I am an oblate (layperson) of Our Lady of Grace Monastery in Beech Grove, IN, a few minutes south of downtown Indianapolis. Although it is in the city, it has a park-light setting. Although I am male, our monastery of sisters accepts both male and female who choose to become oblates as well as those who are Catholic and Protestant, including ministers. Some of us live in another state, which is not necessarily a handicap. Most of the oblates at St. Meinrad Archabby, located in southern Indiana near the Ohio River and KY, for example, are from all over the US.
I have visited a number of other monasteries, both with sisters and monks. One way to get information is to go to
osb.org/.
Besides basic information about a monastery, nearly all have an oblate newsletter, which can provide basic information about their individual oblate program, if that might be of interest to you.
Best wishes on your exploration…
jblair