Being sorry for sins at confession

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Ok so I’m a bit worried about being in the state of mortal sin, because a couple of weeks ago I committed a mortal sin, then did it again the next day. That same day I went to confession and confessed my sins. I am worried about not being contrite enough/at all. Also because I used going to confession as a sin.

Since then I have received communion 3 or 4 times and been to confession twice. I am worried that perhaps I wasn’t sorry for my sins. I’m always trying not to commit the same sins again.

Any suggestions/tips for what I should do regarding this? And how do you define being sorry? I know that it is not a feeling, but what is it then? An act? Trying to not do it again? Thanks in advance.
 
veryworried6277 said:
Ok so I’m a bit worried about being in the state of mortal sin, because a couple of weeks ago I committed a mortal sin, then did it again the next day. That same day I went to confession and confessed my sins. I am worried about not being contrite enough/at all. Also because I used going to confession as a sin.

Since then I have received communion 3 or 4 times and been to confession twice. I am worried that perhaps I wasn’t sorry for my sins. I’m always trying not to commit the same sins again.

Any suggestions/tips for what I should do regarding this? And how do you define being sorry? I know that it is not a feeling, but what is it then? An act? Trying to not do it again? Thanks in advance.
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For valid confession, it is sufficient to have imperfect contrition which, at a minimum is being sorry for your sins because you fear their eternal consequences (eternal damnation). In your case, the fact that you are worried about the state of your soul suggests that you have sufficient contrition.

When you go to confession, make sure that you firmly resolve never to commit the sin again, and take steps to avoid the things that draw you into that sin. For example, some people might find that use of the internet while alone is an occasion of sin. If that case, avoiding the use of the internet while alone, or having someone else install internet filtering software would be steps to take to avoid the occasion of sin.
 
I am worried now, yes, but don’t you have to be sorry for your sins before/during confession?
 
I worry a lot too, so I can see where you are coming from but from posts I’ve read and I think the answer to this question is that for the minimum (name removed by moderator)ut on your part for a confession to work is if you are sorry that your sin will put you in hell, purgatory or whatever bad thing happens if you don’t repent. I’m not catholic, just what I heard. When you were sinning you probably didn’t want to go to hell right?

*I mean before confession you didn’t want to suffer the consequences
 
I guess now that I think about it I wouldn’t had just gone to confession for the sake of it, as I’m always worried that my sins will force me into hell. Maybe it’s just the guilt that I used going to confession as an excuse to sin. I’m pretty sure I felt horrible after it. How can I overcome this guilt?
 
Sometimes I think like that Oh I know this is wrong but God will forgive me later. In the bible it says not to do that. But I’m guessing that very act is a sin in itself so you could repent for that. I know a song and I’m not sure if its catholic too but it may help. Its a hymn actually.
No guilt in life
No fear in death
This is the power of Christ in me
From Life’s first cry
Till final breath, Jesus commands my destiny
Hang on I’ll just check if its Catholic, or maybe someone else could answer. But even so you could repent for using confession as an excuse.

I just found out about Purgatory two days ago and I was soooooo worried. But in the bible Jesus says not to worry. I had a test at uni that day and i didn’t want to fail so I had to take God’s word for it.

But yer i’ll look if that song is Catholic… repent about using excuses… and then maybe i’ll just shutup and let someone else do the answering!
 
But I mean we are born sinners. Its our nature. DONT USE THAT AS AN EXCUSE THOUGH!!! as i sometimes do. I think its good to try do the right thing because you love God, purgatory is an extra motivator but i don’t really know what im talking about when i talk about purgatory. But in the bible it we have a sinful nature. It is Gods will for us to go to heaven.
 
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It is a song that is played on the DVD of the Passion of The Christ.
And this website is Catholic

hicatholicmom.blogspot.com.au/2011/04/in-christ-alone.html

In Christ alone my hope is found,
He is my light, my strength, my song;
this Cornerstone, this solid Ground,
firm through the fiercest drought and storm.
What heights of love, what depths of peace,
when fears are stilled, when strivings cease!
My Comforter, my All in All,
here in the love of Christ I stand.

In Christ alone! who took on flesh
Fulness of God in helpless babe!
This gift of love and righteousness
Scorned by the ones he came to save:
Till on that cross as Jesus died,
The wrath of God was satisfied -
For every sin on Him was laid;
Here in the death of Christ I live.

There in the ground His body lay
Light of the world by darkness slain:
Then bursting forth in glorious Day
Up from the grave he rose again!
And as He stands in victory
Sin’s curse has lost its grip on me,
For I am His and He is mine -
Bought with the precious blood of Christ.

No guilt in life, no fear in death,
This is the power of Christ in me;
From life’s first cry to final breath.
Jesus commands my destiny.
No power of hell, no scheme of man,
Can ever pluck me from His hand;
Till He returns or calls me home,
Here in the power of Christ I’ll stand.

That song has helped me a lot. I was a bit scared of becoming Catholic because confessing every sin is impossible! but that reminds me when you confess don’t you also say something like ’ and please forgive me about all the other sins i don’t know ive done"

This blogs actually helping me not to be scared too! High five!

Now just hope someone else who is Catholic can back what i’m saying up!
 
Every day when I pray, before my petitions I ask for forgiveness for my sins and always say, “especially for the sins which I don’t recall or recognize” because I figure those I need the most help with since I’m not cognizent of them on my own.
Maybe that will give you some reassurence that you’ve covered your bases?
But don’t worry so much - God knows what’s in your heart. Confess to your best ability and truly be sorry for offending God - if you are only sorry because you’re afraid of what’s going to happen to you, that seems insincere to me. I mean, if I did something mean to you and only apologized because I thought you might hit me if I didn’t instead of really being sorry that I hurt you, wouldn’t that be wrong? 🤷
 
Is this something you would be happy to do in front of your mother, in the street or talk about on a chat-show? If not, then you must already be disgusted with it and yourself.

Disgust leads to shame which should lead to sorrow & revulsion. Your self-image is being destroyed but you are really not taking active steps to avoid the circumstances leading to the repeated sin which presumably gives you gratification (or you wouldn’t repeat it so often).

All sins are really crimes against self or society or others. You don’t have to be an RC or even a Christian to realize that. The moral life is the only life-style that brings contentment & peace of mind to humans.If we all lie, cheat, steal etc. society quickly breaks down and no law-enforcement can restore it.

You seem to be rather self-engrossed; maybe you need to widen your horizons & think of others.
 
If someone thinks that they haven’t commited a mortal sin after examining their actions, then is there any way this can be a mortal sin? As it is lacking full knowledge?
 
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Is this something you would be happy to do in front of your mother, in the street or talk about on a chat-show? If not, then you must already be disgusted with it and yourself.

Disgust leads to shame which should lead to sorrow & revulsion. Your self-image is being destroyed but you are really not taking active steps to avoid the circumstances leading to the repeated sin which presumably gives you gratification (or you wouldn’t repeat it so often).

All sins are really crimes against self or society or others. You don’t have to be an RC or even a Christian to realize that. The moral life is the only life-style that brings contentment & peace of mind to humans.If we all lie, cheat, steal etc. society quickly breaks down and no law-enforcement can restore it.

You seem to be rather self-engrossed; maybe you need to widen your horizons & think of others.
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Thank you for that correction.
I still would rather be self engrossed than go to hell though. But I am selfish and I’m confused.

MR or Mrs Worried. I would like to know the answer to ur question as well!
 
Actually, veryworried6277 I would go and confess everything if you are really worried. But all the questions you post- I probably want to to the answer to all of them as well.
 
Questionshf said:
Thank you for that correction.
I still would rather be self engrossed than go to hell though. But I am selfish and I’m confused.

MR or Mrs Worried. I would like to know the answer to ur question as well!
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unfortunately being self-engrossed is in itself a potentially deadly sin. It gets in the way of your relationship with God.
You are called first to Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your Mind, all your Soul and all your strength.

How can you do this if your a re self engrossed?

Next you are called to Love your neighbour as yourself?
How can you do this if you are self engrossed?

I pray daily for an outpouring of *Repentance *in my life.

Ask the Lord for a fresh outpouring of the Holy Spirit in your Life. - ask every day. “More More I’m still not satisfied.”.
Read in the bible what the spirit will do for you… His Gifts. His Fruits, possibly his Charisms.

These will lead you to repentance, and away from sin.

The whole point is that we CANNOT do it on our own. It is only by Gods Grace that we can attain a true repentance. - by the working of His Holy Spirit in our lives.
 
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