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RyanL
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April,
You may be interested in my personal situation. My wife is Baptist, and when we were wed I was a pretty shoddy Catholic (I did not know/follow many of the tenets of the faith). As we waited until marriage to have sex, the issue didn’t really come up before we were wed. After we were wed, however, my wife told me that she was fairly solidly against birth control - mainly because of the HUGE health risks involved with taking the pill (I can point you to info if you’ve never heard of these deadly risks - they’re not very well advertised, but all doctors are aware of them and they are published). Because I love her, I agreed to go to an NFP training class.
What an eye opener!
I learned about how the pill harms women, how the pill can abort newly-conceived babies (just like the “morning after” pill), how sex was intended by God to have two purposes (the unitive and the procreative), how in sex God allows us to participate in His creative powers, how it is right and proper to trust God to plan your family, and also how it is okay to use NFP to put space between births (like your brother’s case). NFP doesn’t mean that you have to have 100 children - only as many as God has in store for you. You can help plan (like in your brother’s case), but you have to allow God to work in your marriage. By using birth control (condoms included), you are telling God “no, I don’t care what you want from me, we are doing this for our own pleasure and you can stay out!” Not a very christian attitude, if you ask me. Again, I never put this together on my own, and it wasn’t until my wife led me to the truth about this that I found out how wrong I was!
During the times when we abstain from sex, we spend more time focusing on loving eachother in other ways. Lots of foot rubs and back massages, trips to the movies and “date nights”, we play board games and go to the book store together. NFP has brought the grace of God into our marriage, and has really opened my eyes to what God wants from us.
The more you look into this, the more you’ll see how biblical a teaching this is.
Just to brag - my wife and I are expecting our first child (boy) in about a month. I couldn’t be happier!
God bless,
RyanL
You may be interested in my personal situation. My wife is Baptist, and when we were wed I was a pretty shoddy Catholic (I did not know/follow many of the tenets of the faith). As we waited until marriage to have sex, the issue didn’t really come up before we were wed. After we were wed, however, my wife told me that she was fairly solidly against birth control - mainly because of the HUGE health risks involved with taking the pill (I can point you to info if you’ve never heard of these deadly risks - they’re not very well advertised, but all doctors are aware of them and they are published). Because I love her, I agreed to go to an NFP training class.
What an eye opener!
I learned about how the pill harms women, how the pill can abort newly-conceived babies (just like the “morning after” pill), how sex was intended by God to have two purposes (the unitive and the procreative), how in sex God allows us to participate in His creative powers, how it is right and proper to trust God to plan your family, and also how it is okay to use NFP to put space between births (like your brother’s case). NFP doesn’t mean that you have to have 100 children - only as many as God has in store for you. You can help plan (like in your brother’s case), but you have to allow God to work in your marriage. By using birth control (condoms included), you are telling God “no, I don’t care what you want from me, we are doing this for our own pleasure and you can stay out!” Not a very christian attitude, if you ask me. Again, I never put this together on my own, and it wasn’t until my wife led me to the truth about this that I found out how wrong I was!
During the times when we abstain from sex, we spend more time focusing on loving eachother in other ways. Lots of foot rubs and back massages, trips to the movies and “date nights”, we play board games and go to the book store together. NFP has brought the grace of God into our marriage, and has really opened my eyes to what God wants from us.
The more you look into this, the more you’ll see how biblical a teaching this is.
Just to brag - my wife and I are expecting our first child (boy) in about a month. I couldn’t be happier!
God bless,
RyanL
There’s also a link for the pill and many other chastity related issues
