Birth Control HELP

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HELP… My wife and I have been married now for a little over a year. We have a blended family of five and we have been through a lot. My wife was never married and suffered 15 years of phyical and mental abuse by her ex. Her 3 kids do not see their dad even with him being only 10 minutes away. My first wife passed away from cancer when my kids were 6 and 8. This was around 6 years ago. I have recently declared bankruptcy and had to close one of my businesses.

However greater is he that is in me then he that is in the world. God has brought us thorugh all of it and we have begun to make progress in out walk with God and renewing our catholic faith. I am 44 and my wife is 40. We were able to hang on to our home and cars but we have no medical insurance or savings at this time. My question is this. We still have major work to do with our children, ourselves, our faith and blending this family. Is it a sin for us to use condoms?

Thanks for your attention on this subject. God Bless you all.
 
Yes. It is a mortal sin to use any form of birth control.

What you both need to do is learn one of the methods of Natural Family Planning. Of course, you need to use this with prayerful discernment, completely open to life and whatever might be God’s plans for you.
 
Yes it is still a sin to use condoms. Talk to your priest about getting into an NFP program at your parish to learn how to plan your families future without going against church teaching.
 
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Is it a sin for us to use condoms?
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Contraception is always gravely wrong. Circumstances do not change that.

If you have a serious reason to avoid, then you can abstain. You can choose to abstain from relations completely, or you and your spouse can learn a method of natural family planning and abstain periodically.

With her nearing the time when she will begin peri-menopause, I suggest the Marquette Model of NFP.
 
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Contraception is always gravely wrong. Circumstances do not change that.

If you have a serious reason to avoid, then you can abstain. You can choose to abstain from relations completely, or you and your spouse can learn a method of natural family planning and abstain periodically.

With her nearing the time when she will begin peri-menopause, I suggest the Marquette Model of NFP.
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Listen to this wise advice!! 👍

Prayers for you, OP…
 
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My question is this. We still have major work to do with our children, ourselves, our faith and blending this family. Is it a sin for us to use condoms?

Thanks for your attention on this subject. God Bless you all.
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that is why we have priests and confession, to ask those personal questions.
You already know the Church teaching, it is gravely sinful to use any form of artificial birth control in order to prevent pregnancy. your priority should be her healing, and being used in this way will not foster that. And yes sadly women do come to feel this way because of ABC.
 
Yes, it is still wrong to use condoms. The church teaches that contraception is an intrinsic evil; that is, it is always wrong and circumstances can’t change that.

The church does not teach that you must continue to have children when you and your wife feel strongly that you are not in a good position to care for an additional child right now. You can learn a method of NFP and practice it conservatively, or you can choose to abstain completely from sex.
 
My feeling is to just have normal relations (no condoms) and leave the rest up to God. At age 40, your wife may not be able to conceive anyway, and IF she does, that baby could be the glue that cements your new family together. All of the children will be related to that baby, and it would be a sign of your love for your wife and her love for you. I say this b/c my husband had two children from a previous marriage who were 11 and almost 13 when our son was born. That was almost 19 years ago. I only wish now I had trusted the Lord to give me more children if that was His will. We can’t go back and change things though…and one day you may regret that you didn’t have a child with your wife.
 
Please understand I am in no way dismissing your financial problems. Under ordinary circumstances, I would say you should avoid pregnancy by using NFP. I only said what I said above b/c of your wife’s age and time left for childbearing. Your circumstances right now are temporary, but you may look back in five years and wish you’d had a child together and it will be too late. But at the very least you should use NFP if you feel that your other children would go hungry or be neglected.
 
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