Blue jeans to sunday mass if its all you have

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I live in a collge dorm with washers and dryers that cost a dollar a load i do not have enough clothes to justify 2 dollars to wash and dry my khaki pants. I wore jeans to mass today Friday daily mass and most everyone else did to. Will i bet Looked down upon for wearing jeans to sunday mass. :confused: Please help and God bless you all.
 
taylormcbee said:
I live in a collge dorm with washers and dryers that cost a dollar a load i do not have enough clothes to justify 2 dollars to wash and dry my khaki pants. I wore jeans to mass today Friday daily mass and most everyone else did to. Will i bet Looked down upon for wearing jeans to sunday mass. :confused: Please help and God bless you all.
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If you are going to Mass at a college, in all likelihood you will look overdressed if you’re in more than sweat pants and a hoodie. 🙂
 
MarkThompson said:
If you are going to Mass at a college, in all likelihood you will look overdressed if you’re in more than sweat pants and a hoodie. 🙂
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It is not technically in a college but it is in a town with 2 colleges in it . one community college which a dorm and one with a 4 year college:)
 
If you’re washed and dressed, the important thing is that you’re going to mass. Keep your head up and be proud that you’re living your life with conviction. What you wear is secondary.
 
im 57y/o, and wear (dark blue) jeans to a TLM Solemn High Mass every Sunday. Havent been kicked out yet. 🤷
 
You should come to our teen Mass …there´s almost nothing else but clean and tidy…jeans! It´s ok:)
 
Blue jeans (denim) is essentially what Americans wear.

I wear flip flops any time the weather is warm enough and well beat tennis shoes when it’s very cold. Contrary to what many on CAF might proclaim, no one has ever complained to me, to the priest (let alone the bishop), or my superior.
 
It’s interesting but growing-up, blue jeans were specifically forbidden at school dances and other school events. They were forbidden at some public events too as well as some private businesses such a restaurants yet they were commonly worn other places as they are today.

While I live in blue jeans and shorts outside of work, I wouldn’t wear either to Mass – although I think blue jeans are fine if that’s the best you have. I also don’t embrace the Ozzie & Harriet idea of a suit and tie for Mass, largely because I have an understanding of the origin of the sack suit…
 
Just go to Mass and be reverently attentive to the Mass. As long as you’re clothed, it really doesn’t matter what you wear. If a pair of jeans is the best thing available, wear them. I’ve seen plenty of jeans at Mass, and have even worn them myself sometimes. The church hasn’t fallen down!
 
Kevin812 said:
Blue jeans (denim) is essentially what Americans wear.

I wear flip flops any time the weather is warm enough and well beat tennis shoes when it’s very cold. Contrary to what many on CAF might proclaim, no one has ever complained to me, to the priest (let alone the bishop), or my superior.
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I can see this is going to be a big modesty thread.

Beat tennis shoes? If that’s all you have, okay.

If it’s not, then you have some things to think about.
taylormcbee said:
I live in a collge dorm with washers and dryers that cost a dollar a load i do not have enough clothes to justify 2 dollars to wash and dry my khaki pants. I wore jeans to mass today Friday daily mass and most everyone else did to. Will i bet Looked down upon for wearing jeans to sunday mass. :confused: Please help and God bless you all.
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Looked down upon by whom? If everyone wore Jeans to the mass you went to, then none of them would be looking down on you. If you cannot make it to mass, unless you wear your jeans, then the obvious answer is that mass is more important.

If I go to mass on Friday dress down day, I am often wearing jeans with a long top for modesty.

However, since I do have clothes in my closet that are not jeans, on Sundays, I will wear those.

I think a nice rule of thumb is that if you can dress a little better than do so. If you can’t then God knows your hearts and intentions.
 
Contrary to the coat and tie recommendations of my parishe the best that I have is chinos and a casual shirt; if jeans are the best you have, wear them but by all means go to Mass. If the priest or anyone else says anything just smile at them and walk away, drives them crazy.
 
I would suggest that you look for a Mass and/or a parish that is casual in dress. If you happen to show up at a Mass with very formally dressed parishioners, you are going to look out of place and you might feel uncomfortable. I would pray that the parishioners would not look askance at you, but I have had that experience, so I think it’s possible. One of my parishes is run by a pastor who is “come one, come all” in his outlook. Almost all of the Masses are quite casual, especially the vigil Mass on Saturday evening. The 11 a.m. Sunday tends to be the most formal, as we have quite a few African American families who attend then, and they always dress up and set a high standard. 🙂

I suspect if you are in a college town, the dress code is quite casual if the church is near the college(s). My son regularly wears jeans and a polo shirt to Mass in his very large college parish.
 
No. You probably won’t get noticed in the slightest.

Fr. Benedict Groeschel mentioned in one of his talks that poor people wear their best to church, middle class look like they’re going to the beach, and wealthy people dress like they just got back from the beach! And it seems to me it’s true. Clean tasteful jeans - not down around your knees, not so tight they look painted on - and a shirt with a collar (or at least a T-shirt with no vulgar saying on it) will probably make you slightly overdressed.

It’s actually pretty funny. There’s an EMHC at our usual Mass who wears a mantilla. And usually a very dark skirt or dress, almost nun-like. One day my wife said something like “They must be enforcing a dress code for the EMHCs now” and I mentioned the woman in the mantilla. She said, “What woman in a mantilla? I haven’t seen any women wearing mantillas.” “She’s standing up there in front of us every Sunday! How could you miss her?” So the next Sunday she looked for her (not hard, she stood 10 feet away) and said, “I never noticed she was wearing a mantilla before.”

No one will care if you wear jeans.
 
TrueLight said:
I can see this is going to be a big modesty thread.

Beat tennis shoes? If that’s all you have, okay.

If it’s not, then you have some things to think about…
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What other things should I be thinking about?

For one, I try to not be overly judgmental and frankly, I don’t have the time or concern to go exploring other’s closets or question people on their choice of clothing. Threads on this topic makes me want to shout that the clothing issue is NOT relevant to Lord. If it’s a cross to carry for the well dressed, then blessed are they that that’s all they have to suffer for, but maybe they should try suffering in silence.
 
As a practical matter, I’ve had luck taking clothes into the shower with me when I was in the dorms. Take your pants into the shower on friday, rub a bit of detergent on them and rinse, then leave them out on top of a towel through saturday. It’s not perfect (they will need to go into the regular wash), but it usually freshens them up enough to be presentable.
 
If all you own are nice looking jeans that are: clean/neat/not tight/not super baggy, then wear them to Mass with a clean yet modest & decent top. If you own a pair of dress pants or khakis in addition to jeans, then in my opinion wear one of those types before wearing jeans to Mass.
 
Blue jeans are okay for attending mass at our parish, Father doesnt like the lectors or Extraordinary Ministers of Holy Communion to wear em while serving. and Heaven help the altar server wearing flip flops.
 
Bob_Aliano said:
Contrary to the coat and tie recommendations of my parishe the best that I have is chinos and a casual shirt; if jeans are the best you have, wear them but by all means go to Mass. If the priest or anyone else says anything just smile at them and walk away, drives them crazy.
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Does your pastor really recommend this? I’m not sure how I would react if that was the actual recommendation of my pastor.

One can buy next to new: blazer, white shirt, tie, khakis and dress loafers for $20.00 at the local thrift shop. With some diligence almost anyone can accumulate $20.00 by skipping a meal or two, or possibly working an extra hour or two. So it wouldn’t be a matter of “the best I have” because that’s an excuse for the most part.

On the other hand I don’t know how I would react if my pastor actually tried to push coats/ties. Some of the ushers do at one of my parishes. They very same ushers that wear old grey pin-striped suit coats with maroon Dockers, a yellow dress shirt and a red tie.
 
Jegudiel said:
Does your pastor really recommend this? I’m not sure how I would react if that was the actual recommendation of my pastor.

One can buy next to new: blazer, white shirt, tie, khakis and dress loafers for $20.00 at the local thrift shop. With some diligence almost anyone can accumulate $20.00 by skipping a meal or two, or possibly working an extra hour or two. So it wouldn’t be a matter of “the best I have” because that’s an excuse for the most part.

On the other hand I don’t know how I would react if my pastor actually tried to push coats/ties. Some of the ushers do at one of my parishes. They very same ushers that wear old grey pin-striped suit coats with maroon Dockers, a yellow dress shirt and a red tie.
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I will just say you can buy those items ONLY if the thrift store happens to have your size…trust me, I know THIS from experience (self and kids!). This happens not only with unusual sizes (really small or large), but also with the common sizes. Heck, I’ve encountered those problems in regularly stocked stores. You may luck out and find something at Goodwill or the thrift store, but for most, it’s not as easy as popping in a couple times a week and getting what you are looking for. Been there, tried that!
 
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