Blessing my husband

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Hello, I like to read this forum but I never post. But today I need your help. I went to cofedion today and after telling my sins the priest asked me if I blees my husband. I told him I didn’t understand the wuestion and the priest asked me if I am a believer and I said yes. He asked me then “you are a brliever and you don’t know what it means to bless your husband”? And I daid no. He stayed quiet for a bit and then told me I need to bless him everyday because othereise he will cheat on me sooner or later. (Nothing in what I told him or in my sins could lead him to believe our marriage could be in trouble) I left and I was puzzles, even a little upset. Later my husband said the priest asked him the same thing and he also did not know how to respond. We asked our parents and inlaws and they also had no idea what he could have meant. So we googles ways to bless your husband and we came up with things like spending time togeter, talking, listening, being acrctionatr were ways to bless yout spouse. Was that what the priest asked about? Because it would be hard to not “bless” your spouse if you live togeter if that was what he asked for. Please tell me, am I missing something? How dhould I bless my husband. Or should I tell him daily "I bless you???
 
Personally, when I would go to confession, the priest would always tell me something like this:

“Ask God to Bless your parents, siblings, and friends.”

You can replace parents, siblings and friends with husband, or whatever you’d like.

When a priest says “Ask God to Bless” it means pray to God, so they He may help that person. However, he simply said Bless, correct?

Most likely, he’s saying Bless, referring to Ask God to Bless. That is most likely it, as that is a way some people say it.

Either way, just ask God to Bless you all, and find the true meaning of these words if you are still confused.

God Bless! 😃
 
I think it means to bring peace, happiness and prayer, with all you do for and with your husband. In other words, be a blessing to him.
 
I would be very concerned if a priest said that my spouse might cheat sometime! It sounds very strange.
 
I had a priest say a very similar thing to me once. He was a priest whose native language and culture were very different from ours and It took quite a while for me to figure out his meaning and that truly he meant no offense with his words. He was trying to express something from his culture and it came across awkwardly and kind of gruff. What my priest meant was that as spouses we need to live in a way that puts our spouses needs above our wants, we need to pray daily for our spouse, and we need to allow our spouse to love and care for us in ways we may not be entirely comfortable with, but are ways that are holy and good for us. An example is allowing husband’s to parent without interference or clean in a way we wouldn’t have done it or even thanking them for trying to do a good deed even if you would have preferred something different. Sometimes it really is the intentions and thoughts that count. If your priest isn’t from another culture with a different native language he may still mean these things, but I would try to seek him out for clarification. Sometimes we all clumsily speak.
 
MJS2011 said:
Hello, I like to read this forum but I never post. But today I need your help. I went to cofedion today and after telling my sins the priest asked me if I blees my husband. I told him I didn’t understand the wuestion and the priest asked me if I am a believer and I said yes. He asked me then “you are a brliever and you don’t know what it means to bless your husband”? And I daid no. He stayed quiet for a bit and then told me I need to bless him everyday because othereise he will cheat on me sooner or later. (Nothing in what I told him or in my sins could lead him to believe our marriage could be in trouble) I left and I was puzzles, even a little upset. Later my husband said the priest asked him the same thing and he also did not know how to respond. We asked our parents and inlaws and they also had no idea what he could have meant. So we googles ways to bless your husband and we came up with things like spending time togeter, talking, listening, being acrctionatr were ways to bless yout spouse. Was that what the priest asked about? Because it would be hard to not “bless” your spouse if you live togeter if that was what he asked for. Please tell me, am I missing something? How dhould I bless my husband. Or should I tell him daily "I bless you???
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This sounds like a language or culture barrier to me.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to interrupt father and remind him I’m here for absolution…
 
I suspect that he meant you should strive to be a blessing to your husband. He might have been confused by your answer because most spouses think they are at least somewhat of a blessing to their spouse, even when they really are a pain. When you said “no” he might of thought that you were being defiant, like you didn’t want to be a blessing, hence the stern answer.
 
I forgot to mention that my native language is not English and the priest’s native language is same as mine. We live in the USA so I though I ask here because I though that it was something that is popular in anerican culture. Although I lived in US for 16 years and my native culture is not that different than american, I though I was missing something. And the priest really did make me feel bad his tone was as if He was looking down at me, and I always believed a priest should be loving to bring people closer to the church not scare them away. He was very mean in the way he talked to me like I didn’t know the basics of catholic faith, but since I asked so many people and here too and nobody can really tell me what exactly he meant I don’t know what to think of him or thr confession. Thank you for your replies they were comforting, I really started to think that I needed to go back to school to learn what my faith is about 🤷
 
MJS2011 said:
I forgot to mention that my native language is not English and the priest’s native language is same as mine. We live in the USA so I though I ask here because **I though that it was something that is popular in anerican culture. **Although I lived in US for 16 years and my native culture is not that different than american, I though I was missing something. And the priest really did make me feel bad his tone was as if He was looking down at me, and I always believed a priest should be loving to bring people closer to the church not scare them away. He was very mean in the way he talked to me like I didn’t know the basics of catholic faith, but since I asked so many people and here too and nobody can really tell me what exactly he meant I don’t know what to think of him or thr confession. Thank you for your replies they were comforting, I really started to think that I needed to go back to school to learn what my faith is about 🤷
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Nope.

That’s actually more US Protestant usage than Catholic.

Find somebody that you understand better to go to confession to. It shouldn’t require extensive research to understand one’s confessor.
 
Xantippe said:
Nope.

That’s actually more US Protestant usage than Catholic.

Find somebody that you understand better to go to confession to. It shouldn’t require extensive research to understand one’s confessor.
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Then honestly it sounds like a kind of patriarchal view common in many South American cultures. If I were you I’d do my best to forget it.
 
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