Big Question

[sassypeach05]

I am an adult and live with my parents due to money troubles for the both of us. While I was raised Catholic, due to not having a car I never attended got fully brought into the Church (ie: confirmed, etc). I was recently signed up for RCIA so I could finally start the process at long last. However due to the lack of a car, I was asked not to go by them (my parents) since I would be using public transportation in a bad side of town at night. I chose to respect their wishes.

This is the catch though, it is the only sessions that they offer that I can attend due to work. So my question is what can I do to fully join into the Church while also respecting their wishes out of choice? Also, am I wrong for choosing to do their wishes in this case?

I am not sure if this is in the wrong section. If it is, I apologize and please feel free to move it.

 

[henpecked]

you are an adult. Your parents should honor your mature adult decisions. And maybe you can find someone at the church who will give you a ride versus taking public transportation.

 

[Rau]

I am an adult and live with my parents due to money troubles for the both of us. While I was raised Catholic, due to not having a car I never attended got fully brought into the Church (ie: confirmed, etc). I was recently signed up for RCIA so I could finally start the process at long last. However due to the lack of a car, I was asked not to go by them (my parents) since I would be using public transportation in a bad side of town at night. I chose to respect their wishes.

This is the catch though, it is the only sessions that they offer that I can attend due to work. So my question is what can I do to fully join into the Church while also respecting their wishes out of choice? Also, am I wrong for choosing to do their wishes in this case?

I am not sure if this is in the wrong section. If it is, I apologize and please feel free to move it.

By all means, show respect to your parents’ wishes, but that does not oblige you to conform to them. As an adult, you should understand that.

 

[ClearWater]

I am an adult and live with my parents due to money troubles for the both of us. While I was raised Catholic, due to not having a car I never attended got fully brought into the Church (ie: confirmed, etc). I was recently signed up for RCIA so I could finally start the process at long last. However due to the lack of a car, I was asked not to go by them (my parents) since I would be using public transportation in a bad side of town at night. I chose to respect their wishes.

This is the catch though, it is the only sessions that they offer that I can attend due to work. So my question is what can I do to fully join into the Church while also respecting their wishes out of choice? Also, am I wrong for choosing to do their wishes in this case?

I am not sure if this is in the wrong section. If it is, I apologize and please feel free to move it.

When we are underaged, we must obey our parents. When we are adults, we are to respect them, but we don’t have to obey them. We are on equal levels. They can give advice and suggestions but can no longer tell us what to do.

 

[SeekerWillie]

Definitely talk with the RCIA coordinator, and perhaps even the priest at your parish. Even if someone can’t give you a door-to-door ride, perhaps they can pick you up and drop you off in an area that your parents feel is “safer.”

It’s honorable that you want to respect your parents’ wishes. However, as others have mentioned, you are an adult, so ideally, they should respect yours as well. If you haven’t already done so, explain to them why this is important to you and let them know you’d appreciate their support.

 

[Irishmom2]

When we are underaged, we must obey our parents. When we are adults, we are to respect them, but we don’t have to obey them. We are on equal levels. They can give advice and suggestions but can no longer tell us what to do.

Yes, this.