjoy some New Year’s fun.
I speak from experience. In high school and college, I was not allowed to go out to celebrate New Years. My folks were very resrictive.
Post college, it was rare to have a New Year’s date.
So it boils down to staying home alone, or else finding a reason to go out.
It is more fun to go out, if you can find something you like.
A social dance party, with a good band, is one great alternative to staying home.
I always end up going home alone, but such is life.
When New Years rolls around, you can bury your head in the sand, or else go try something new.
Honestly, it isn’t necessary to have a date, to enjoy some New Year’s fun.
I speak from experience. In high school and college, I was not allowed to go out to celebrate New Years. My folks were very resrictive.
Post college, it was rare to have a New Year’s date.
So it boils down to staying home alone, or else finding a reason to go out.
It is more fun to go out, if you can find something you like.
A social dance party, with a good band, is one great alternative to staying home.
I always end up going home alone, but such is life.
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3DOCTORS
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I’m thinking of crashing Nanny PK’s party, LOL! It sounds like fun!
Barring that, here’s my usual holiday M.O.:
I like to go to Christmas Eve and Christmas Day Masses.
In the last decade, since my Dad passed away in '03 and I moved near Mom and she was in the nursing home till she passed in '08, I’d go visit Mom during the daytime. Sometimes family from out of town might come over and we’d go out to eat and to visit my dad’s grave. Or maybe to my one cousin’s in town for a Thanksgiving or Christmas meal. Or sometimes I get invited for a meal at a friend’s.
My friends and I are on tight budgets so there’s usually not a lot of gift exchange anymore; but that’s OK, because then I don’t have to fight the shopping crowds.
The economy will have to struggle through without my meagre bucks. :twocents:
For New Year’s, I often go to the Vigil Mass. Then I go back home. I used to watch the Dick Clark show or get together with friends or a boyfriend back in the day. Nowadays, I prefer to be home well ahead of the drunks, and just hunker in with whatever strikes my fancy. Which could be a DVD movie, a book, a project - sometimes I even get sleepy :yawn: and have an early bedtime, with the knowledge that I may be wakened for a little while at midnight!
Pretty tame stuff.
Also, I have pets and I like to be home on New Years to make sure fireworks and noise don’t bother them. I like a quiet life.
Barring that, here’s my usual holiday M.O.:
I like to go to Christmas Eve and Christmas Day Masses.
In the last decade, since my Dad passed away in '03 and I moved near Mom and she was in the nursing home till she passed in '08, I’d go visit Mom during the daytime. Sometimes family from out of town might come over and we’d go out to eat and to visit my dad’s grave. Or maybe to my one cousin’s in town for a Thanksgiving or Christmas meal. Or sometimes I get invited for a meal at a friend’s.
My friends and I are on tight budgets so there’s usually not a lot of gift exchange anymore; but that’s OK, because then I don’t have to fight the shopping crowds.
The economy will have to struggle through without my meagre bucks. :twocents:For New Year’s, I often go to the Vigil Mass. Then I go back home. I used to watch the Dick Clark show or get together with friends or a boyfriend back in the day. Nowadays, I prefer to be home well ahead of the drunks, and just hunker in with whatever strikes my fancy. Which could be a DVD movie, a book, a project - sometimes I even get sleepy :yawn: and have an early bedtime, with the knowledge that I may be wakened for a little while at midnight!
Pretty tame stuff.Also, I have pets and I like to be home on New Years to make sure fireworks and noise don’t bother them. I like a quiet life.
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CountrySinger
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Also, I have pets and I like to be home on New Years to make sure fireworks and noise don’t bother them. I like a quiet life.
One of my cats hates fireworks! One time, I was gone on 4th of July, and she had torn up one part of my bed while I was gone. The other one thinks that noise=party=food. So she gets happy with noise.
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joandarc2008
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I will be doing service wherever I get the opportunity.
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