Oren:
I just want to see if anyone can say anything about this. For my entire life, including up til right now, i have had a huge bias against protestants. I want to say Protestantism, not protestants. But i don’t know if that is completely true. I’ve had this bias way before I ever became Catholic. I was never Protesant. I live in the Bible Belt, and I have always felt that Protestantism was hopelessly stupid. I still feel this way. And as a result I get very upset about a lot of things…I get easily upset when Protestants speak against the Catholic Church and I get really, really upset when they speak against Our Mother. I don’t know if this is a liability or a bad thing? I think maybe it is. Just because I have bitterness against them. And yet, I see all these ecumenical people who seem to think about Protestantism as if it were just some benevolent force, which it clearly isn’t, no more than Islam or Hinduism is. So I just wonder if anyone can see what I’m saying, relate, or have anything to advice, or if people need me to explain more how i feel.
Dear Oren,
You must be able to separate Protestant teaching from Protestants. It is important to be able to look with a critical eye at teachings that differ from or contradict those of the Catholic Church, and to understand why the Church rejects them.
With this knowledge, you can quite simply say “that’s not true” when a false teaching is presented, and you can calmly and with patience be able to explain why.
There is no way to categorize “Protestants” per se; most are not heretics, because they have not intentionally broken away from the faith; they are honoring the only faith they know. I think many on this forum have an exaggerated idea about the exposure most people outside the Church have to Catholicism. Growing up Anabaptist, I was well-educated and widely read, yet I could list everything I knew about the Catholic Church on one hand, and most of that was hearsay.
I didn’t “reject” the Church, it never even occurred to me to investigate its claims, for the same reason that most people on this board arn’t seriously investigating the claims of the Rev. Sun Yung Moon. It was so far out of my interest, experience and belief system.
Protestants who antagonize Catholics and insult their faith are simply being RUDE individuals. They are not the norm. Some on this forum may disagree, but again, I would expect that most of their exposure to Protestants has been through similar forums, Web sites, and apologetic exchanges, not through day-to-day, practical relationships where a mutual love of God and the help of neighbor is a cause of unity, not division.
My family is Protestant. Obviously, they looked askance at my conversion. Because my parents, especially, are truly holy people, they have never raised ANY objections to what the Church teaches (although I know they disagree with many things), and have certainly never impugned my faith. Rather, they look for common ground where we can grow towards God together. None of us believes in relativism, or that all religions are the same, but we do know that ultimately, we will stand before God to be judged based on how much we have loved Him and others with the faith we have. Our love for God brings us together and allows us to learn from one another, even though we disagree on important topics.
Therefore, I would urge you to form relationships with Protestants that do not center primarily around defending your Catholic faith. Find common ground and common interests so that you can put a stop to your bitterness and judgementalism about them. They are your separated brothers and sisters in Christ, not your enemies.
I don’t necessarily mean ecumenism; I mean basic human interaction. Try working at a local soup kitchen - you may be humbled by all you learn from people of different faiths. Take the focus off defending your own faith, and steer clear of those who would antagonize your beliefs. Rather, work at being a quiet witness among others, whom you respect and are called to love.
I suggest this only because I don’t see that relativism is a danger for you (I would not give the same advice to a teenager). But ridiculing and belittling others on the basis of their beliefs, which is quite different from rejecting the beliefs themselves, can lead to grave sin. As the Psalm says, looking down on others insults their Creator.
My best wishes and prayers.